sheer frustration - sorry - it's a long one

jolene555 wrote: i am so very upset right now . . . so i thought i would vent here.

first, i don't know how many of you feel this way, but i detest my fiance's family. i feel awful for thinking the things i do, but they have got to be the biggest bunch of redneck white trash hipocritical idiotic ignorant a**holes i know. sorry, did i mention i was upset. let me give you some backround:

barry is an only child. his mother had him when she was 17 (i have no problem with this part - accidents happen), but the reason she got pregnant is so she could get out of foster care. you see, her parents lost custody of their 4 daughters due to the father's prostitution ring and mother's lack of desire to keep them. so she has him and within a month of giving birth is a heroin addict. she gives him up to barry's father's family until she "gets clean". she dosen't see him for nearly a year. she does take him back at that time.
she ends up marrying a man by the name of bruce when barry is 4 or so. bruce happens to be the biggest drug dealer in madison county, so barry grew up in a home where guns were kept in every room and his parent were constantly high. he tells me that he couldn't ever have friends over because his mom and bruce would always walk around naked. he would go see his dad's family every once in a while, where he admits he was abused.
somehow she manages to get her masters - in social work of all things! she puts him through good schools (all paid for with drug money) and so she does some good things along the way.
fast forward some years: she is now married to 2 men. no we do not live in utah. she has 2 men living with her, and she is married to both, collecting benefits from each. she is in constant contact with her family, especially her mother (who didn't even want to keep her children years ago).
when georgia was born, they did not come to see her. after all, i am the she-bi**h that is taking her only son away. after seeing photos she told barry that she would pay to have a paternity test done because she thought that georgia looked half black (which i would not have a problem with, but look at that girl - she is pale as a ghost!). she said she wouldn't trust "someone like (me)". grrr. georgia is 9 months old, now, and she has seen barry's mom 3 times. not one of these times did she ever get any attention from the woman. on top of that, all throughout my pregnancy they made me go outside while they smoked, and continued to smoke around georgia - they even tried to light up in my own house!

so now . . .

we go over there for his mom's birthday. her mother is there (who is morbidly obese, by the way), as well as the 2 husbands. barry's grandma starts telling me everything wrong with georgia. "she's too fat. she walking yet? she isn't making any sounds. she's gonna be a dumb one, huh? why look - she's got ni**er eyes." i nearly punched her. asked me if i ever feed georgia hot dogs. when i said "yeah, sometimes" she replied that i might as well kill her now because i am feeding her "1 of the top 5 chocking foods for children under 5". i was unable to speak at this point. the entire family continued to lay into me about how i was doing such a bad job raising her. i could have killed.

barry says he would like to cut them all out of our lives - i cannot wait!!!


so tell me - are they messed up or what?

jolene555 replied: oh, and i forgot to mention that his morbidly obese grandma told me that i need to go on a diet, and that his mom said that if i don't start taking care of her granddaughter (no, i don't know when she finally decided to claim georgia) that she would consider filing for custody.

look at her! does she look like she is being neglected in any way!

kimberley replied: omg! i am so sorry you had to deal with all of that! i think your df has the right idea cutting these people out of your lives! that kind of negativity and behaviour is toxic and Georgia is much better off not knowing them. your sweet little girl is very beautiful and healthy looking... not to mention very pale! i don't see any african american features in her at all. even if she did, so what? you and df know who's daughter she is and that is all that matters. i know they are technically family but just imagine what they will put your daughter through when she gets old enough to understand all the derogatory remarks. get rid of them!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: WOW that is awful! I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I'm glad your DH didn't turn out like them! Try to have as little contact with them as possible!

due_any_day replied: i like the idea of no contact better. that family is completely F***ed Up except your DH. I think he has the right idea. And if they give you crap about it, who cares.


they sound exactly as you described them. redneck white trash hipocritical idiotic ignorant a**holes

amynicole21 replied: Holy cr@p! That is Jerry Springer in real life Cut them out of your life... what good are they doing either one of you? They aren't worth the aggrevation.

jolene555 replied: isn't it unreal? i told barry that he should come with a warning "caution: i was raised by inbreds". frankly, it scares me that i will be the only member of our family that does not carry these genes.

mama3x replied: At least those genes are diluted by your good ones and the good that is apparently in your other half's!

I agree with cutting them all out of your lives. Your priority is to protect your little one and yourself so to heck with them. You don't need poison in your lives.

I am waiting for my DH to suggest we cut off his mother from our lives.

Good luck to you and take care!

Boys r us replied: OMG HONEY! You do not need people in your life like that!! NEither does your beautiful little girl!
If barry would like to continue a relationship with his mother, it is not your place to intervene and prevent that, however, he can go visit her ALONE! I don't know how you didn't smack the SH*T out of either one of them!

My2Beauties replied: OMG (((HUGS))) to you for having to deal with those bunch of flippin' idiots. You poor thing that really makes me angry that they said those awful things to you and your DD! Your DF has the right idea...cut them out of your lives completely! I can't believe he was raised by such dumba$$e$!! It would have taken everything I had to not knock his mother's teeth down her throat!

DansMom replied: Hey, if DF is willing to cut them off, I would require no further encouragement. They are clearly toxic---awful, uggh.

Sunflower04 replied: Wow. I am sorry that you even have to deal with a problem like this. You are so better off with your daughter not knowing any of them. I hope that you can cut them off and raise your kids the way you feel they should be raised. I understand that parents can be judgemental about things- I know my mom is- but your DH's family is just rude. Keep your chin up.

A&A'smommy replied: OMG personally I would NEVER let them be around my baby I wouldn't have even gone over there I couldn't handle it!! Those people are CRAZY and should be stuck in a home or something!!! BTW Georgia is BEAUTIFUL and she is NOT dumb and not ever going to be dumb!!! (((((BIG HUGS)))))) for having to put up with those crazy people