first tri-mester question

Kaitlin'smom wrote: just a reminder my sister is PG not me.

anyway since I missed my first tri-mester, I have really no clue on this. sister's DH called my DH last night to ask how I was the first tri-mester of PG well he could not answer since we found out late 2nd almost 3 tri-mester. anyway he said she constally complains she is tired all the time and was home all day yesterday (except for the docs appointment) and did nothing, did not even pick up her clothes on the floor, very unlike her. She is all very (ummm excues this) witchy, snapping at him constantly, and the kids. He is wondering if he is in for a llllooooonnnnggggg 8 more months or if things will get better. I honstly dont know if he will be able to handle this. I love my sister but she is so possesive and has a controll issue with men.

oh she is 7 weeks pg

any insite that I can pass along to him and maybe something I can say to her?

MomToMany replied: I know I was very tired during my first trimesters. I never got to rest, which compounded the problem. I would tell him to give her space, and let her rest as much as possible. It's a big adjustment her body has to make. Once she gets past the 1st trimester, she should be feeling much better (at around 13 weeks).

Good luck to them!

jdkjd replied: fatigue and bitchy-ness are completely normal. Just mention to her that you know the hormones are out of control but that she probably needs to be extra-nice to the father-to-be as he is going through a transition time also.

Poor daddies really need are help as they feel a loss of control also.

ediep replied: yes, Iwas very tired in my first trimester. I would come home from work and take a nap whenever I could. Sometimes my Dh would come home from work and find me asleep.

I have heared that witchy-ness is also common, although I have no experience (just kidding)

Kaitlin'smom replied: is there anyting he can do or I to help her with the witchy-ness, espically with the kids, they so dont need that.

so i will tell him if she says she is tired say well hon why dont you go rest...something in a sweet and loving tone.....but then she will probaly snap at him for teling her what to do.

oh this should be fun, I will have to see how she acts tomorrow at thanksgiving, might have to say something to her and reasure her, its been a while since she has been PG

coasterqueen replied:
I almost slept my entire first pregnancy away...not too much nastiness towards my husband but extremely sleepy. This time around I actually have energy but I didn't in my first trimester. I'm also extremely moody and my head spins 360 degrees a lot of the time.

I know the kids don't need that and I'm not sure what the DH can do. My husband just tries to make me aware of how I'm being..in a very careful calm manner. I know I try to control myself but it's hard. It's so uncontrollable IMO, lol. I just try to walk away from the situation when I can.

The best thing he can do is try to understand not everyone has an easy pregnancy and that some may have every symptom possible.

Kaitlin'smom replied: sounds like this is gonna be ruff on him its his frist child so he really has no clue what to expect and lots to learn, he is hoping for twins

the probelm with him tring to tell her how she is makes her worse. no matter how he presents it to her.

I will have to see how she is tomorrow in person and maybe I can shed some light on it

angelhair replied: boy do I relate. I am to 7 weeks today about and I am so tired it is all I can do to feed my son breakfast in the morning. sometimes I have to lie down and he plays in the room with me or listens to a musixc player that I have in the same room!!! I thought I must be carrying twins(which I doubt I was so tired) I would bre up for three hours and feel like I have to take a nap agian he he! also feeling whitchy at times, but not to bad. also having morning sickness in the morning makes me want to lie down until my stomach settles. energy levels should come up as hormone levels taper off around the second semester. the body is taking a lot of energy creating a little person. dh may have to pick up the house a little( please understand I am not saying he does not but he may have to do a little more) also if there was anyway he could take the kids out for a hour or so on the weekends I am sure his wife will appreciate it. also there may be chat rooms for dads tobe during preg . I know it is tough for the dad as well as the mom, but it will get better and the bonus at the end is worth everything now!!! love dee/angelhair

Kaitlin'smom replied: thanks I will pass the info on

amb22 replied: I agree my hubby stayed outta the way!!lol

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I had every symptom imagineable this last time. It is miserable, too. I think I was snappy b/c I didn't have the energy to clean or walk across the room most days. I expected so much of myself that it really bothered me and put me in a bad mood when I couldn't get anything done around here (DH doesn't help with the house). Not to mention my hormones were out of control. A lot of times I knew what was happening to me, but I still couldn't control the mood swings. DH was soooo good about it though. He was very available and helped out with Maddie. I think he understood a lot more the second time around. Like I said, he just made himself available. If I wanted him he was there and if I didn't he stayed away. I pretty much called the shots. If your sister has this personality it might be good for her DH to take this advice.

Just reassure her that it is okay to get her rest and that she really needs to rest if she is tired. It is her body's way of telling her she needs to take it easy. I hope she feels better soon and it passes in the first trimester....mine eased up a little after the first trimester, but lasted the whole pregnancy.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I just got through my 1st trimester and I'm STILL tired all the time! If I don't get either 10 hours of sleep every night or a 2 or 3 hour nap in the afternoon I'm useless and really cranky. I get irritated really easily and if I'm feeling sick or have heartburn and something's grating on my nerves it gets way worse.

mama3x replied: I too was so tired the first tri that it took A LOT of mental and physical effort just to get out of bed. I was snappy b/c I HATED that everything took so much effort and I was thinking "well why can't I have a regular pg and be able to take care of my household at least ONCE?!"

It would be ideal if our other halves were psychic and could anticipate our needs. But since that's not possible, I think the only thing your sis's hub can do is try to anticipate when he should take over with the kids, rub her feet and shoulders, buy dinner, etc. He may have to grin and bear it and tell the kids mommy's having a hard time. But it should get better when her body adjusts, by the 2nd tri.

Much luck to them!

Tamatha replied: We're not entirely certain how far along I am, but we do know that we're still in the first trimester. I'm guessing about 6 or 7 weeks or so about now, but really not sure. But I can say that I am BEYOND tired and I have been cranky beyond belief lately! Poooooor DH!! Today, I got home from church and sat down on the couch. Ate an orange, and fell asleep watching football. I was supposed to be doing laundry... oops! DH did the laundry and then got all cranky at me, telling me I was milking the pregnancy and all that... that didn't go over well... LOL But we're ok now, and I took over laundry once I woke up. This is our first pregnancy, so I don't know if this is normal or not, but it seems to be what's going on with me!! Don't know if that helps, but I can definitely identify!

jen replied: I guess I had it much easier, I was far too excited to be feeling anything! Like I said i was just lucky. I was more of a witch when I couldn't wear anything but slippers and socks and looked like ORKA!

greatkate replied: Gosh! If my husband made comments like I was being lazy, I think he would actually see fire breathing outta my mouth!! Today is my day off and I plan to do absolutely nothingbut lay around. I am in my begginning of 13th week and I am not as tired as I was before, but I was really bad first trimester. Tell him to give her a brake. She wont have "Lazy Time" very much longer!