so very weirded out - but happy at the same time

beckamouse wrote: my mom, who has been dating the same guy since i was 12 or 13 or something, has finally decided to get married.
thats the happy part, thats not the weird part.

the weird part is:


she plans on having another baby in a year or so...
WHICH MEANS maggie j will be older than her aunt or uncle and i'll have a brother or sister younger than my daughter....






ok sorry...just found this out.....so i'm still not quite sure how to process all i've just been told.

bwalkerletters replied: Wow! How old is your mother?? That would definitely be a weird situation!

beckamouse replied: she's around 45-46...

bwalkerletters replied: Wow! I would think it would be tough for her to get pregnant, but it COULD happen! All you can do is support her, like she would you!

JAYMESMOM replied: I could not imagine having a child at 45.

Good Luck being a Big Sis.

mummy2girls replied: wow that is wierd...LOL. but seriously just support you as she would you

mom21kid2dogs replied: That would be strange, wouldn't it?
Not sure it's likely to happen though, especially if she waits another year. Fertility rates at 46-47 are practically non exisitant!

mammag replied: Yeah, if she is planning to have one I'm surprised she wouldn't start now to make it that little bit easier.

Well, there's not much you can do but be supportive as it's her life. I would feel wierd too though.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Ok, my cousin Donna has a baby who is 2 and she is 46!

She says it is the hardest thing she has ever done. She has 2 children her oldest being 22 and the baby being 2.

She married a man 12 years younger who wanted a child. But to be honest. She doesn't cope well. She tries really hard. But her energy level is not what it used to be. And he is not an easy child. He is 2 and still wakes up at night. He is the one I talk about being so big. 2 years old and around 58-60 lbs. His feet are the same size as Tanner and that is size 2 in kids. His size is a factor b/c she can't carry him anywhere. And when he throws a fit and goes limp.. You havet to get a crane..and you really hope the melt down isn't at Wal Mart. I think she has gotten where she gets a baby sitter to go to the store for that reason.

I think there is good and bad w/late life babies. Finacially you are usually better off..but phyisically I am not sure. Good and Bad there.

Good Luck to your mother!

And Congrats to you on a NEW STEPDAD.

Mel

gr33n3y3z replied: I agree
Nothing you can do but support her when she needs it
But everyone has to look at it this way
More and more woman are having children at an older age bc they of job reasons.

mom21kid2dogs replied:
JMO, but I don't think age really has much correlation with a person's ability to cope with parenthood. I know great and poor parents in every stage of life. It likely has more to do with a person's overall situation more than anything. I had Olivia at 41 (my only child) and can't imagine parenting at a different age although I know I would have been a different parent then as opposed to now. My energy doesn't seem any less (sometimes more) than my sister 14 years my junior, my marriage is stable and time tested, I have a helpful, involved husband and the financial security to leave a job until she is in school full time. For me it was the best thing that ever happened!

~KARA~ replied: My biologocal granparents had a child after I was born.
I have an uncle that is 5 years younger than me!!

kimberley replied:
ITA with you. i know a lot of young parents who are not coping well at all with parenting. their marriages are failing, their financial situation sucks, and the level of depression is high because they still want their freedom to socialize in their peer groups. as you get older, most of those things are a non-issue.

as for energy, that totally depends on the person. to be honest with you, most of the hardest workers i know are over 40yo. they grew up with a solid work ethic where taking care of your house, your husband and your children was your priority in life. i find a lot of today's 20-30something generation (in NA anyway) are lacking in those values. jmo.

i wish your mom the best of luck TTC. i know it seems weird to you, but try to be happy for her sake

A&A'smommy replied: WOW well Congratulations to her!!!

and good luck to your mom with the baby making!

DansMom replied: Well, it WAS hard for me physically to be an older mom. My energy level is lower than it was 10 years ago, I developed diabetes, etc. But ITA that it's an individual thing. I'm also a lot more patient and planful now. I don't think I would have been as conscious of my parenting choices back then, and would have reacted more than guided. There are advantages to being an older parent in that regard, at least in my case.

My best friend in HS was the youngest of 9 children and so was the same age as two of her aunts (babies of her mom's oldest child). They grew up together more like cousins. You get used to it I think. I would be weirded out too, though, if it were my mom making that choice.

My2Beauties replied: Desiree (Brian's 9 year old) is older than her uncle Kenny (Brian's brother, who is 8) Only by 1 year but they play together all the time and have the best time! To be honest it's just another playmate for your child and it would also be your sibling, I mean yeah it seems weird but look at it as a blessing! If your mom wants a child then hooray for her!

Pic of Desiree and Kenny and Hanna, look how much bigger Desiree is then him:

Oh and BTW, please please excuse my messy bedroom!!

jillian4me replied: Something funny on that note- My father gets in a room with my daughter who is 17 my cousin who is 16 and his daughter who is 15 and he is dad grampa and uncle all at the same time.- to the same aged kids-
My mother is 53 and has 2 great grandchildren i dont mean outstanding great I mean shes a greatgrandma! My youngest child is 3 and my grandson is 2.- Wow what a reunion this will be!we have 2 five generation families right now, mine and my sisters- my grandmother was just married 2 yrs ago or so-shes a great great- so dont ever say your too old huh?
shay