how do you discipline a 14 month old?!

Jackie012007 wrote: I think I need to change the way I do things with Carly. My ped stressed discipline by distraction, so I do that. If I see her doing something she shouldn't, I take the item away or move her, saying No and get her doing something else. That worked for a while, but now when I do it, she SCREAMS and cries and does everything she can to go back to doing the thing she isn't supposed to. It's really frustrating. I'm not even yelling at her or anything like that, just saying no in a calm, normal voice.

Is there something else I can try with her? Or is this normal for her age? My mom couldn't remember because I'm so old LOL.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: Sounds normal. Abby is 14 months too, just a few days older than Carly, I believe. She's still a baby, so not much else will work at this age. But I'm very laid-back as it is.

Calimama replied: Oh it's so normal!! Miabella is just starting to get out of the stage where when I take something she's not supposed to have, she screams. Now she stamps her little feet and says "I so mad". She's going to be a fun teenager..

flirtycuddle replied: Sounds like my son who is just about 20 months. Instead of screaming and stomping his feet he will jump up and down in the same spot telling me to "stop it" and "mean" really makes it worse when I can't keep a striaght face though.

holley79 replied: Very normal. I would just take Annika completely away from what she was into and find her something else to distract her with. Sometimes easier said then done.

lisar replied: Have you tried time out?

My2Beauties replied: Um...hate to tell ya but I don't think that behavior ever stops. If I take something from Hanna, all you know what breaks loose and she is 4

AlexsPajamaMama replied: The only other thing I can think of is maybe instead of saying "no", tell her "carly come see this" or "go get such and such" and see if that will distract her and she wont be hearing "no dont do that" or "stop". It might sounds better to her...I dont really know, I dont have experience with little girls, but it worked for a while with Alex and sometimes on a bad day it still does.

bawoodsmall replied:
that is a very good idea. They hear no and you take it away and they are mad.

Teesa®© replied: Time outs won't work with a 14 mth old, they're too little to understand the concept. I didn't start time outs with mine until they were about 3 yrs old. It's one minute per year for a time out. 3 yr old - 3 minutes, 5 yr old - 5 minutes, etc.

Removing the object and re-directing, or removing her and re-directing may be time consuming, but the best option, IMHO.

Movies/video's/music are great for distraction and hopefully she'll forget all about what it was she was trying to do before

We have a "Naughty Mat". Since we have all hardwood floors and 4 filing cabinets, they sit on little area mats. The filing cabinet beside my puter desk only takes up a little more than half of the mat, so said child must sit there for the alloted time.

I don't send them to their rooms when they're acting naughty as all their toys are in them. Time out is time out - no playing. If they're annoying or getting on my nerves, but still being good, then they get sent to their rooms.

I don't send them to bed when they're being naughty either as I don't want them associating bedtime with being bad. Eventually, they won't want to go to bed. Bedtime is for resting your brain and body and time for growing [you grow more in your sleep because your body isn't busy doing anything else but dreaming, so all effort goes into growing ].



ONE of these days I'm going to just answer the question and NOT go off into a whole other tangent!!

moped replied: I agree that she is too young for time outs just yet......

Not sure but I do think you should ignore the tantrum type stuff

stella6979 replied:
I do think each child is different though. Avery has been getting timeouts since she was about 14 or 15 months and she totally gets it. So much so, that she rarely gets them now.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied:
I agree - each child is different.

I started giving Sammy timeouts at around ,,,,,,,,,18 months, I think. I dont remember exactly but I know he was definitely under 2 yrs old.



Whatever you do,,,do NOT give in to the tantrum. Ignore it as much as you can. I'm sure you know that but man its hard not to give them what they want when they are screaming. LOL Hang in there and good luck!