dont even bother reading my vent...need to get it - out before I blow.

kit_kats_mom wrote: this afternoon during lunch, K was playing in the other room. She had managed to lock herself in her room and was freaking out. She was crying and I went to rescue her. FIL gave me a "look" when I got back to the table. Then she did it again. I was trying to stall her by asking her what's wrong etc and he said "well, what's wrong is you two run to her every time she cries. She's been living the high life".


It took everything I had to not say something really rude back to him like "well, you did such a great job parenting that your boys won't even talk to you". Or maybe, "gee, I think that showing love to our child is part of our job. Just leaving them to cry for hours on end constitutes abuse in my book." Or maybe "Well, perhaps you are right. From now on, when she's hungry she can just go to the kitchen and make her own dang food. While we're at it, why don't we just move out and let her have the house and take care of herself"....freakin' fracking' JERK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've explained to them our parenting style and you'd think he'd just shut up already.

either he is just really a rude crotchety old creep (I have other words I would like to use here but I will refrain ) or he is just really, really, really stupid. That's the 3rd comment he's made about what awful parents we are since he's been here and I can tell he's biting his tongue other times. Most people know better. Thats a more volitile subject than politics in my book.

Oh, and did I mention that he has also been cracking on our choice of places to live? Yep, I've heard twice that since we live in the storm center of the universe right now, that "maybe we should move to "Gods Country"" meaning the middle of nowhere where he lives. Where you can't go outside for half the year for fear of freezing to death. And did I mention the dust storms or tornados? I almost slipped by saying "well, darn Carl, we moved as far away as possible from you. Lord knows why we'd want to move any closer. If we did, you may come visit more than once a year and that is totally out of the question!!"

My MIL is driving me nuts too but she's at least a nice person...just really dinghy.

I've had it. I'm going to be so relieved when they leave tomorrow.

MomToMany replied: I'm so sorry you have to deal with that, Cary! I'd like to kick him somewhere that would really hurt for you!

Thank goodness they are leaving tomorrow!! I hope you can make it til then!!

jdkjd replied: I wish I could be there to say all the things you want to say. Only one more day, thank god.

kit_kats_mom replied: Geez Jenn, I wish you were here too. LOL

I forgot to mention that he's also mentioned killing my cat at least twice where I've heard it. Freak! what kind of guest does that kind of stuff?

jdkjd replied: Just think of him as being a "special" person who has the manners of an evil 5 year old and stop thinking of him as a normal.

It's obvious that you have way to high of expectations if you think of him as a father, grandfather or even human.

Guest replied: May he bite his tongue completely OFF!! He should NEVER say those things to you!! How disrespectful and rude. I can't stand when people comment on my parenting skills. You are doing an excellent job with K. I hope the night passes quickly!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oops! That was me.

MommyToAshley replied: OMG! I can't believe that... I think I would have given him the name of a hotel and left his bags on the front steps. I am sorry you have to deal with that!

Ashley likes to shut doors and lock them too... I guess I am a bad parent too. I found these things at BabysRUs that fit over the top of the door so now she can't shut the doors.

MomToJade&Jordan replied: What an inconsiderate j--k. I wish I was there because I would be doing this to him for you. My MIL can get a little mouthy about our parenting style and in fact told me that my daughter was just a little spolied when I was there last. Don't get me wrong I love the woman, but that really pissed me off. I am so glad that they will be leaving tomorrow.

Cay replied: All you can really do, for your own sanity, is feel sorry for him. He's obviously a very bitter man. The older generation will always have something to say about how the younger ones parent etc - it's always been like that and always will.It's a pitty he's got to be so nasty about it though.

I get some nasty looks when I sling my baby and some comments about my baby using a pacifier.The older generation do that irritating shaking of heads bit - it's rather annoying.

I get told I'm spoiling my baby etc, etc, etc - you know how it goes. I keep getting told..."In my days............." Well you know what, we are not in their days and the way we do things is different so they will just have to GET OVER IT . In their days babies were left to cry and the general attitude was that a baby should be seen and not heard - no wonder we have so many scr*wed up people around these days.
I too, wish I had the courage to tell them exactly what I think but am always too polite and too scared I hurt someones feelings - even though they are hurting mine.

My favourite is when a certain person says "a fool and his money are easily parted", I get this comment when I buy something for my baby that they think is uneccessary.The only reason they never bought all these 'unecessary things" is because they never had it in "their days".

Oops, my little comment turned out to be a mini vent too, sorry I intruded on your vent.

Josie83 replied: How annoying, I hate the way everyone thinks that they know best how to raise your child . . . and when they're in your own home as well! How flaming rude. You are doing a great job with Katherine and don't ANYONE tell you otherwise! I think we all know how it feels to have someone trying to interfere, so we can all understand where you're coming from! I hope the rest of their visit passes over quickly, and I hope you feel better for venting! xx

momof2girls replied: I read it anyways
man o man I feel bad for you!!!!
Its sooooo hard to bite your tongue Im sure
I dont know if I would have been able to in that situation.

after reading this I feel Im sooo blessed my inlaws are pretty good about staying out of our buissness, but I also think they know I would not stand for them saying things...

I hope they leave soon!!!!!!!!!

Are they loving to K???

maestra replied: Are they gone yet? Or are you still

MY fil drives me crazy this way sometimes too- like when he was holding her at 6 months and threatened to spank her for something. I looked at him and said "No you won't". I'm sorry, but if my child misbehaves, even while at your house, I will take care of it. I don't allow the grandparents to discipline my child (and she didn't do anything but get hungry and want to nurse!)

I think that's hard for my fil because he and mil are basically raising sil's two girls, even though she lives with them. And we don't ever leave Jaci alone with them, so there's no reason for them to feel the need to discipline anyway! We're always there!

Jamison'smama replied: Sorry you are going through this crap---I can't believe you can bite your tonge during this---I would just have to make little side comments like--Well, I love her and leave it at that---he is just being old school I suppose but to speak to someone's parenting style is just like a slap in the face. Hang in there (and watch your cat).

kit_kats_mom replied:
they :rbounce:are gone!!!!!:rbounce:



MIL is very loving to K but not FIL. Granted, he is my DH's step-dad but he is just a hard a** old fart as far as I can tell. I seriously don't think he said one nice thing the whole time he was here. He never said good morning etc. Whatever, I hope I have 11 long happy months of bliss before I have to submit myself to that again.

DansMom replied: Uggh... family. In-laws. Uggh!

DH's step-sister voiced a lot of criticism about our cosleeping---how it was a very bad idea and Daniel would have problems when he reached grade school. I had the same desire to point out to her how awful her own kids turned out---her daughter had a baby as a teenager and was never able to parent her own child due to drug and alcohol problems. She didn't even regain custody until her daughter was ten. I'm not saying cosleeping would have made her daughter deal differently with her problems, but the point is---hey, tend to your own! And I'll tend to mine! KWIM?

Alice replied: From your "storm center" line, I assume you're in Florida??

Why, in the name of God, would anyone impose themselves on someone who lives in Florida this month??? You would think that the first hurricane would be enough to end their visit. You have enough on your hands without houseguests, and certainly without rude ones even more so.

So do your happy dance now that they're gone, and batten down the hatches once again!

momof2girls replied: Whew I know your happy they are gone..... !!!!!