my son is sooooo mad at me!

amymom wrote: I give him no privacy! I asked him how he was doing in school! How dare I? I am always bugging his friends when they are here and asking them if they want food or something! How dare I? I give him no privacy! I only let him use the computer in a public space in the house! How dare I? I ask him where he is going and with who! and ask him if he needs money! How dare I? And the topper of it all ~~~ I care about him too much, love him too much. Ask him to call me when he gets home from school! How dare I?

UGH! Seriously, tho... he really is mad at me, and he made me cry this morning. I am so sad..... Maybe I am bothering him, but some of his friends parents don't even know where they are most of the time. And they are here. So I must be doing something right. Oh I hate hate hate the teenage years!!!!

PrairieMom replied: What are you trying to do? ruin his life!?!!? J/K
you are a good Mommy. Isn't it Dr Phil who says that teens are mentally ill?

luvbug00 replied: No worries he'll deffinately thank you for it later when his friends are doing 10-20.

lisar replied: I say just based on that YOUR A GOOD MOTHER... Lots of moms dont know where there kids are or what they are doing or who they are with. At least you do. And he will look back on it one day and see that your a good mother. Dont sweat it and dont give in.

amymom replied: Thanks guys I so need your affirmation. It really is tough! He went to school with tears in his eyes and me well can't tell you how upset I am. But I do know it will be ok, just soon please. Oh and when he turns 19 my dd turns 13!!!! What will I do?

TheOaf66 replied: from my experience, if he is defensive about you asking questions than it is possible he has something to hide...just keep that in mind, you are exercising your right as a parent to be invasive

cameragirl21 replied: Anne Marie, he's just being a typical teenager...i think God made teenagers just to show us what a real PITA is. it hasn't been THAT long since I was one and my memory is still fresh so i can promise you this--he DOES love you to pieces, he's just at the age where it's not cool to show it but it is cool to drive you nuts.
you're a good mom, and i'm sure your son will say the same thing once this latest hormonal mood of his wears out. by the time he gets home from school he'll have moved on to something else, you'll see.

Kaitlin'smom replied: YOUR A GOOD MOM!

let me describe a not so great one, leaves a 9,7 almost 4 year old at home alone for 2 hours expecting the 9 yr old to watch the others one of which he cant stand, they dont get along. Sleeps during the day, leaving the kids to fend for them selves asking a neighbor for food, cant find the 9 yr old outside so just leaves, to which 9 yr old has to break into own home only to find mom gone. Never really knowing where the kids are, lets them play outside unsupervised. Expected for soon to be x to put almost 4yr old in bed and leave she would be home about 15-30 minutes after he left.

see so your a good mom.

1lilpeanut2love replied:
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Sounds like you are doing an amazing job. I will be the same way. Keep up the Good Work Mom!

CantWait replied: Keep it up, never stop what you're doing, and keep your eyes open.

amymom replied:
Oh yes! i do understand this

Thanks forall the encouragement!

redplaydoh replied: You're a wonderful mom, and he knows that. Ask him what he'd like and maybe compromise.... maybe by not asking his friends if they want food when they are over...???
I have no advice, other than remembering what my mom and I worked out when I was a teen.
She agreed to leave me and my friends alone IF I didn't close the door completely to my room. I also had to call her when I was home but I was able to use the phone in the back of the house so my friends wouldn't know what I was doing if they were there at the time.
My boys will always stay small and I'll never have to deal with teenage years.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I think there's just something about being a teenager. Hormones straightening out or something. Whatever the cause, I am glad you have been setting limits and expectations. Someday he'll thank you for it. I am sorry he made you cry, Anne, and I bet he is too. Just remember he's on testosterone overload right now. And you are doing right by him.