feeling a little shakey - is anyone on right now?????

ediep wrote: hi guys

sorry that I've been to busy to post lately, we've been busy in our new house. There is always so much to do, clean, unpack, hang up, order......


anyway, my DH is gone for a few days on a work trip and I am feeling a little anxious. It started yesterday when he left, and last night I was fine, but for some reason I feel shakey now. I forced myself to eat some lunch even though I wasnt hungry at all and then my stomach started acting up. I know that my anxiety triggers my IBS. I took my meds and actually, my dad will be here soon. He is watching the kids because I have an appointment with my therapist. I haven't seen her is 4 weeks because of the move, then she was on vacation. So I guess, its good that I am seeing her today since I feel anxious today.

any words of encouragement would be helpful

Calimama replied: Oh hun I know it's hard being by yourself. Just think about how great you did the other times he's been gone. The time will pass quickly, just keep yourself busy.

moped replied:

ediep replied: ANYONE?

PrairieMom replied: Just take some deep breaths, and try to focus on something else. Ihope your therapist can help you.

Calimama replied: I can't edit my post so I have to make a new one. Maybe being outdoors would help? I know if I start feeling stressed I take Bella for a walk and we both get rejuvenated. When does he come back?

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry sweetie I agree take some deep breaths and try to find something to help stay busy!!!!

another idea; maybe after you talk to your therapist have someone come stay with the kids and take a hot bath, light some candles and listen to some relaxing music. Also try to focus on what is good about the day.. your kids are heathly, you have a GREAT new house and don't worry about anything that might need to be done (unpacking and all the stuff) just try to relax maybe even try to fit a movie in

ediep replied:
I KNOW, if only it weren't so rainy here today


I think with some thought I've pinpinted the trigger, so I am starting to calm down a bit

DH comes home tomorrow night, but then he is going out again on Saturday

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Hey ! You are OK! He is OK! This is perfectly normal and it will pass soon. There is nothing that you being in a state of panic will accomplish. You have an amazing family-wonderful kids and beautiful new home and a husband who loves you! Everyone has these times and fears in their life and you are not alone or odd in your feelings! PM me if you need to

moped replied: Are you ok Edie?

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
That's good. Do more relaxation breathing.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Edie, you will be okay. Take a deep breath and try and relax. Can you put the baby down and take a nap yourself? The house stuff can wait. The things I do when I get anxious are: go to the gym (you can still workout when it's raining outside), take a warm bath, drink a cup of tea, or a glass of wine ( ), call a friend. Just closing my eyes from time to time helps me to snap out of any negative thoughts. Hang in there. DH will be home before you know it.

What about getting a sitter and going out with some girlfriends, would that help? Always helps to lift my spirits!

luvmykids replied: Does it help at all to remember you've felt this way before and nothing bad happened? Think of last time DH was gone, and you made it through I hope your session today helps

ediep replied: thanks so so so much everyone!!!

I do feel better, but I'm still shaken up a bit. My session went well and my parents came over for dinner. DH comes home tomorrow night, and I am having some friends over tomorrow, so that should help too.

What set me off this time wasn't one thing but a bunch of little things that kept raising my anxiety level until this afternoon, it got to the point that I found myself in tears and going to the bathroom (a few times)

anyway, I don't want to rehash all the things that got to me, but thanks everying so ,uch for your words of encouragement and hugs!! They mean so much to me!

Anthony275 replied: i dont feel good either!

MommyToAshley replied: Hi Edie, Sorry I wasn't here yesterday.

I am glad to see that you are feeling better and that you were able to figure out what triggered it. I may be wrong, but it does seem like it happens more frequently when your DH travels. I am sure you have already discussed this with your therapist.

How are you feeling today?

I feel like we are going through something similar, although our physical symptoms are different. Remember those two episodes where I ended up in the ER... that started with a dry mouth and bad taste in my mouth, then light headedness, numb and shaky feeling, etc? Now, whenever I wake up with a dry mouth, I panic. The only thing that calms me down is to wake DH up... he has a way of reassuring me. I always carry a bottle of water with me every place. If something more serious was wrong, I am sure a bottle of water is not the answer, but it keeps me from panicking when I get that dry mouth feeling.

I switched doctors and I was telling my new family doctor that I am sure the symptoms I had when I went to the ER were not brought on by anxiety. But, now because I am afraid of having a similar episode, I am not sure where the physical symptoms stop and the anxiety takes over. I know I still have a lot of anxiety about more serious conditions even though the biopsies came back ok. My new family doc explained how the body reacts in different situations (she went into detail and medical reasons), but in the end she said that it would be difficult to tell where the anxiety picks up. I am so glad that I switched doctors -- I don't feel like I am going crazy now. She is also doing some additional testing just to make sure something is not going on and to ease my mind. If things continue and they do not find any physical reasons for all these symptoms, she may suggest that I go on anti-anxiety meds. But, I am glad she is ruling out all other possibilities first.

I guess my point in telling you this is to let you know you are not alone. I am at a point in my life where everyone keeps telling me that I should be happy and thankful for all that I have ... and I am. But, it's difficult for anyone to understand unless they are going through the same thing. For me, switching doctors and finding one that I REALLY trust has made a world of difference. How do you feel about your family doctor and your therapist? If you do trust them, that's great and it does seem like you are making progress. If you aren't quite sure you trust them, I would recommend that you keep looking until you do find one that you feel comfortable with and TRUST.

Please post here, or even call or PM me if you ever start to feel shakey. We can help each other out.

ediep replied:
thanks so much DeeDee, what we are dealing with does seem to be very similar. I wasn't sure where my anxiety started and when it came to my physical symptoms. My anxiety hits me in the stomach and diarreah alyways causes me to get nervous that I am getting sick. Its a cycle.

I saw a psychiatrist, therapist, GP, and a Gastro-doc..... most seem to think that most of my stomach symptoms are anxiety related althoigh I was diagnosed with IBS and the gastro doc did run a ton of tests that I should be getting the results of this week. I have a follow up appointment on Thursday

anyway, hope you start feeling better soon too. Anxiety meds have helped me a lot

Jamison'smama replied: Hey Edie, I just saw this and am so glad you are better today. That is another way to get through the anxious moment, to remember the last time it happened and that you worked through it and came out on the other side unscathed. It is just constantly reminding yourself that it is anxiety, it will pass, you can name it, and figure out your triggers, use your coping skills or your therapeutic images or whatever it is that you have worked out with your therapist. You are doing great. It doesn't go away overnight as you know but it is getting better. There are good days and bad days for sure! Does the new house keep you busy or make you more anxious? I imagine a little of both