something i have always considered

jolene555 wrote: i really love being a mother. i love every part of it, even pregnancy. at times i long to be pregnant again. we know we can't afford any more babies right now, nor do we want to have them so close together. i have been considering being a surrogate for a good friend of ours. i was just looking for some feedback.

amynicole21 replied: I think I could only do it for my sister. We had a thread about this recently - it's a really generous thing to do, I just get far too attached to be able to give a baby to someone and not be able to watch it grown up

booey2 replied: I would definitely do it. I love being pg and feel bad for those that can't do it. My babysitter only has one boy and really really wanted more but it isn't gong to happen for them. They have miscarried twice and she is over 40 and knows that time is not on her side. Now DH on the other hand is definitely against it, no way no how. Oh well. That's life.

kel replied: i take my hat off to the women who are strong enough to do it,personally i have nothing whatsoever against it,but it would not be something i would ever do.i just dont think id be able to give up a child who had grown inside of me,whether its biologically mine or not..

A&A'smommy replied: ITA with Kel I have HUGE respect for those who can do but I know I couldn't handle it! I would love that child as my own because it grew inside me and I would loose my mind when I couldn't take it home!

Boys r us replied: I voted, no.

I think it's a WONDERFUL act of generosity and kindness, but I could not bare giving the baby to it's rightful mommy and daddy when it was all said and done!

My2Beauties replied: I have a friend who has a serious heart condition that wants children and the doctors have not determined yet whether she will be able to carry a child to term, it might just be too much stress on her heart. I would seriously consider being a surrogate for her and her s/o when the time comes, depending upon my age and other demographics.

MomToMany replied: I would do it for a close friend or family member only. Yes, it would be incredibly hard to give them that baby, but to see their tears of joy and how much they wanted and waited for him/her, it would be worth it.

kit_kats_mom replied: I posted my story in another thread about this but I have thought about it in the past.

First when I was 18 & my 30 yo aunt found out she could not have kids after 3 years of trying. I discussed it with my mom who told me that they'd just made the decision to go to Tiwan and adopt. Their DD just turned 18

Second was more recently for a wonderful woman who I used to work with. She had health problems and one miscarrage then she had to have a liver transplant with means no kids ever. She will be a great mom & that's really all she's ever wanted. I mean she has spent her whole life getting ready for it. She babysat for decades, even has her kids college savings started (with a big ol' honking load of $$ in it too!). When she got the diagnosis & found out that she would never be a mom naturally, I almost offered since my first pregnancy went so well. However, her marriage was falling apart and I thought I'd not offer until that was straightend out. Well, in the meantime I got pregnant again and this pregnancy has been miserable so no, I will not willingly be pregnant again after this.

3xsthefun replied: I have to say honestly "NO"

I just think I'd get way to attached to the baby I would be carrying.

Lollie replied: truly admire ado offer to become surrogate mums but I would not emotionally be able to do it.I think I would become way to attached to the baby growing inside me for 9 months.

~CrazieMama~ replied: I voted yes. I love being a mom and would hate to see wonderful women out there who would make great mothers, not have children of their own. But of course, if they are having marrital problems, I would not do it..... no need in an innocent child going through something like that. But I would have no problem doing it.

mummy2girls replied: I would consider it! If i could have the chance to help a woman have a baby because they have tried for years with nothing but heartache. it would be hard to hand the baby over but in my heart i would know that that child is not mine. So many moms out there have m/c after m/c with no luck of having that precious gift in thier life. to give then that gift would be awesome!

irinam replied: I voted "no". I would not give up the child I carried.

On the different note - if I were in the situation were I could not have kids, I would consider adopting - there are so many unfortunate kids without mothers.

I don't know what I would feel if I knew a birth mother who birthed my child for me, kwim?

Please, don't get me wrong - not in any way I am disrespecting other points of view. I am just expressing mine.

Josie83 replied: I agree with others, its a fantastic thing to do for somone, but I don't think I'd be able to do it. It would be a very difficult situation to be put in. But i thin it is hard to make a judgment about something like this that you haven't experienced, for example if my little sister couldn't have a baby, then maybe? But I definitely couldn't do it if the baby was part mine . . . only if the baby was 100% someone else's (if that makes sense). xx

McKayla'sMom replied: Hi. I am a new member here and I'd have to say no for myself because I would definitely get too attatched to the baby. I think it's wonderful though that there are people out there who would do it. Plus, I had so much trouble with my first delivery that I am scared to even have another baby.

Elle replied: I would definitely do it for my sister or one of my best friends.

3_call_me_mama replied: While I truly admire the women who can and fdo I'd never be able to. Granted I'm saying this when I am almost 39 weeks pregnant, but I am very ready for this baby to be born and am tired of being pregnant. While it is a great you most of the 9 months I am exhausted and am thinking the only reason that I have made it this far without going nuts is because I kno w there si going to be a beautiful sweet little baby to take home with me soon, after several hours of grueling labor (i'm sure!). If I wasn't getting that reward for my hard work the last nine months I don't think I'd be able to last any longer.

Mom2Boyz replied: I voted NO!! There is no way I could carry a child for 9 months and not take that child home with me and raise him/her. I think it's great that there are women out there who have done this or would do it, but it's just not for me. I KNOW that regardless of the situation, I would bond with that child like s/he was my own, and I would not be able to give them up.