so mad - at dh!

beckamouse wrote: this week has just been so...crap! first i get sick. i've got a real bad cold that gives me just enough energy to walk fromthe bedroom to the couch and occationally to the bathroom or the kitchen or to pick maggie j up and take care of her. When i was feeling my worst on tuesday, DH called and wanted to check on how I was doing which was sweet. I told him i felt awful and when he got hom there would be a couple bottles waiting for him so he could put maggie j to bed because i wanted to get to bed early. His answer almost got him a swift kick in the a$$ "No I plan on going to bed early. I'm tired!" I yelled at him saying i didnt wanna hear it from him because I'm the only one getting out of bed to take care of maggie j.


The next day, still sick and feeling horrible, he calls not to see how i'm doing and tells me laundry needs to be done because he's out of underwear. I tell him its hard to do laundry when the machine is in another building because then I'd have to lug maggie j with me along with a full basket of clothes and the detergent. Trying to do that while I'm sick just isnt going to happen. He says fine. But then when he gets home "Wheres the underwear i instructed you to do?" I had to remind him of the conversation while at the same time handing him the quarters, the basket of laundry and the detergent saying "You know where the machine is. You know how to do laundry. Have fun"


while he was gone i pulled out the couch bed, took maggie into my room with me and locked the bedroom door. He didnt like that all that much but i didnt care. I was tired and not feeling good and i didnt wanna be near him


I know he works from 8 to 8 at his national guard recruiting job so i dont really mind the not being helped at night so much, but, a few weeks ago i fell and fractured my ankle. Did he help me then? No. I have a cold and feel like crap and when i get up to get maggie at night I can barely stand up, I almost fall over from being so tired and dizzy. I tell him this and ask him to get maggie so i can get some sleep. "I have to work! I dont wanna be tired at work!" *dude, you sit at a desk all day making phonecalls and occationally going to high schools where you set up a table and SIT DOWN waiting for people to come up to you!*



i'm just really annoyed today because maggie had a rough night sleeping and when he woke up this morning i asked him to please not give maggie a goodbye kiss this morning because it wakes her up. Just say goodbye you'll see her later. I'd really like a little bit extra sleep to help me battle this cold.
He gives her the kiss, it wakes her up. She hears the apartment door slam and wakes up screaming. It was definitly the last straw.
That was around 6:00 AM this morning its now 9:44. She's still awake and I'm in a real bad mood so please for give the rant

mommy2owen replied: I am so sorry you are sick and having to do everything! Hope Maggie gets to sleep soon so you can get your rest.

Hope you feel better soon!

JAYMESMOM replied: You have a right to rant. I am sorry you are feeling so yucky. You defintely need to get more fluids in you if you are feeling dizzy - your electrolytes are probably off balance. Do you have a friend you can call or anyone to watch MaggieJ for a few hours so you can nap?

Men just don't get the stay at home thing. They think its a break. LOL!!!

HOpe you feel better soon!!!!!!!!!

My2Beauties replied: Men just don't seem to understand do they? I'm sorry hun, plenty of hugs coming you way! Go ahead and rant and rave, that is what we are here for, I hope you start to feel better soon!

mammag replied: Sorry you are sick and dh isn't helping out. I know that must be really upsetting! Just try to rest as much as you can and if he wants anything done, he can do it himself!!! Moms are entitled to sick days too.

bwalkerletters replied: Sorry you're having a terrible time with your cold. I totally understand your fractured ankle deal, since I broke mine early on in February, had surgery on it, and just YESTERDAY got released to go back to work full time. He should be helping you out more............hope everything gets better for you!

mom21kid2dogs replied: Colds are the worst!! Hope you feel better soon.

The thing I miss most about my paying job is sick leave! You sure don't get this in a SAHP benefit package!!

kimberley replied: aww sorry you are having a rough time. men can be dumb sometimes . hope you get a nap and your day goes better

bwalkerletters replied: so can women, kimberley! haha

kimberley replied:
yes that can be true, but not in this case

bwalkerletters replied: Oh I know, becka's got my support 100% in THIS case

A&A'smommy replied: UGH well that sucks!! I can't believe he was SO mean about it... ((((HUGS)))) I hope you get some rest tonight!

gr33n3y3z replied: I hope your feeling better

redchief replied:
You MADE the PULLOUT bed for him. That's funny, I'm sorry!!!

That sux big time. I'd like to say I've never been rude or demanding of gr33n3y3z when she was sick, but that would be a self-indulgent lie. I once again apologize for all those times I was an a$$, hon.

beckamouse replied:
it was either that or sleep in the car i was so mad. but it was cold last night

beckamouse replied:
rhank you i appreciate that.