love triangles

cameragirl21 wrote: so have you ever been the object of a taken man's affection? this is not asking if YOU ever cheated on your SO but rather if a married/engaged/seriously dating guy ever took up with you in secret or not so secret.
i'd make this anonymous but figure no one is forced to comment who doesn't want to so it's more fun if anyone who wants to comment can.
as for me, let's just say .

cameragirl21 replied: btw, the last choice is supposed to say--never and there's NO way i'd ever consider it...i see i left out the word no, which changes the meaning entirely.
just wanted to clear that up.

Kaitlin'smom replied: fixed the last one for ya

cameragirl21 replied:
thanks, Di.

DansMom replied: I've had friends who gravitate toward such situations---it's about getting to have the passion while avoiding the commitment and demands of a normal relationship. Not my style at all. Infidelity and dishonesty as the basis for a romance---yick.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: No, but I've been the first woman.

Cece00 replied: I've been the object of a man's affection while they were in a relationship but I never took up with one KNOWING they were still in that relationship. Usually once I knew how they felt, I would feel OK with dating them once the relationship stopped, and once I was lied to about that, so it ended very quickly. I, personally, think its shameful to date someone you know is dating someone else OR married.

MoonMama replied: I have once, but I had absolutely know idea, and broke it off the second I found out.

Calimama replied: Yes, and that a-hole had a pregnant wife who was the sweetest thing ever.

MotherForever2043 replied: Never

kimberley replied:

TheOaf66 replied: well not that I encourage such behavior but Jennie has a fiance when she met me and basically when she met me she realized how bad she had it with this other guy. It was kind of interesting being the other guy for awhile but I would not trade what I have now at all.

Old Mom Hubbard replied: Was appraoached MANY, MANY years ago,like back in 1980! I found out the guy was older than he said and married, so no way.

I was approached by a co-worker of my hubby's too, two years ago! I just would feel so uncomfortable!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Yes, twice.

The first time, it was with a long-time friend of mine. We were both a little floozy from bar-hopping, and we shared a cab home since we lived so close to each other... and well, we decided somewhere along the way that we needed to see if there was something more to our great friendship. I knew he was in a relationship... but... when you're 16, who cares?

The second time, I was 18, he was 39. We both thought we were differently aged. And, I only found out he was in a relationship AFTER we got together. And we had already agreed to not see each other, due to our ages.

I should mention, there was no sex in either case.

I've been approached a couple times as well, but I didn't go for it.

redchief replied: "never and there's no way i'd ever consider it". heheheh

my2monkeyboys replied: I answered that I had been approached once before, didn't do it, but I thought it was talking about like a 3-way deal with a man and woman.
Just being approached by a man while he or I was in a relationship, that's happened quite a few times, but I've only done it once. I was 16, no sex or anything like that, but I went out with a guy and then broke up with my boyfriend the next day.