trouble in paradise.... - need HONEST opinions pls

kimberley wrote: ok, so we have been back on the wedding planning wagon for one day and have already come to an impasse what to do about the honeymoon. Jamie has never traveled anywhere and wants a week of fun in the sun just the two of us. i could ask the boys' grandmother to come up and stay with them so that is not a problem. but we have noone really to watch Jade. his parents and sister work and have a huge dog in the house so that is out of the question. the boys' grandmother is incompetant with babies. i could get my dad to do it but he has a diaper phobia lol.

so i thought maybe we could go with my dad and his gf and the kids somewhere warm. they could watch the kids for the first couple of days so we can have time alone (btw the resort has activities for the boys from 9am-6pm) then it is a family trip the rest of the time. i know it is a bit of a sacrifice but to me that is just part of being a parent. finding a happy compromise. then i thought maybe we could just go for 4 days instead and it would just be the 2 of us. what would you all do?

edited to say we plan on doing the ceremony and honeymoon aug 2005 so Jade will be almost 2yo by then.

TIA,

aspenblue1 replied: That is a hard one I would probably just go for the 4 days just the 2 of you but it would also be nice to have a couple days alone then spend the rest with your family.

mckayleesmom replied: That sounds like a good plan. The boys would enjoy it too and you will still get some alone time.

paradisemommy replied: i agree with your plan. sometimes sacrifices have to be made for the babies sake and i think this is one of those times. i didn't leave taven alone until he was 14 months old and even then dh and i went to the neighbor island and i ended up cutting it short and we stayed 1 night away from him. he ended up doing wonderfully and i'm sure most of it was in my head but i was still bf too which made it even more difficult.

sigh - sending some *calming and compromising* vibes your way...planning a wedding is kinda stressfull. hope you guys can take a big break, a deep breath and smile!!

booey2 replied: Hi, have you thought about Disney World, right now they have some special on where if you book by the end of January it is at par with the american dollar and I think you have to travel by the end of May. Check out their website, the resorts are great and they will even send you a planning guide with a dvd for free. I think they also have babysitting in some of the resorts and tons of activities beside the usual rides. Good luck planning.

paradisemommy replied: oops sorry...i didn't tell you which one.. i liked the idea of bringing your dad and his gf and taking 2 days to be alone then family vacation..

jem0622 replied: Part of me says Jade will be old enough that someone should be able to tend to her, and part of me agrees with your compromise. My DH and me had a week alone (it was only Nathan then) and I can't tell you how much I appreciated that time. Because this is the one time that you should just focus on yourselves. And if your SO feels that he should have you to himself b/c frankly he has to share you all of the other times...well, I don't blame him.

If you have to compromise, then compromise. Something is better than nothing. BUT...if you can go alone then I would go alone.

Julie

MommyToAshley replied: I think your compromise sounds great. This way you still get some alone time, but you also get some family time. I know this is going to sound aweful, but I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself being away from Ashley that long. And, I don't think DH would either. So, we would have to take her.

Good luck on your planning, let us know what you decide.

ediep replied: I think going as a family with your dad sounds great!! The kids will ahve so much fun!!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: That sounds great. I know it will be a sacrafice, but it should all work out in the end!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

That is how we are. TeeHee! We would talk about her so much that we would make ourselves sick missing her.

I think you should take the kiddos and that way they could have a little vacation too.

CantWait replied: Hey you never know, she might be potty trained by then. But seriously it really is a hard option, none of them sound that horrible to me. I like the idea of the activities for the boys if they have to go, but then you wouldn't be able to have those romantic dinners at night Even the 4 days sounds great. Good Luck on whatever you decide

coasterqueen replied: I think your compromise sounds just fine. Now with that said the closer you get to that time you might find it okay to leave her with someone, but for now I think your plan works

jen replied: The compromise works! But I think you should have more alone time with DH. Just my opinion, maybe you could send your dad to Diaper Boot CaMP!! LOL!!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: I think the idea of the compromise is good. This way you can do both have the time you need you you and then have a family vacation. best of luck and let us know how it goes!

kimberley replied:

precisely why i want to bring them lol

thank you all for your advice and thoughts. i will let you know what we decide. we still have a while yet to figure it out but i think we are now leaning towards a fanily trip before the honeymoon and the 4 day honeymoon.

DansMom replied: I vote for the family vacation too---with some babysitting help. If it were the older boys I wouldn't worry so much, but with the little one, I have a feeling you'll want her nearby. Good luck deciding!