oppinions please...

mummy2girls wrote: For the past few days she has been up past 10pm. she will stay in her bed but just goof around all night..then she is miserable because she has to get up at 6 to get ready to go for daycare. last night she didnt fall asleep until 1230am. I am was so tired because i had to get up at 530am... Anyways this gives me the clue that jenna shopuld not be napping anymore. But i know naps at the dayhome is holly's(the provider) way to get some downtime. so this is what im thinking about asking her....

1... could you please not put jenna down for a nap starting monday( because she only slept 6 hours last night she will nap today) because when she naps i am finding she is up till 1030 or later at night.

or

2... if you put jenna down for a nap please wake her up no later tha 2pm...

which do you think is a good one? during the weekends she doesnt nap for me and she seems very happy and then she is able to fal alseep at 830 the latest at night. if she didnt have to get up so bloody early then her staying up till 1030 is not a b ig deal.. she is soooooooooo miserable right now.

booey2 replied: I forget how old Jenna is, but the nap thing should be discussed with her sitter. We had to do the same thing with Thomas and Matthew, the sitter would let them fall asleep at 3pm and when I got home at 5:30pm they were still asleep sometimes. So we decided that at all costs to keep them awake til I at least got home. That meant a cranky boy sometimes right when I got home but it was way easier at bedtime and in the morning. You will both have some adjusting to do. Either approach that you listed sounds fine, your childcare provider should understand. For her down time maybe she could put a movie on instead for Jenna to watch or just have her have some quiet time, then they both could relax and Jenna won't sleep so she will sleep at night.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I would say asking for her to be woken up no later than 2 at first and if you see that is not making a difference then I would ask that naps stop all together! Taylor has never been a napper and STILL stays up until past 10. We are a late night family with DH's work...

Kaitlin'smom replied: if the sitter needs her down time they either suggest the up by 2p or have jenna doing something quite.

kimberley replied: i agree, no later than 2pm wake up sounds good. as you know, DCP's need downtime for other kids and clean up so no nap is likely out of the question anyways. hope you get some sleep.

luvmykids replied: ITA with the other moms, and I'm struggling with the same thing. The twins (almost 4) are up around 6:30 and napped from 1-3 but recently that means at 10:00 they're still getting up and going to each others rooms to play. We've been experimenting with quiet time w/books and sometimes even on the couch instead of their rooms. I find something to do somewhere else in the house or read a book too and bedtime has gotten much easier.

fashionmumofboys replied: I would say yes speak to your daycare and tell them you don't want Jenna sleeping past 2 p.m.

It will at least help you out with her at bedtime at night. Hopefully she will go to bed at her normal time as opposed to going to bed later.

Good luck!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I agree with everyone else ~ at least try the 2pm wake up for a week or 2 and see if it helps. Good luck!

3_call_me_mama replied: I'll tell you from a day care providers point of view.... what teh other peopel have siad is true! WE need that down tiem to do several things
1) eat lunch ourselves
2) pick up the mess form teh day, lunch etc
3) take care of personal things (think what you do on your lunch breaks if you have them ~)
4) have a few minutes to our selves to just breathe. and
5) PEE in peace (ok so that doesn't take 2 hours but it's a long day until nap sometimes!

I would definately tell her the issues you've been having at night, and I would also encourage her to get jenna up earlier, and ensure that some quite tiem is provided. If she's not napping on teh weekend then chances are that she may be outgrownign them.. but on the otherhand... if she is sleeping a lot during nap time on teh weekend then she is tired and needs the sleep (most likely as youhave siad form stayign up to late). Also if it wre me i would instill some rules about beditme. such as lights out at a certain time and no playing wiht anything once you are in bed and the the lights are out. It works fo rus with cameron caseu he gets bored with nothign to do and goes to sleep . He' sin bed by 8:15-8:30 the latest and is out by 9 (on rare occasions it's later but generally it's earlier. ) lights out are at 8:30. This is the only way DH and i get tiem together is for him to be asleep at that time so we had to be strict on it . (Although generally he will ge tup around midnight to get in our bed to finish his nights sleep

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I would suggest #2 only because I think little ones like Jenna still need a nap during the day. Wil is younger than Jenna, but I think it was Monday where he didn't nap at all and he woke up literally 6 times during the night. So I've never believed that the less kids nap the better they'll sleep. I think it's really the opposite as a matter of fact, at least for the first few years. The better Wil naps during the day, the better he sleeps at night.

Waking Jenna up a bit earlier though may help. Good luck. Have you ever discussed snacks that they may be giving her later in the afternoon? Maybe sugar is keeping her up.

ediep replied: I agree with Rea for babies younger than 2 or 2 1/2 but Jenna is older than Will, so I think that the nap helping night sleep doesn't apply anymore.

Jason is only a few months older than Jenna and we have had to stop putting him in for a nap for the same reasons. he didn't want to go to bed until 10 or 10;30 and thats way too late for us.

I have been letting Jason lie on the couch with a snack and watch a movie for an hour and a half in the afternoon. It takes some adjusting and he is sometimes really tired by dinner time, but he goes to sleep by 8 or so every night

good luck, I hope your DCP works with you to find a solution

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied: I'm not sure how old Jenna is But, Andrew is almost 4 and he is like Rea said He HAS to have a nap however it needs to be earlier in the day at his daycare they nap from 11:30 to 1:00. That works great so mabe suggest a earlier nap time than she has now.

Tiffany

mummy2girls replied:
when jenna doesnt sleep on the weekends for nap she sleep like a log throughout the night. if she naps she is up throughout the night:(

mummy2girls replied: Thanks guys! I will try the waking up earlier in the afternoon:)