what the heck is wrong with my son?

ZandersMama wrote: Zander is driving me batty! I dont know what on earth to do with him, he is sassy, lippy, bratty, grrrrrrrrrr! About a week ago I was fighting with him to put his playdough away, no way no how was he doing. So I told him if he didnt i would put it all in the garbage. He said fine, put it in the garbage then. So I took all of it, playdough, accessories, everything, into the garbage. Zero reaction. Today it was Mr. Potato Head . THe baby was getting up from his nap, he still puts things in his mouth so they have to be off the floor before he is out of bed. Zan was playing with them everyday for the last week at naptime. I told him to pick them up. No. Now Zander. NO. They will go in the garbage with the playdough. FIne, I dont care, i will put them in the garbage. He then picked up every piece and put it in the garbage. I dont know what on earth to do with this kid. No idea.


This is just this week. Last week I caught him peeing on the floor in his bedroom. When i asked him why he said he didnt know.

This kid is going to be the death of me.

momofone replied: I think we all have these rough patches.

TheOaf66 replied: wow did Tanner come to visit your house?

I have all of those issues as well. With the same answer "I dunno" ( I get the shrug)

when you come up with an answer let me know

I sympathize

DVFlyer replied: Be consistent.... just because there is no reaction now, doesn't mean it's not having an impact. Since you might want to play with the items at a later date, throwing them in the trash might not be the best option since - unless you really throw them away- they will surface later.

Perhaps try another punishment if he doesn't want to clean up- like sitting in a timeout, sitting in his room, no treat after dinner, no playing outside etc.

Again, you might not get the reaction you want, but consistency will pay off.

ZandersMama replied:
no go on time outs, he doesnt care, will sit and play with his fingernails if hes in time out and then get out and do the same thing. i have cut out treats, made him miss outings with his friends and grandparents......im just lost. and the toys were threw out. gone out of the house. im at the end of my rope.

HuskerMom replied:

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Oh gosh, I am so there with you!! I get the "I don't know" answer about everything. Wil also pees on the floor sometimes for no apparent reason. Wesley talks back to me when I ask him to pick up his toys. I threw out some of their toys today and it made no impact.

I have no advice...But I would love to hear from others!!

MoonMama replied:

CantWait replied: WOW it's nice to know I'm not the only one...sorry.

Anthony's 5 and I still have the same problems with him. Every punishment I give him, gets no reaction but tears, but the next day he's at it again. I don't know what to do either.

ZandersMama replied: pepsi all over my moniter this morning while i was making breakfast. im going to have to get medicated to get though this kid without jumping out my window.

lisar replied: I know how you feel. Lexi done the same thing to me. Let me know when someone figures out an answer

MommyToAshley replied: I wonder if it could be a jealousy thing? I know Ashley still is not thrilled when I hold another baby... even if it doesn't come home with us. Maybe he resents that he has to put his things away just because the baby is getting up, and the peeing on the floor is just him acting out of jealousy? Could you possibly set aside an area for him that is gated off from the baby? He is allowed to play with toys that would be dangerous to the baby only in this area. But, present it to him that this is his special area that the baby is not allowed. You could have him decorate it and call it Zander's castle. He would still be responsible for picking up his things, and putting them away when he is done, but he just doesn't have to do it just because the baby woke up. Just a thought.

On a side note, it could just be that age. There seems to be a lot of kids going through that stage right now, so you're not alone. Parenting isn't easy.

TheOaf66 replied: well at least we can be comfortable in knowing that it is people like us that keep the alcohol industry flowing

As long as there are young children, they will never see the effects of a poor economy

ZandersMama replied:
I just got word today that I have FINALLY been accepted for low income housing which is great in alot of ways, but the big one is Zander will have his own bedroom, hopefully that helps

ZandersMama replied:

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
That made me laugh!

Glad you got some good news today! Hang in there.

DVFlyer replied:
Obviously I'm not in your shoes so perhaps I'd react differently if I was, but from this distance, I can only guess that I would put his little butt in his room, timeout etc 500 times a day if needed.

If he was in a timeout and went right back to doing something wrong when he got out, he'd go right back in... for twice the amount of time. Every time would get longer until he "got it".

Have you tried sitting him down and talking t him like an adult? I don't remember reading how old he was... is he old enough to really talk to?

Where did he get a pepsi?

Congrats on the housing.