what do you do as a parent when....

mummy2girls wrote: your at a mcdonalds(playplace) or at a park or such and a kid picks on your kid? Do you say something or just let it slide? I was at mcdonalds the other day with jenna and my friend and her 4 year old litrtle boy(owen). Owen was playing in the play place and all of a sudden came up to us crying. His mom asked what was wrong and he said this little boy was pulling at the collar of his shirt which chocked hima bit. this same kids was bugging on little kids, and this one dad said to the kid stop doing that please. The mom of the kid that was bullying everyone said do you mind not telling my kid want he can or cant do. My friend didnt say anything when her son was picked on. what would you do? would you say something? and what would you do if a parent says something like that to your child?

im so not looking forawrd to confertations(sp?) like that.

ediep replied: I would say something....I can't believe that mom said would you mind not telling my kid what to do!!! If someone hurt my son, I would be so angry that I would have to say something to the little bully and his mom!!!

booey2 replied: I would definitely find the parent and say something and if I couldn't find the parent I would say something to the child.

amynicole21 replied: I would say something most likely... especially in that situation. Of course, I have a friend who's kid is so rough and a real pain in the butt (he's only 3). I've seen him really act dangerously with other kids, but have never said anything to her. So... I guess it really depends on the situation. Ultimately, I'm going to make sure my kid is safe and well protected, and if that requires telling off an irresponsible mom, so be it!

kit kat's mom replied: There was an article about just this subject in last months Parents magazine. " disiplining other peoples kids", and this precise situation was described. I'll try to find a link or summerize the article for you tomorrow.

maliksmommy replied: I would definately have to say something, I don't think I could just sit there and watch some other kid harrass my child. I would also say something to the mom. I am not very confrontational but when it comes to Malik I can be.

paradisemommy replied: i'm not one for confrontations. i think i am the type of person that would rather just walk away from the situation and chalk it up as a lesson learned but that was before having a child. i think if someone was to hurt my son, i would definitely have a word or two to say to the parent especially if they are doing nothing about it. that's just terrible parenting for ya.

CantWait replied: I would say something. If the parent isn't teaching them, someone has too.

A&A'smommy replied: I would have said something to the parents!!! You dont take your kid somewhere and let them beat up all the other children!!! GRRRRRRRR it makes me so mad when parents spoil their kids so bad that they just let them pick on other kids i dont have kids yet (6wks to go) but that topic really bothers me for some reason.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: When we are somewhere like that I usually watch Maddie like a hawk to make sure she isn't hurting someone or that someone isn't hurting her. I would probably not say anything, but just take Maddie and leave if the parent didn't correct their child. Or I might tell the child "We don't hit, bite, etc...let's keep our hands to ourselves please" that way the parent doesn't think it is directed so much at their child in a rude manner. Most of the parents of children who behave this way aren't even watching their children so they don't know who you are talking to nor do they care. DH always goes up to them real close and acts like he is talking to Maddie and says something to the other child so there really are no confrontations with the parent. BUT watch out for older siblings!!!!

MomofTay&Sam replied: I am not one for conflict, but when someone is being a bully to my child I say something. It's almost like something kicks in and you have no choice but to protect. My oldest is 11 and now I have to stand back and let him figure it out, but if someone gets ugly than I step in. My son has many issues but I raised him NOT to be a bully. (did something right) LOL

CantWait replied:
That's a really good way of putting it

MommyToAshley replied:
I would like to think that I would be that tactful, but when it comes to Ashley, I am just not the same person. LOL

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I'm not for bullies, at all. If someone else's kid is puching Zach around at a parc or something, if within 3 seconds their parent doesn't tell them not to push kids around, I tell the child, loud enough for the parents to hear, that he/she shouldn't be pushing other children like that, it's not very nice.

If the other parent says "who are you to discipline my child?" or something like that, I reply:

"Well I noticed that you weren't paying attention to what your child was doing, and I don't want my child to be bullied by a child like yours, so I took it upon myself to teach your son/daughter a lesson in manners."

I konw that kids play, and I look at that aspect too. If they are playing around, and Zach gets pushed down because of play, fine, it happens, kids have to learn. But when it's some 3 year old who is just pushing Zach out of the way, or throwing sand at him, Mama Bear come out to play...and she plays rough.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

Now that Maddie is in preschool I'm positive there have been times that she is the "bully" even though I have taught her better. Some kids just have personality conflicts. If she gets bitten or hit or scratched at school I try and shrug it off b/c tomorrow it could be her doing the scratching. I don't want a parent being mean to me or Maddie b/c she is just a child and they feed off of each other's actions. But, Maddie is older than Ashley and when Maddie was her age...I was the same way. VERY PROTECTIVE. You have to be.

aspenblue1 replied: I would probably say something.