my first future inlaw vent!!!!!

mummy2girls wrote: GRRRR. ok i like marcus's sister and we have become close but for the love of gosh she has to stop!!!! SOON!!!! She called me today to go over what i need her to help me with. then we went into the gift opening. She said why not have it at my place. I said no because i want it done at my place. One reason is because after the reception i am getting my mom, marcus's mom and her to pack as much gifts into thier car as i wont have my car with me. And then if i do it at your place then i have to get everyone to pack thier care and transfer to my place. a waste of time! Another reason is this is my day i have dreamed of this day for sooo long I want to be host, I want it at my place.

She then says... You wont be able to do it shelly. I said what? Yes i will. She said what you will have to get up early after the night of your wedding and get the house ready for guests to come, buy the food etc. I said well yes I have to get up early anyways because at 9am i have to be at the car rental place to get my car. and then i will come grab jenna from you at around 1030am and then drop her off with marcus and then head to costco to get the food( they have ready made veggie plates and such) and then go home and my sister will arrive and help me. this all can be done by 200pm.

Then she says... and then you want to clean up all those dishes before you head to bed for your honeymoon the next day. you will be up late doing dishes and clean the place up so you dont leave it a mess. I said the opening will be over at 630pm and then i will throw away the paper plates so no dishes. and then ill pile all presents in jennas room and mine and then go to bed at 1200am. how hard is that?Then she says then you have to get up earlier to pack the bags and car because the night before youw ere busy cleaning up you couldnt do it then. I said well actually friday night before the wedding I am going to pack jennas, mine and marcus's bags and have them set aside so after i am done cleaning ill just pack the car and then i wont have to get up earlier then scheduled! she said ok shelly you do that and when i see you at the gift opening i will be ready to say i told you so that you couldnt do it... WTF!!!! ok guys do you see it being a problem?

MY DAY!!! I WANT TO HOST!!!! she talked to me like i was a 5 yr old and i couldnt do it. !!!UGH!

stella6979 replied: I really do think she's just trying to be helpful but you sound like you have everything under control. And you're right....it's your day, so you do it your way.

Calimama replied: Honestly.. just my opinon but I don't think it's worth being worked up over. Minus the little rude comment about her being right (which was totally not needed on her part) I think she's trying to help. She seems like she's trying to bring forth all the little things that maybe you haven't thought of.. maybe just not in the best way. I would have just told her no thank you, and gotten off the phone and be done with the conversation. She obviously cares so think of how lucky you are to have people that want to be in your life and help.

mummy2girls replied:
honestly i have to disagree... but she is a very self centered person and she wants it at her place so she can be host and all attention on her. You may think not but you dont know her. I was mad because she is constantly telling me to do this and dont do this. im budgetting things wrong. and with the aron thing im doing it wrong. She even had the gall to say jenna is the way she is because i odnt pay attention to her at all. NICE! so honestly no its not that it because attention is all off of her!

mummy2girls replied:
also i guess you have to live near her and listen to her and how she treats everyone to see why this would upset me. im sorry if i sound mad but I am.. im sick of that and i h=guess that just broke the camels back and i snapped.

mummy2girls replied:
i think it was the tione and how she was talking to me like I was a 5 yr old... And sayign i cant do it and i told you so will be waiting for you! UGH...

A&A'smommy replied: yuck yeah its your day you do what you want!!! Also try not to get too upset about it for the sake of family, you don't want any strife between anyone BTDT TRUST me!!!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: what a snot.

I can help you make food beforehand, if you'd like. I'm pretty handy in the kitchen.

Kaitlin'smom replied: dang its your day you do what you want, and so what if your place is not perfect? most peopel will understand you just got married. what a little snot

lisar replied: I think she is just really trying to help you out. But she is going about it the wrong the way. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Its your day so you do it the way you want to

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Ditto, I agree.

It IS your day though, and she needs to respect that.

MommyToAshley replied:
That's what I was thinking too when I read it.

Enjoy your day and don't let her or anyone else ruin it. Things get a bit stressful right before the wedding. I think she had good intentions, but she could have gotten the hint that you wanted to host it. Just brush it off, smile, and host it yourself as you planned.

mummy2girls replied:
I will. I know she was tryign to help probably but just the tone and how she said what she did ticked me off!