skinny comments..... - venting sorry

six_kids_at_28 wrote: It drives me nuts!!! I just have been small my whole life ( 5'7" and 120 lbs) and people see me with all my kids and they think, there's no way she can be that small with that many kids and talk about me and they think I cant hear! Yesterday I had the triplets and the girls and there were 2 ladies on the bench. They asked me if they were all mine, I said yes and that I had another son at home as well. I went back to fixing Ashley's hat and they started *whispering yeah right lol* she must be anorexic...what has our society come to.....OMG I quickly turned around said good bye and walked as fast as I could away from them...also when I'm clothes shopping I take my size (like a 0, 1, or 2) and some of the other ladies in the store look at me and say "do you try to be that thin" one lady even told me "you know dear, that could be unhealthy" UGHHHH I am healthy, my doctor says I am healthy, and I dont do diets or anything, I just am naturally small since birth...So sorry just really needed to ven Thanks for listening

MomToMany replied: Wish I had your problem!

PrairieMom replied: Part of the problem is that our view of what is over weight is so screwed up. My ideal body weight is 130. so, technically at 5 foot 4, and 35 pounds I am over weight! good grief!
I say, be comfortable in your body, and ignore all those people. Some people just don't know when to keep their mouths closed!

luvbug00 replied: I'm very patiete too . 105 @ 4'11 I know exactly what you mean!!! except people think i'm like 12 or somthing. No worries they just are jelous of you!!

redchief replied:
My guess is her detractors also wished they had her problem, which is the likely cause of their cattiness.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I can't believe the audacity of some people. I would never say such a thing to someone. However, I've heard some old ladies say some pretty rude things in my time, but a young person should know better.

My cousin is very small short and thin. She cannot gain weight and she has some disease that makes her really thin (sorry, can't think of what it is). She does get comments like "Are those your kids? You look like you are 12!" I'm serious...everywhere we go people make comments. Yep, they're her kids and she's married and she is not 12...she is 28!

six_kids_at_28 replied: Thanks everyone for listening to me vent and thanks for the many kisses lol

ammommy replied: I know it's frustrating to hear any comments, so try to ignore them.

That said, however, I can understand why the lady said that it could be unhealthy. At 5'7" and a size 0 you must look extremely thin. She was probably concerned about anorexia. Now, why a total stranger said anything to you is beyond me, but she probably thought that she was helping. As long as you and your doc think that you are healthy and you eat well, try to let it roll off of your back.

My2Beauties replied: I get those comments, I'm 5'4" and weigh 105 (with clothes on) I'm really petite. I have been that way my whole life, I have tried drinking weight gaining shakes and everything but nothing works, I just have a high metabolism, everyone in my family is small, I mean everyone. It's just in my genes, I had the anorexic bit all through high school and I would come home crying, really I'm so short and I have a decent size butt and I'm proportional that I don't look really ultra skinny I wear between a 3 to a 5 but people just make comments. They're like oh do you throw up after you eat or something - um gee no I don't jerk - thanks for asking! It really does hurt. Just like society shuns women for being overweight, they shun them for being underweight. It's like all women's magazines have these horrible articles about anorexia, bulimia, and how awful it is to be toothpick thin, but the model on the next page is 5'11" and weighs 90 pounds And they give me the "oh honey that isn't your kid is it?" I'm like yeah gave birth to her would you like details!!! They're like you're too skinny to have had a daughter - huh?

six_kids_at_28 replied: you're just like me!!! yeah!! someone else with the same prob!! lol

mom21kid2dogs replied: My best friend is 5'2" and weighs 90lbs on a good day. She can wear kids size 12 or adult 0/1. Because I shop with her, I can thank my lucky stars that I can buy a rack size 14petite and never try it on and know it will fit fine. She'll never have that luxury. Nothing ever fits her properly, she has to alter everything~it's a total pain. I always laugh at the people who ask me on the QT(and I get this at least once a month) if she's anorexic or bullemic. The woman eats 3X as much as I do. She has a metabolism, I don't. I've been overweight a good part of my life and I can say with complete confidence that being too thin is the same cross, different size

Mommy2BAK replied: wow, you and I are the exact same size, 5'7 120lbs.

I wouldn't worry about it, atleast it's not the opposite, just try to take it with a grain of salt, I think it's awsome that you are that small with children. Good for you!

six_kids_at_28 replied: Hey! LOL

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I somewhat know how you feel. I won't go into sizes, but I had lost all of my PG weight (and then some) pretty fast and I had several rude comments about how people couldn't believe I just had a baby. A compliment is one thing, but rude stares or comments towards having an eating disorder are plain hurtful. I admit to being someone who has commented on how great someone looks after having a baby, but I find it irrelevant to focus on anyone's weight. It's just a stupid number. I'm sorry those women were rude to you. I went to a mother's pool party several months ago and I can honestly say I felt quite the outcast. I kept trying to talk to some of the moms and they would look me over like I was dirt. Maybe people don't like my personality, but I sometimes feel that I'm shunned for being thinner than most in the group. I hope that doesn't come off as conceited, but there are definitely prejudices against being thin as there are about being overweight. As long as you are at a healthy weight, which is where I'm at, then who cares what anyone says.

lisar replied: I know what you mean. I am 5'6" and weigh in at 106 and had a kid 3mths ago. But I dont look to skinny. I did before kids though....