kids I am STILL babysitting

boyohboyohboy wrote: URG! I just have to vent.
This morning the mother of the older two children drops them off and tells me that Lexi is out of control. She tells me that she has been lying, and hitting, and not listening. Then she leaves. I haven't seen this look in Lexi's eyes since she started her meds. She has this look she gets like she is some mass murderer, with this smirk...she was just totally wound up, giggling but not a real laugh, and couldnt sit still at all. She then grabbed a pencil and tried to shove it thru her brothers eye! Lucky for me, her father came to drop off the 2yr old, and I told him something was wrong with Lexi. He told me that she had her meds increase, doubled actually about two weeks ago and the last two days he hadnt given it her..I told him what she had done, and that she was terribly agressive. He says, she has been the last few nights. I just have 7 weeks left....I dont know if I am going to make it..
My patience are gone.
What am I going to do with this child, that is psychotic and out of control around so many little kids......?
I think I already know your answer...its been repeating in my head over and over..

CantWait replied: Like you said, you know the answer...so *zip*

boyohboyohboy replied:
Marie! are you telling me zip it??!?!?!
I havent seen that before....

I know, they need to go..go go go...

I feel so guilty about not letting them have notice..I mean we told them the last day of the school year and now to go back on that seems cruel..but again, the safety of my own kids is a concern to me..

I just cant help but feel as a mom, that losing day care is so hard to do...with only 7 weeks left...

make this guilt go away..and we are good to go!

My3LilMonkeys replied: If the swine flu is anywhere near you, perhaps you could use that as an excuse - tell them you are limiting your kid's exposure to other people?

boyohboyohboy replied:
I mentioned to him yesterday about the swine flu, he thought it was just the regular flu season talk...and unless you were old and feable then there were no worries..I told him I was making sure the kids washed their hands right after school, and we had the purell for the kids..so he just said "oh you kids are going to sanatized!"
They have really poor hygeine..and when they came to my house they told me that their dad doesnt let them have tooth brushes because they play with them outside the bathroom..he confirmed this..and they are not allowed soap...

so believe me that is a real concern of mine....

mckayleesmom replied: I would have sent the little girl with her mother the moment she said that she was out of control.

CantWait replied:
LMBO....nOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I'm saying I'm going to zip it

CantWait replied:

Calimama replied: If it's really that bad for them at home I'd call CPS. I'd also quit.

stella6979 replied: If it were me, they would have been gone a long time ago. I mean, if these kids are really that aggressive, I would never allow my kids to be around them. Just not worth the risk.

luvmykids replied: OMG, ok the fact they don't brush their teeth or use soap is so far beyond anything else you've told us about them.....CPS needs to be involved. I'm sure that is a horrible call to make but these kids do not stand a tiny bit of a chance in their current situation.

mummy2girls replied: p[ersonally i know the feeling of not giving up on a child or leaving a parent stranding without care so i usually stick it out alot... BUT that saying your situation with these kids i would terminate. because they are really scary aggressive where your child or another child could get severely hurt. Being that i have been accused and almost lost my liscence over an incident where they though i abused. Accidents happen but when parents are looking at a hurt child alot can go through their minds... i would give my notice for sure and give them whatever agreed notice you promised you would give them. And i would also talk to someone about these kids. Because obviously what youa re saying they are not getting the love they should, being neglected and such. Makes me sad whenever a child comes through my home and i know there is abuse. I actually had to call CPS on a parent because she admitted that her boyfriend hit her son so hard on the butt it left a gash. i looked at it and it was bad. (((HUGS)))

boyohboyohboy replied: I dont think CPS is going to do anything about these kids..
they dont have bruises.. or appear abused, its mainly psychological, and how do you prove that,when the kids are going to say great things about their parents..?
also he has just started taking lexi to the dr and the middle one to the dentist..he just says that they lose their tooth brushes and he isnt spending the money on more..I agree wrong wrong wrong...but I am sure he will get tooth brushes in there before he is checked..the kids apparently make horrible messes at home and thats why there is no soap in the bathroom..but again..wrong solution.
I have thought millions of times on calling CPS...but each time I justs feel like its going to do nothing for them..the school is involved to some extent and have asked him to get help for his kids and he never does, they dont report him...
I would assume someone is involved with hanna since her mother attacked her at birth and a judge ordered supervised visitation at all times.. I would assume someone is checking on her?

I called the mother today and she has to come get the kids right at 330 when they get off the bus...so I dont have to deal with her..and hanna gets picked up soon, so we managed another day...
school gets out june 12th.
I really want to try to stick it out..
truely as much as I dislike these kids, and believe me its near hate...I just still feel responsible for them..till june 12th

coasterqueen replied: I feel so sorry for those poor children. I truly wish them p&pt's.

mckayleesmom replied:
That is a dumb excuse for not letting them brush their teeth. Mckaylee and Russell go through a toothbrush every 2 weeks for the exact same reasons and they are always replaced. I always buy those jumbo packs of toothbrushes for emergencies...You can get a case of like 10 for 1 dollar at the dollar tree...I'm constantly buying toothbrushes.

mummy2girls replied: what i would do is buy a cheap tooth brush for them to keep at your place. and then At least thier brush will get brushed once a day at your place. better than not at all.

MommyToAshley replied:
I agree.. my first priority would be my own child(ren). Yes, it is sad that these kids live in this kind of environment, but it seems like they need the help of professionals. I personally would call the CPS. At least you would know the situation is being looked into and they just may get help.

A&A'smommy replied:
yes I think I would call it sounds like they are in a horrible situation and need to be looked after, and even if he does cover everything at least you got someone else invovled

Boo&BugsMom replied:
You know Stacy, sometimes a daycare provider has to just cut ties in order to get them to wake up a little. I'm sure they will realize after the 3rd...4th...5th daycare that nobody will put up with them. They need to see that their kids are really in need of some serious help, especially this little girl. Sometimes the only way for them to see it is if we tell them we will no longer put up with it.