older moms - pregnancy late in life

roses wrote: I am new to this...I seen this seems to be one of the most used boards so I thought I would post here in hopes of a reply...I want to talk with moms out there who found out they were pregnant late in life...I am 43...I do not know for sure...but I could very well be...a good chance...I'm a bit concerned about it all...I have so many questions to ask...Please if you would respond with your stories...Thank you so much!!!

pinka_star replied: I'm not much help to you since I'm only 20. But I wanted to welcome you to the boards!!!

I'm Susie, Mommy to Emma (9 1/2 months) and Wife to Dustin. I'm looking forward to getting to know you better!

kit_kats_mom replied: I was 32 when I was pregnant so I didn't fall into any of the high risk areas. I know we have a few older moms here though who would probaby be happy to "talk" to you.

It may be next week before you get a reply though. The board is generally pretty slow on the weekends.

Did you have any specific questions? I'm always happy to do some research and post links if I have a few minutes.

here are a few I found in a "pregnancy and advanced age" search on Google.

Hrumph! Did you know that anything over the age of 35 is considered "advanced maternal age"? Geez, I just got started at 32. I was too irresponsible (and enjoyed it) before then to be allowed to have kids. LOL

http://www.gynob.com/obage.htm
http://www.expectantmothersguide.com/libra...aternal_age.htm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/527668.stm

Congrats on your pregnancy and have a H&H 9 months!

Stick around an join us too!

paradisemommy replied: my sister is 40 and just had a baby (in fact she's still at the hospital)..if you want, i can get your email address and as soon as she gets home and gets settled, i'll have her email you..maybe she can help you..

juliajaj replied: I was 35 with my 1st pregnancy & am 37 now, expecting my 2nd. I wasn't labeled high-risk because of my age, but I've been offered some of the standard high risks tests because I was 35 & over with my pregnancies. I decided against an amnio with each pregnancy, but opted for the full OB blood panel work-up (alpha-fetal-protein/triple screen which tests for Downs Syndrome, neural tube defects & cystic fibrosis). I was offered a Level II ultrasound with my 2nd pregnancy also (this does more in-depth measurements than a standard u/s & can narrow down abnormalities). I have this scheduled for this Monday. My 1st pregnancy was very healthy. I went 2 weeks late, but was able to deliver a healthy baby girl without the need of an epidural or c-section. I'm hoping to do the same with this baby. DH & I haven't decided 100% if this is our last pregnancy. My OB/GYN said there isn't any reason why I couldn't still have a healthy pregnancy/delivery/baby when I'm 40.

A&A'smommy replied: I hope you get lots of good advice from some of the other ladies i was 17 when I got pg so I don't have any advice for you!

roses replied: Thank you all for your kindness...I was 17 when I had my first baby...and 19 when I had my second ....I was told I never could have any more children due to a medical problem....but I prayed and prayed and 14 years later when I was 33 our baby son was born..., he was our miracle baby...then God surprised us with our baby girl when I was 36...all pregnancies were beautiful....the perfect family 2 boys and 2 girls...but God decided to take our firstborn son home with him...so I have been in grief....not caring much for anything....now I missed my first period...which I have never done...I was thinking it could be the beginning stages of the "change of life"...that's why I need to talk with others my age...but I am feeling the all too familiar feelings of pregnancy...I plan to see the Dr. at the end of this month to find out either way....but I could sure use some encouraging words from others who have been there....
To all of you>>>>hold your babies close....I never thought I would be a parent to lose a child.

jem0622 replied: Roses...I am sorry that you lost your son. I lost a sister when I was 3. She was 7. I have a coworker who had her daughter in her 40's too. I will ask if she minds if you both chat. I can share her email with you and you can talk. She has a son in college and a daughter in elementary school.

Julie

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry you lost your son! ((((HUGS)))

DansMom replied: I was 38 when I had Daniel. I never had a pregnancy before that, so have nothing to compare to. The pregnancy went smoothly except for gestational diabetes, which I controlled with diet. Daniel was born very healthy. I was in really good shape and health before I got pregnant, and I think that helped. I can certainly say that the physical effects of being pregnant aged me---I look a lot older now than I did before---could just be exhaustion though LOL!

Welcome to the board!

CantWait replied: Hi there and welcome to the board
I have no advice to you as I'm only 27, and had my kids at 18 and 26. I just wanted to express my deepest sympathy for the loss of your first angel , and hope that if you are pregnant a safe, H&H 9 months. We can't wait to hear all the details

roses replied: Thank you all!!
I will keep in touch and let you all know what happens after my visit to the Dr. I call this morning to make my appointment...This is not easy...You all have beautiful children thank you for sharing their pictures....

kimberley replied: (((hugs))) i can only imagine how hard this is for you. i am sorry about your son. my aunt was also told she probably couldn't have anymore children and got pg at 42yo. it was completely unexpected, but she knew all the signs. one of her oldest kids (twin girls) was also pg at the same time. she struggled with the pg moreso emotionally than physically. she was ready to be a grandmother... not a mother again. but once that sweet little boy was born, she was happier than ever to have been given the gift to create a life again. she always says "babies fill a home with love" and i hope if you are pg, your home will be filled with your new baby's love. please keep us posted and take care.