sahm question

sunrosejenn wrote: if the man if your life said he'd love for you to be a sahm and you could afford to do so....would you?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Not me personally. We could definately afford for me to be a SAHM. It is soley my choice to work. I do have a wonderful schedule that allows me to be off work every other week, I work 7 days then have 7 days off. However, I just don't think I have it in me to be a full time SAHM. By the end of my 7 days off I am ready to go back to work. I need to have that stimulation I get from my job. It's mentally challenging in a way that Logan just isn't. I also love what I do and would feel very badly about paying off my student loans with money I never earned in a job.

Miranda1127 replied: if you could afford it than you should try it. maybe just for the summer and see how it goes. i love it and never thought i would. but it's not for everyone so take it for a test drive, see if you can get a personal leave or something from work and see how it goes.

good luck

stella6979 replied: I honestly don't think I could do it. I wouldn't mind working part-time, but there's no way I could be home all day, everyday, with the kids. For the Moms who can do it....I give you all the credit in the world.

grapfruit replied: I think I'd have to volunteer or have some sort of project or something....I'd have to have that adult contact.

my2girls replied: I've been a SAHM for 11 years now.
On top of that I also homeschool my 2 dd's so I am with them 24/7. I wouldn't change a thing and my DH loves that I am home too.
At the begin of our marriage we couldn't afford for me to stay home( my DH was making $13,000 that 1st year w/ new wife and baby) but we worked it out. Now we make alot more but less than what most people think (given my DH's postition in the company ) and we live in a high expense area (Las Vegas) but we make it work.
I say go for it!!

lovemy2 replied: Nope not for me either - I work part time and its a great balance!!!!

All the kudos to those who do it....

Miranda1127 replied:
sahm's aren't restricted to babies 24/7. there are plenty of adult contact oppertunities. the only thing you get rid of is the job. it doesn't mean you are secluded from all adult contact, you just have to work it in kwim? volunteer work can add to the balance but it's a common misconception (sp?) that sahms are secluded and overtaken by babies. the reason i love it is b/c i have a lot more freedome. i do things my way, i have alot to do in the course of the day but i can do it how i see fit.

mom21kid2dogs replied: No question, I would! We cut our income by 48% when I quit work and it has been worth every moment and every dime. I'm getting ready to go back to work now that O is in school full time but if we could swing it I'd continue to be at home. I don't feel like I've missed a thing.

coasterqueen replied: I don't think I'd go straight to SAH, I'd slowly ease my way into it by going part-time then to SAH. But I'm not sure I, personally, could go to full-time SAH anymore. Although you get interaction with adults as a SAHM, I need that "energy" I get from my job.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I dont think I could be one, I need the stimulation from my job. I adore my daughter and would love to be part-time and make the same money, that would be the ideal thing for me.

coasterqueen replied:
Yes, I would have to make what I make now going to part-time. If I didn't we'd be in a world of trouble.

amymom replied: In a heartbeat!! Without question. They need you just as much (maybe more) as teens and preteens. We just can not swing it. But my new job will put me at the school and almost on the school schedule, so much better

Jackie012007 replied: that was my situation - I was a SAHM since Carly was born, we were making just enough to live on with no luxuries. But I recently took a job as a daycare assistant at a place where I can bring Carly - the extra income will be GREAT, we even set up a savings account for the baby. I love the mental stimulation too - I'm young (23) so I don't really have any other Mommy friends, so I get pretty lonely being home with the baby all day!

i think it comes down to a personal choice and what makes you happy and what you are comfortable with!

mummy2girls replied: I am a wahm and i love it! I think i will always have my dayhome no matter if im married or not...

C&K*s Mommie replied: I was a f/t sahm for over 3yrs, so my opinion is a little biased. But if I had to do it all over again, I would most definately choose to sah as opposed to working for the first few years of our children's lives. I would enjoy working p/t, developing a hobby or volunteering once the kids were in school full time.

luvbug00 replied: nope, i need other contact but my job already is really convient for havig a baby. i only work a few hours and make more then full time retail.

redplaydoh replied:
Yes, he did and I did, although we had to cut corners a lot but for our situation I think it was for the best.

luvmykids replied: I'm a SAHM who works at home sometimes for my DH...I could do without that aspect of it. There are good days and bad but I think thats just motherhood period Once in a while I wish I had a fun and exciting job to go to but in reality I don't think I'd have it any other way. I think I may go back to school when they're all in school but still want to keep it low key because I want to be able to go on field trips, pick them up myself, etc.

So to make a long answer short, yes, it's worth trying. Nobody says you can't go back to work if it's not for you.

HuskerMom replied: I've been looking for a job for a while now. But if we could afford for me to stay home permanently I definetly would. I love spending so much time with Keith and will not put him in daycare. Luckily when I do go back to work we won't have to. Mondays are the only days during the week that Dh works during the day and his aunt can watch Keith on those days. I would love to get a job and work at home.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Yes and no. I love working and having the opportunity to get out of the house and use my brain - but if we could afford it, I'd be working part time instead of full time.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
HELL YES! Sorry for the "french", but I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom, but we have never been able to afford it. I'm looking for a job at night starting in the fall though, so that is at least technically being a SAHM...I'll still just have to work. I do daycare now and I am technically at home, but it's just not the same when you have a bunch of other kids to deal with. My kids don't get the attention they deserve, IMO. If I didn't have to work, I could also volunteer at church more, which I'd really like to do. I'd love to be a SAHM and NOT have to work, personally...makes for more family time then.

CantWait replied: I stay at home now, and we can afford it, but I like my little extra money for doing what I want and spending on the kids, so I need to work at least part time, which is what I'm looking for now.

Calimama replied: I go to school but I'm a SAHM. Once I get my degree I'll work but for now I'm pretty happy. I get tons of "adult contact".

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I love being a sahm. It took some adjustment, but I can't imagine holding down a full time job and trying to raise kids at the same time. I think most of that is due to the fact that my DH works so much that it would be double time on me b/c he wouldn't be able to help at all.

There are days that I want to throw in the towel, but it has its rewards, too. Just with any job, I'm sure. When both kids are in school I would love to get a little job to set my own hours doing massage therapy or something. There are times when I really want my own money.

sunrosejenn replied: Thanks for sharing your feelings on this. This may be an option in the future. I'm dating a new guy and he wants his partner to be a sahm. I would so LOVE to be a sahm. We'll see if this relationship works out. I'll keep you updated.

Mommy2BAK replied: Heck yes I would!!!!!

kit_kats_mom replied: No question about it. I have the best of both worlds being a WAHM but there are times that I wish I didn't work. Mainly it's the evenings when DH and the girls are all cuddled on the couch watching movies and I want to be there with them. A big warm pile of family. Instead, I'm stuck at the computer working. If I didn't have my job, I'd surely do more outside activites like playgroups, swimming etc. Once both kids were in school, I'd volunteer at the school which I plan to do anyway. I think that public school can be good but the parents have to be involved. KWIM? After the baby phase is over, there is so much to keep you busy. For example, today, I spent 6 hours with the girls visiting potential pre-K schools. If I had a job, I wouldn't have been able to do that. I love being a SAHM for the nursing benefits too. I was able to really "BE" with the kids when they were tiny and that is so worthwhile IMO.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: You only live once, girl -- so I'd definitely try it ! Like others have said -- if you dont like it, at least you can say you tried.
Good luck !

boyohboyohboy replied: I have been a sahm for three years now. It was really hard at first and still some days I think I just cant do it...its hard work....but its been the best thing for the kids. I dont have to juggle work when it comes time for special school activities, and I can attend all the things that my son wants me too.
I do intend to go back part time or at least weekends at some point...but its definately made me rethink my entire career....

kimberley replied: in a NEW YORK MINUTE!!

gr33n3y3z replied: I was a SAHM with all my children Katie is now 13 so I started to Sub 7 years ago and started to work full time again 4 1/2 years ago

my2monkeyboys replied: I am a SAHM. We couldn't exactly afford it at first, but we're doing great now. I love it, though the first 6 months were less than perfect. It took a little getting used to.