im so frustrated and confused...

mummy2girls wrote: Me and jennas dad got back together a few weeks ago. when he first approached me to get back together i said as much as i would love to i cant. because i know you dont ever want to be married and never wants another kid. i want the opposite. He said that he knows that is what i want and he is wanting the same thing. he said he doesnt want to hurt me. I guess he has been thinking about his life and he sees himself married and having one more child. So i decided ti give it a try again and see what happens. Well yesterday i was at his house visiting with jenna. And he told me he doesnt want any more kids. one biog reason is because with both of my kids i had the spiba bifada scare with the afp test and had to get amnios. he said he cant put him self through that again. which i understand because its a scarey situation. But why would he say to me he wants kids when in the back of his head he didnt ever? just to have me say yes to get back together? now that he has me he is going agaisnt everything. this why i didnt want to be involved with anyone for a while. i have been huirt way too many times with guys. i just wanted a break. Now this...is this even wirth ciontinuing with or sghould i end it before i do get hurt. But i am starting to have feeling of love for him again!!!!!!!!!!!!

I give up.

aspenblue1 replied: That is sad. I would ask him why he said he wanted another child if he didn't. As far as staying with him or leaving don't know the answer to that one. I hope everything works out.

MomofTay&Sam replied: I would insists he tells you what he wants from life. From his life, your life and Jenna's life. He cant be wishy washy about things now. Well I guess he can be, but is that what you want to look forward to? Maybe have abig sit down soon and get soethings out in the air. You can than decide to go ahead or break it off before it goes to far. I hope I helped some.

mummy2girls replied: you did help. I am going to have a talk with him. I just feel he asked me to get back because he had no place to stay. he is at his moms and because he got bankrupt it has been hard getting accepted to a place. he had asked me to stay at my place when we werent dateing and i said no. not to be mean but because i didnt want something to develop for him so i just wanted to play it safe. now that i am dateing him again he stays over. i just dont feel he likes me like a boyfriend should. he is giving me attitude now and just being an a$$. Im going to sit down with him and have a big heart to heart.

mckayleesmom replied: I will put in my . Number 1 I commend you for not letting him move in, you are not a motel. Number 2 it seems to me that you already kind of know the decision you need to make,,am I correct? Think about it, if you stay and give up your goals for children etc... you won't be happy in the long run. He basically got you back by feeding you a bunch of lies. You should never ever have to give up something you badly want when you love some one. Love is about compromise, agreement and common goals. I know you care about him, you will always care about him..he gave you Jenna, but did you kind of go back with him cause you felt sorry for him cause of the banckruptsy and nowhere to go situation? Cause I have done that before and I finally had to realize that he was a big boy who made big boy decisions and he is just going to have to live with that. Sounds to me that you are settling for this guy. No woman or man should ever have to settle with someone. You are worth so much more than that. I know it sounds hard to do now, but when you are finally with the guy that loves you,,you will understand what I mean. Don't sell yourself short of what you deserve. You said yourself that you don't feel that he loves you like a boyfriend should...thats your que to get out if you ask me...you want the man that makes you feel completely loved. Hope Im not offending you,,just my opinion. Thats just what I would do, but nobody can really tell you what is right for you.....If you need anyone to talk to email me..

mummy2girls replied: thank you... No you didnt offend me. I needed to hear that. I am going to sit down and talk with him... I just dont want anymore heartache in my life anymore i want to be happy. And if it means not being with him then thats is how it will be....

mckayleesmom replied: Good for you...Sending some BE STRONG vibes your way....lol...I know its terribly hard, especially since you have Jenna together. But maybe you guys can just be really great friends.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: So? Were you able to have a heart to heart?

I hope things work out for you...whatever you choose to do!

MomofTay&Sam replied: Just wondering how it went?? I hope everything is ok.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: My suggestion for you is if you really love this person that go to Marriage Counselling! They can help both of you communicate your feelings and needs and act as a referee! I know love makes you do crazy things and before either one of you make a rash decession get help first! My DH and I are going to marriage counselling and it has really helped our marriage!

I really hope it works out for you! Please let us know what you decide! We're here for you!

mummy2girls replied: thanks guys for caring. I havent talked to SO yesterday. Wasnt able to see him...will talk with him tonight though as he is coming over.

mckayleesmom replied: How did the big talk go? Need some hugs? I'll send some along anyways.