ok, here's a good question - albeit a bit loaded....

cameragirl21 wrote: everyone i know resents their parents for something. i think every child is somehow different from the parents once grown so that misunderstanding between generations alone can lead to some resentment. i am wondering though, what are your thoughts, do you believe there is any way to raise a child who never resents you for anything?

mummy2girls replied: I think every child probably has one small resentment agasint the parents... My parents were awesome and i could count on them for everything. but one thing that kinda got to me is that m,y mom never gave my brother rules, or curfews and he can have GF overnight and everything. Me i was given rules, curfews and couldnt date till i was 16... so i was upset over that...


in the end my mom had the problems with my bro and not me... LOL

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I was just thinking about this earlier today.

No, I don't think it's possible.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I don't resent either of my parents for anything, so it must be possible. There are things that I wish had been different when I was a kid, like my dad driving truck and only being home on the weekends, but I don't resent him for that because I know it's not what he wanted - it was just the only way he knew to provide for us. I don't think my parents did everything right but I don't hold anything against them.

I don't know how one would go about raising your kids in a way that they wouldn't resent you for later though. I suppose it would partly have to do with the way you raise them, and partly to do with their personality's.

MomToJade&Jordan replied: I voted no. There is always going to be something no matter how small it is. Now my ex, I don't think he gets this. I'm not going to get into it all here, but let's just say that my girls are going to really resent him in the future if some things don't change. When the time comes for me to explain to them what happened I'm going to tell them the complete truth.

moped replied: I don't resent my parents for anything that I can think of

C&K*s Mommie replied: I voted yes, because I do not resent my parents for anything.

boyohboyohboy replied: I dont resent my parents for anything. I think she did a great job raising me.
now my sister was raised the same way, and turned out way different, and I bet she would answer differently also..

Boo&BugsMom replied: It really depends on what your definition of resent means. I think my parents did a wonderful job as parents, but it doesn't mean they didn't make their share of mistakes. So, no I don't think it's possible because all parents make mistakes, but there isn't anything I hold a grudge for so in a way yes. Like I said, it depends on what you mean by resent. I'm on the fence.

redchief replied: Funny, I looked at this question from the standpoint of whether or not I was resented by my kids. I do believe that all resentments can be grown beyond. I assumed we were talking about permanent resentments here, so that was how I answered. Surely we all have some temporary resentments that can, and do interfere with our family relationships, but if we really understand the importance of family we can grow beyond them.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Ed, that's what I was thinking, too.

I have an awesome relationship with my parents and have definitely gotten over the resentments, but I think at one point in time everyone will resent their parents for something. Especially in the teenage years.

luvmykids replied:
Of course you summed it up for me

jcc64 replied: I think it's virtually impossible to not resent your parents for something, at some point. I would say the same for any lifelong, intimate relationship.