question - for those who have had a m/c.... tmi

~Roo'sMama~ wrote: Did your bleeding go up and down a lot before you actually miscarried? I'm beginning to wonder if the bad cramps I had on sunday night were the real thing. I did lose one little clot after that but it was so small and then my bleeding was really light after that, then the next day it was heavier again. My doctor agreed that it didn't sound like enough to have been it - especially since when they did a pelvic exam in the ER my cervix was still closed. I've lost a couple little clots since then and have had mild cramps, and my bleeding keeps going from heavy to light and then heavy again. But now today I don't have any cramps and my bleeding is pretty light. I'm so confused - I hate the thought that I could have m/c without realizing it. I just don't know what to think.

jem0622 replied: I had spotting when I lost my DSs twin. It was not a lot. When I lost our second angel (loss occured around 14.5 wks but wasn't detected until 16 wks) I had old blood, then new blood. I never passed clots. I had a D&C the day after the bleeding began b/c I begged them to please get it done.

I would ask your OB/Gyn to do a follow up u/s to see if there is anything left. You do not want anything left in the uterus b/c you can get very sick! So you may end up with a D&C even if you wanted to avoid it. It may be for the best too if you plan to TTC in the future.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Thanks Julie. My OB did schedule a u/s for tuesday just in case nothing major has happened by then. I am willing to do a D&C if it's absolutely necessary - I don't want to end up with an infection.

Tuesday seems very far away. I hate not knowing.

5littleladies replied: I've told you this before but I'll write it out anyways. When I miscarried I was having minor, minor spotting. Had the ultrasound and found out the baby had died, and then had what you are having-Light bleeding, spotting, clots, for about 2 weeks. I though I must have been done but then woke up at 4 a.m. Aug 13th in severe pain and then delivered the baby. Wow this is hard to write out. Then I had light bleeding for another week or two.

jcc64 replied: Are you getting regular blood tests to check on the decline of your HcG levels? I had to go weekly for at least a month during/after my natural m/c.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am so sorry you are having to go through this! I have had an early miscarriage that was just small clots and bleeding and cramps not much different from a heavy AF but I have also more recently had a miscarriage(at about 6-7 weeks) in which I had bad cramps and spotting with light bleeding for a few days and after some walking around with Tay and DH everything came out at once with severe cramps then several days of bleeding after that. (After about 1 day and a half was the same light pink bleeding after I had Tay.) I am praying for you to be able to get through this as easily (physically) as possible! Feel free to PM me! I am really sorry!

BAC'sMom replied: When I miscarried I had NO cramping at all. I found a spot of blood on underwear; I called my Mom and asked her what I should do. She suggested I go to the E/R to be examined. After the examination the worse the bleeding got, they told me the cervix was closed to go home and see my OB. So I went to my OB the next day he told me to go home and get off my feet and I’d be FINE. But by day three things were not any better so OB ordered an ultra sound, as soon as I looked at the ultra sound I knew that I was not FINE. I was scheduled for a D&C 2 days later. I really don’t remember much about bleeding after D&C, I was kept pretty medicated for depression / emotional reasons.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
I don't know... my ob didn't mention anything about that specifically but she did say she'd want me to come back to see her a couple weeks after it happens. I have an appointment to see her on tuesday after my u/s too so maybe they'll draw blood again then too.

The reason I keep getting so confused is because I'll have kind of heavy bleeding - heavy enough to soak the pad and turn the water pink when I go to the bathroom (sorry gross and tmi I know) and then later in the day or the next day it will be light with hardly anything on the pad at all for hours. It keeps going back and forth - so I think maybe I'm done and then the bleeding picks back up again and I think well maybe not. My emotions are going up and down along with the bleeding. It would be nice to be done so I can start moving on and thinking about ttc again - at the same time I don't want it to be done... I don't want my baby to be gone.

I guess I'll know for sure after the ultrasound on tuesday. That's five whole days away though.

My2Beauties replied: Yeah get a blood test, they could detect the hormone in my blood even 4 weeks after my m/c, hence the reason I went back 4 times before it was down to 0. So if you recently had one you will have the hormone in your blood, then you'd know for sure. Although, TBH, it's a hard thing to deal with nomatter how far along you are/were, so I think I would have been better off knowing. If I hadn't taken the test when I did, I would have thought it was just a heavy crampy period and never would have thought anything about it.

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~~*Missi*~~ replied: When i had my two miscarriages I didn't bleed until the doctor striped my membranes. He said was open and ready but just need a push so....
Both time I had my membranes stripped on a Thrusday. Nothing happened that day, the next I spotted a little brown. Then by Saturday I was laying in bed wishing someone would kill me too... I was cramping so bad. I stayed in bed most the weekend, I changed a pad every hour all weekend at night i wore adult diapers i bled so much so hard. Monday I had appts with both to have a u/s to see the progress. Both times monday morning when i got up I felt the, well you know, i knew what just came out, I knew it still haunts me..... then had the u/s and all was clear alittle blood left....I was all cleared they said....I was completely done bleeding by time i woke up on tuesday. I got my period both times exactly 3weeks after.... So i bled non stop hard from saturday to tuesday and then done. No flux once everything got going...
I opted because of my fertility issues not to have the D&C and my doctor advised me that it can take up to 2weeks to miscarry fully naturally. My cervix was open and ready both times. anyway i knew when i "passed" the babies. I was almost 13weeks with the twins and almost 11weeks with "sprout".....


So sorry again if you need to talk let me know

~~*Missi*~~ replied: also if you off your feet laying or sitting you may notice fluxes in the flow. I rememeber getting up and feeling like i pee'd myself cause it woud gush out...

There are other options other then a D&C, I only know cause i won't have one no matter what. I have enough issues getting pregnant and staying pregnant i can't risk it (my doc agreed).

I would wait and see its a process just similar to labor. Good luck if you need to talk let me know

kimberley replied: i think it is normal. i spotted for a few days then bled heavy then spotted again. whole process took about 2 weeks naturally the clots came with the heavier blood. i am so sorry hon. i wish i could take away your pain.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
That sounds a lot like what I'm having. After reading these replies I'm pretty sure it hasn't happened yet. What I had on sunday night really didn't seem like enough pain or bleeding for it to have been it, I just wasn't sure.

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~Roo'sMama~ replied: Well I'm not positive, but I think I might have miscarried tonight after dinner. I didn't have a lot of pain but the bleeding and tissue was big enough to have been the baby. I'm going to call my doctor in the morning to see what she says, but I probably won't know for sure if that was it until I either stop bleeding or until my ultrasound on tuesday.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am so sorry! I have had several but none like this last one and it was very hard! I am so sad with you! I will be thinking of you and saying a prayer for you!

NEWMOM05 replied: I had pretty severe beeding then nothing except it got worse when I went potty. I bleed and spotted for about 3 weeks. I passed some tissue at the very end that I was sure was the baby. I kept holding on to some hope that The baby was still there. I know what you are feeling. I hope you get your answers soon. PM if you need to talk.