how about the opposite? - what do they do that irritates you?

jolene555 wrote: inspired by my current frustration. i go to bed and he says "i'll be there in a minute!" it's now nearly 7 am and he's still playing on his comp downstairs. now he'll be crabby all day from not sleeping, and we will suffer. men.

MomToMany replied: Hmmm, this is an easy one!

It really irritates me when he comes home from work and spends an hour BSing with his dad.

When I ask him what he wants for supper and he says "I don't care" then ends up hating what I make.

The way he falls asleep in the recliner when the kids are screaming.

How he can take a shower whenever he wants, and it's the biggest inconvenience when I want to take one.

How he can go off with his friends for an entire day, come home and eat, then leave right away again.

How he can go to bed whenever he wants, and I'm stuck with the screaming kids.

How it's such a big problem whenever I want to go somewhere (which isn't often since it's such a problem). NOTHING goes right when I go somewhere.

How he always checks the phone when he gets home to see who's called during the day.

The way he criticizes me when I'm driving.



That's a start. I'm sure there is more.

favre4fan replied: Leaves his clothes wherever he takes them off!! His biggest downfall is being messy. I am a neat freak and I hate clutter!

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
I have the same problem - my DH doesn't stay up quite all night but last night he didn't come to bed until 3 am and I was lying in bed with a raging migraine! He always says he won't stay up too late and then stays up until the wee hours of the morning.

kit_kats_mom replied: Nothing too awful.

He farts a lot.

He has an uncanny knack for sleeping through baby cries on the baby monitor.

He isn't handy at all with yard work or house repairs. It would be nice to not have to hire people to take care of easy repairs and yard work. I knew this when I married him though.

He has a "thing" with putting his hands in dishwater. If I make a sink full of soapy water to soak the cooking dishes while we eat dinner, he will not put his hands in it to wash the dishes. He will rinse the dishes before he puts them in the dishwasher but he will not touch the sponge. I often find myself scrubbing and scraping the dishes as I take them out of the dishwasher to get the dried on food off.

He really tries though and so I can't get mad at him for any of it...unless I'm pregnant and cranky! LOL

5littleladies replied: Hmm...I don't know if this is a fair question. I think it might be too easy.

Here's a few of mine-

He always tells me he will do something and 2 weeks later it STILL won't be done.

He thinks it's the biggest inconvience to change Brianna when he's home from work even though I do it all day.

He tells me he is coming to bed and I go down to see what happened to him 2 hours later and he fell asleep on the couch-only a big deal on worknights when he needs the alarm to wake up.

He thinks that somehow we have a never ending fountain of money. This one he is actaully working on. We will see.

Kaitlin'smom replied: well I do have a few, and if theis would have been the other day when I was mad a t him it would be oh soooo long

breaking promises

when he is inconsiderate in what i ask of him (if you want the example I will let you know)

leaving his stinky socks in the living room or dining room (pheeewwww)


humm there maybe more will have to think about it

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: Mine would have to be either computer related or when he will look ast the screaming child to ask me what I am going to do about it.

heavenly_1970 replied: OH...This is GREAT!

When he always gets 'play time' (fishing,hunting,poker night) and Im always at home taking care of the kids.

When he always has at least a couple hundred $$ in his wallet & I never have a flippin penny!

When he expects me to be in 'the mood' any time he's ready

There are more, but I guess I better be grateful he's not hang'n out in the bars all night and picki'n up skanks...

Sunflower04 replied: When he gets sick because he acts like a BIG BABY! and so CRANKY!

jolene555 replied: i love the man bashing . . .

how about when georgia is wearing thin on my patience, so he offers to take her for a bit. when what he actually does is put her in her play pen and pay no attention to her whatsoever and i can hear her crying from the next level.

A&A'smommy replied: OH NO I would not put up with that sorry I did for a year and told him NO MORE now he is NOT alloud on the comp after I go to bed

When he ignores me, doesn't pick up after himself, stays late at work, waits until the VERY last minute to do his homework... I could keep going its a REALLY good thing I love him so much

kimberley replied: hmm this is a hard one for me right now. i am really loving and appreciating DH these days. he truly is the best sure he does things that bug me for about 10 seconds, but that is it.

i guess the biggest thing that bugs me about him is that he doesn't voice what he wants or needs. it is noble to put your family first but your needs should be met also. speak up, i'm not psychic!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

I think this is the thing that irritates me the most about Scotty, too. He never gets mad at me, he never complains when I spend too much money, he won't fight worth a dang, either.

I try NOT to think of the bad, irritating things, really. I just don't think it is healthy for our marriage if I do. That is why I wouldn't post last night on the other thread. I was upset and I didn't want to say something I would regret. He is terrific to me. I just don't know where I would be without him. He has made my life complete and he is my soul mate. So he isn't touchy-feely and he won't give me a massage or rub my feet without me having to ask, but he does love me.

gr33n3y3z replied: Only a few things about RedChief that ticks me off to no end is his Snoring I just want to put a pillow over his head and hold it there. And he gets out of bed in the middle of the night around 3ish and wakes me up getting back in. If I do the pillow thing he wouldnt get out of bed and more nor snore LOL But I still love him enough to keep him around other than that he is great

redchief replied: I do not snore.


Maybe a little.

paradisemommy replied: you guys are funny!!

hmmmmm..mine would be endless playing on either the x-box, playstation, supernintendo or gameboy...

MomToMany replied:
Oh, mine too! He is CONSTANTLY farting, so gross!!!

And yes, he sleeps through the baby moniter cries, too, and it's on his side of the bed on his dresser .

coasterqueen replied: Well, hmmmm.....

The way he says he'll be coming to be in just a minute and it takes him like a half hour to "prepare" for bed.

The way he has to go out like every 1/2 hour to hour every night to go smoke a cigarette but then he won't smoke at work because he doesn't want anyone there to know...but he doesn't care if he takes time out of our evening to do that smelly thing.

When we are done with dinner I like to sit and let my stomach relax for a moment and he HAS to clean up directly after eating. Drives me insane!

I'm sure I have a bazillion more but the worst is his DRIVING!!!!!!!!!!! He drives like a little old lady and I can't stand it.

3xsthefun replied: Actually he is not to bad but there are a few things that bug me!

*He whines & pouts when I want to go out with a friend or just even to the store alone. Oh, and when I want to walk over and see my grandma* It is like he can't be alone with the kids for a couple hours.

*Complains about our pets, ugh...specially the cats! Then he goes and pets them when he thinks I'm not looking! * He knew he married a animal lover I don't know why he does that!

*Goes and spends every Wednesday evening over at his buddy's garage is fine. But then again if I want go out alone or something he doesn't want me to.* I know pretty much like the first complaint!

*He doesn't do this often but sometimes complains about the house work. Mostly me washing clothes & folding* I really don't mind washing I just hate folding! He was good about doing it after I had to have a C-Section with Maegan. Now he hardly helps.

I guess that is about it. There are a few other things that bug me but not major. He is pretty good about watching the kids alot of times. It is just when he gets in his moods not wanting me to go anywhere.

Forgot to add everyonce in a bluemoon..LOL... he will help clean up the house. Go figure!

3xsthefun replied:
OMG! You had me laughing! My husband is the same way.

Just this morning he farted and said "I left you something!"

Mom2Boyz replied: Actually there's not too many things that irritate me about dh.

It would be nice if he would change a dirty diaper once in a while, or put his clothes in the laundry hamper. But all in all he does pretty good. He even cooked dinner last night and gave Conner a bath because I wasn't feeling well

favre4fan replied: QUOTE (kit_kats_mom @ Oct 21 2004, 11:42 AM)


He farts a lot.



hahahahahah my son farts more than the hubby and its disgusting though cause he just lets em rip wherever.

mama3x replied: This is great, the down side of our DHs! Ok here goes...

*Like Lisa...DH's snoring! It's enough to put me in a foul mood. Funny thing is it only seems to bug me/wake me while pg! No matter how many times I kick him or make a big production about getting in and out of bed, he doesn't stop. DD is still in our room so I can't have a fit.

*He says he's going to do something then doesn't do it. EVER.

*His spending is more than his income. This is what has put us in a bad way.

*When I am feeling up to cleaning something, that's the very spot he messes up when he comes home from work! ARGH! So I wonder why do I even try to make a nice house?

*When I am at my wit's end with our DD cranky-butt, he takes her but then does things that upset her more and heck we live in a condo, does he think I can't hear her crying? He can upset her like no one else can. It's usually funny to me but not after a whole day of crankiness.

I promised myself to only list 5 but there are more. However I guess I'll keep him. 'Cause he does handle all the poop jobs (DD's diaper when he's home, cat box, and dog newspaper - they don't go outside).

Jamison'smama replied: I do love my DH but it is nice to share what drives me crazy

~~ he is always tired.. although we start our day at the same time, he goes to work, I stay home then when he comes home, I go to work for a couple of hours and I am 7 MONTHS pregnant but he needs a nap!!!

~~ he is an impulse buyer..if he wants it...he gets it NOW, that was the source of our last big fight, he wanted satellite radio since we moved further from his work, I thought--great, now I have a good CHristmas gift to get for him...nope, he bought it the day after he decided it would be neat to have ARRRGGGGHHH!

~~ his inability to multi-task at home--seems to do it fine at work but if he is watching Jamison, he can't do ANYTHING else.

I guess that's it, he does do a lot for me and for Jamison and I really SHOULD focus on those things Tonight is just one of those nights. I finally got Jamison to sleep at a decent hour and he is downstairs asleep on the couch..we have just had such little time together lately it frustrates me..hence me venting on the computer right now

Littlejojames replied: OMG the endless farting. Its always down to what he eats too its like "oh thats the carrots" he even sleeps with him bum hanging out of the bed at night. I kind of get the feeling that if he didnt fart every 3-5 minutes he will explode.
Sometimes if i call him for his farting he will let one go when were in bed then hold the blanket over my head while i scream the place down trying to find a hole to breath out of.

He is not a snorer or anything but every now and again he klacks his teeth like he is eating something for hours on end when asleep i end up hitting him hard and then pretending to be asleep myself.

My2Beauties replied: I am laughing so hard at work right now the people are looking at me!!!

OK here are my pet peeves:

* The fact that he comes and goes as he pleases and I'm always stuck at home with Hanna

*I think farts are funny but sometimes it just gets dsgusting..I mean who can seriously fart every 1-2 minutes and not have to go poo

*Sometimes my DF can be insensitive, when something is bothering me and he thinks it shouldn't he lets me know

*how he can literally go from wide awake to comatosed in 2.5 seconds (I wish I could do that, I lay there awake for at least an hour)

Other than those minor things, I love my DF to death! I honestly don' tknow what I would do without him! I love him so much Not to mention he rocks my workd if you know what I mean

Josie83 replied: I always feel bad saying things about Jason because honestly there aren't that many things that wind me up about him. Even things that i don't adore, I knew about when we got together and he wouldn't be him without them. i think I agree with Aimee - I'm not a big fan of the man bashing. he's so lovely to me and Cassie I'd just feel mean! xx

TANNER'S MOM replied: A bunch of stuff..

When beer is all I can smell on his breath at night, and he thinks I want to kiss.


He never cleans the yard..that really p's me off. He says it doesnt' need it. Now mind you my yard is 3 acres, and it is work, But I do it.

When he lives his wet towel on the bed.

When he lets the older kids do things I will not, just so he doesn't have to listen to then.

When he makes the cat sound, rrrrrrrr when I say something to him more than once.

If he didn't act like a child I wouldn't treat him like one,

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When he says " My mom worked full time, raised 3 kids on a farm, and our clothes were always washed and ironed" I say you know where your mom is?

And is your mom the one keeping u warm 2nite.