o.k. need opinions here...

Jamielou wrote: Well my fiance has been off work since last friday with a hurt foot. Which he got taking his boys swimming (he was drunkand fell)...

O.k. he just informed me that he is going to take them camping tomorrow.... now dont get me wrong it sounds fun and all but if you are too hurt to go to work then in my opinion i dont think you should be going camping...

And i am the one taking care of the bills and stuff... he says well mom an dad gave me the money to get food and stuff for the trip....


O.k. would your parents like to put food in our house too or pay the light bill.....
i am living with such a lazy slob...

sorry to vent just had to get that out!!!

mckayleesmom replied: Doesn't sound responsible to me.

DVFlyer replied: I agree. If he's well enough to camp, he's well enough to work (I'm assuming his job is not so physical where his injury would prevent him from performing his duties).

He'd do better to save up some vacation etc time and take EVERYONE camping.

luvbug00 replied: Sounds like somone I know. (guess who!) I'd say "how bout we take the camping money and put it into bills and you guys can do an imaginary camp out in the back yard. That is your ONLY option."



Hope whateverr you do works!

Josie83 replied: I have to say that I agree with you Jamie!

ETA - I hope I don't offend you when I ask you this, but was he drunk when he wa slooking after his sons? How old r they? Just tell me to mind my own business if you want xx

JessC replied: I totally agree, thats crap!

moped replied: I am wondering the same thing Josie asked?

kimberley replied:
my thoughts exactly. i think i'd be more concerned about that than the money/work issue .

gr33n3y3z replied:
I was wondering the samething

MM'sMama replied:
Ditto

Jamielou replied:
your right his job is a security guard but they sit and watch t.v. and play playstations all day and watch movies....the most he would have to do is climb stairs...

and about the drinking yes he was with the boys there and its not aloud in my home anymore and he isnt going to be watcing delaney or carley until he proves to me he has stopped and beleive it or not he hasnt had any since this happened because i finally put my foot down and let him know its your family or the drink....

He just dont understand that on top of the kids getting hurt or drowning god forbid that if he got pulled over by the cops they wouldnt just give him a DUI they would consider this child endangerment and can take them away or anything....


but i totally agree with everyone... he is not a responsible person at all.....

Jamielou replied:
no offense taken i asked for opinions and yes he was pretty drunk then and they are 7 and 6... I just dont get people but i think it has a lot to do with how he was raised and what his parents did when he was little.....and you guessed it they also were big drinkers...

kimberley replied: he is drinking and driving with the kids in the car?!?! OMG! i am assuming you are not the bio mom to his sons, so i have to ask... does she know he has this problem and is endangering her children this way??? and if so, how on earth is he allowed unsupervised access?! my ex lost "going out" priveleges with the boys for a while cuz he wasn't enforcing seat belts and let one of them sit in the front . if he had been drunk with them in the car, he would NEVER get access.. children are far too precious! sorry, i don't mean to come off harsh but that is insane! i really hope he straightens out for all of those kids' sake and his own!

Jamielou replied:
No but i dont think you are harsh at all i fuss all the time about it and he just acts like its nothing.... They arent mine biologically I dont know if she knows or not she lives out of state and he has them for the summer but i can say i dont agree with it and all i can do is just not let him take mine anywhere ya know ....

I told him if it ever happened again it was over we will see how this goes but im with you my kids mean to much for me to put their life in jeopardy....

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied:
I totally agree but i'm sure you feel the same way. It is always easier to speak your mind when you are not the one in the sictuation i hope and pray it all works out

Josie83 replied:
Good point, it is easier to cast aspersions when it is not your problem.

but I would be worried that it could have been one of th eboys that he hurt instead of himself when he was drunk. Seriously, if he was that drunk and in charge of them anything could have happened? I'm sorry but I just think its osmething that should be taken a bit more seriously . . . I'm sorry if I'm speaking out of turn here but its just how I feel xx

kimberley replied: i wasn't passing judgement on her, my disgust is in HIM! i am not in her particular situation, but i did grow up with an alcoholic parent who put severe bruising down my spine by drinking and driving. he threw the car into reverse and floored it as i was getting in. he also nearly killed both of us that day by driving 130km/h and heading straight for a brick wall, slamming on the brakes at the very last second. we stopped millimeters from the wall. i was 13yrs old. if nothing else, i was hoping she would agree and maybe talk to the bio mom about this for the sake of those boys! not to chastise her. she is obviously taking precautions for her girls, but who is looking out for those boys???

moped replied: Oh Kimberley - what a terrible thing to happen to you! Sorry. I hope you are still not paying for that.

Anyways, if It was me, and my DH has done some stupid things, but not that..................I would seriously consider my marriage. Somebody has to take responsibility before someone dies.

Jamielou replied:
OMG that is awful... Well i care about the boys and dont want to see them get hurt in any way but i dont have any controll over his kids with another women..ya know what i mean if i told him he couldnt take them like that he would anyway. I have thought about asking her if she knew that he drinks and drives with them....You would think his parents would care more about it than they do but his dad will even call him and ask him if he needs money for beer. i wont give him any.....