potty training boys...

mummy2girls wrote: I have 2 boys in my dayhome that is stubborn beyond anything... one is 3 and one is 4... and they refuse to go on the potty. i tried stickers, jellybeans, candy, etc and nothing works! they rather sit in the wet diapers/pull ups. I even tried the traing underwear thinking if they feel the wet they will go.. but nope they just sat in pee drenched pants... DOH!

TANNER'S MOM replied: I never had a real problem with potty training. And what worked for me..wouldn't work for you because you are in a more structed sitting. I let my boys go naked..and we do the whole redneck pee off the porch thing. Of course we live a hundred miles in the middle of no where...so for us it worked..In the middle of town not so much..lol

I am sorry I hope it gets better.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Yep, that's Wil. He will pee on the potty, but he will also sit in a wet diaper/pull-up all day if he could. I've tried stickers and all kinds of potty chairs, and books in the bathroom, and....well it feels like just about everything. He's still young, but he's showing signs, so we're working on it. I'm frustrated to the point I want to just give up, but I know that he will get it eventually.

A friend of mine bought her daughter a Dora doll that sat on the bathroom counter and her DD could only see it/hold it while she was on the potty. So this was a reward that happened during the act...which I think may work for Wil, because when it's after the fact, he forgets why he's getting the reward. Doesn't put the two together, kwim? How about a cool truck like thing that the boys can only see when going potty? Make sure it's a toy they don't own at home or you have anywhere else in the dayhome. GL!

redchief replied: Oh I remember those days. The girls were so much easier to potty train than the boys.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Okay Ed, so give us desperate moms some tips!! Everyone says it's harder, but they don't give advice or how it finally worked!

ZandersMama replied: With Zander I took off his diaper and told him he was too old to use it. he has has one accident since and that was that day. Dry even through the nite, this was a month ago.

lisar replied: My sister would put cherios or fruit loops in the toilet and have her son aim at them. It worked like a charm for her. He loved the idea of aiming it.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I never gave Tanner a choice and I nixed the rewards because all it was doing was bribing him, which I didn't want to do. I'm a firm believer in teaching children to do something because they were told to, not because there is a prize waiting for them. JMO. Prizes are ok sometimes, but other times it just doesn't work. So, I decided one day that he wasn't getting a choice, he was putting on underwear whether he liked it or not, and if he didn't cooperate he would get in trouble. It worked. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down. After that hurdle, he was easy as pie. Trained by 2 1/2. Sometimes when you beat around the bush for too long, they become too accustomed to being in diapers that they wont care anymore.

Shelly, as far as daycare kids, I do NOT train daycare kids. I tell parents they must be trained at home first then they can come to my house in underwear when they are not having consistant accidents. I have had way too many parents who are not consistant with it at home as I am and I refuse to waste my energy training someone else's kids by myself. I also refuse to clean up dozens of accidents every day from dozen's of other children besides my own on my floors and carpeting. I always suggest the parents keep them home on a long weekend, put them in underwear, and live in the bathroom all weekend (not literally of course), then take it from there.

mummy2girls replied:
i cant tell the parents to have them trained before they enter because i take kids as young as 6 months. and at each interview i told them its ok they are not trained because i can help to train them. So aside from me turning into a bug and sticking to thier wall to see if they are consistent im just goign to have to trust them. i did give up for a bit because nothing was imrpoving. But im goign to have to talk to the moms about the consistency at home just like I do here. Training kids I dont mind no big deal because im with them all day 5 days a week and accidents i dont mind..all part of training. but i just need to get a good idea on how to intrigue them to go to the potty. I hear its harder for boys to train and man i totally agree! LOLOLOL

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I think she means that once potty training is started, it's the paretns who have to train them, not her. I can understand...because I trained the boy I watch back in August.... and he hardly ever has accidents here. But at home, he still wears a diaper.

And I agree. It's a "you must use the toilet now" thing, not a "please use the potty and I'll give you some chocolate!" thing. I don't expect a treat for doing something I need to do, and I won't offer one to my kids either. That's it that's all. if they are old enough to "realize" they're doing potty in their pants, they're old enough to get in trouble for not doing it in the toilet once they know how.

Naomie is almost 17 months... and I'm going to be training her at the end of the month. She's ready. She "pushes" on demand, and knows when she does her business... she sits on the toilet to "push her farts"... she's sooo done with daytime diapers by the end of the month.

mummy2girls replied:
Oh i know thats what she meant. What I meant by teh response is that I told the parents that i would help them... so i cant go back on it

Boo&BugsMom replied:

mummy2girls replied:
oh i must of worded it wrong..LOL they come in pull ups I just bought the underwear to try at my place with teh parents approval of course:)

mummy2girls replied:
i agree!!!!!!!!!!!