cremation.....question - Spin off of Amy nicole's Post,LOL!

Boys r us wrote: So, I see as far as the votes go cremation is winning out..I'm very curious about this!

If you voted cremation or if that is what you plan to request be done with your body once you pass away, what made you decide this was the right choice for you?

I'm not in any way, shape or form saying it's not a good choice..I'm just curious! That's all!

cameragirl21 replied: I didn't vote for cremation and it's against Jewish law so obviously I wouldn't do it BUT most people who tell me they prefer cremation choose it because it seems simple--no need for a large casket and no need for concerns about how to dress the body, open v shut casket, etc. It also goes against the establishment so to speak because it is not the way things have always been done, which makes it seem like an obvious choice for me, lol.
I personally am a bit weirded out by the subject because I do a lot of volunteer/charity work with the terminally ill so it's become a very real question all around me BUT i like the idea of being returned to the earth as I'm really the very earthy type and would spend every waking minute in my garden if it weren't always so hot out.
congrats on your baby girl on the way btw....

MoonMama replied: That's a good question I wouldn't mind hearing opinions on too. Sense I too choose burial.

kit_kats_mom replied: I have chosen it for a few reasons.
1. financial. I just don't see the point in burdening my family with big funeral costs, plot purchases etc. A little memorial at home is fine with me.
2. Biology class-I don't really want to become worm food and decompose. I can't even stand rotten steak. I sure don't want to become rotten steak.
3. family-it's what my family has done in the past. Some of them have had their ashes buried but most have had them scattered in places that had meaning to them. When I go to the river where my grandfather kyaked almost every morning at sunrise, and where his ashes are scattered, I feel closer to him that I ever would at a gravesite. I know that place was near and dear to him and we shared many great times there.
4. the fact that gravesites are becoming less available. I believe I read that there will be nowhere in NYC to be buried in the coming years. They are full up. Plus, the fear of floods and stuff freak me out. Did you guys hear about the corpses and coffins that they are finding in the woods after hurricane Rita (I think it was Rita)? Basically, duck hunters have found 300+ bodies and caskets that were disinterred from the flood waters. That just doesn't seem like the peace you'd expect from"rest in peace".

cameragirl21 replied:
Oh, Cary that is just disgusting! I've never heard of that but it did give me a visual of that movie "Poltergeist" where all the corpses washed up in their unfinished swimming pool at the end.
Wow, I'm surprised no one has made a horror movie about that yet, I can see a B movie in the works already....

luvbug00 replied: I chose to be "cooked" becasue like i said i don't want to be buried alive. as for where my ashes go I want them to be combined with Brads when he dies and be put 1/2 in mossuri with his beloved Papa and the other half wherever my brother will be via URN or where he will be burried upon his death. Being that he and I have such a close bond and as far as blood we are all each other has.

amynicole21 replied: I don't like the idea of rotting away underground Also, all of the embalming and dressing up of the dead is really freaky to me. I agree with not wanting to take up more space as well.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I am not 100% decided but I am leaning towards it. When my grandfather died he was cremated and wanted his ashes scattered in the ocean on his favorite beach so our whole family went at sunrise. My grandmother scattered his ashes and all of his children & grandchildren threw flowers in the ocean for him and it was such a beautiful moment.

ETA: Now every time I go to the beach I can be with him in a way - even if it's not the same beach, I know he's out there somewhere. I'd like for my children to be able to feel that same connection once I'm gone without having to go to a cemetary.

mummy2girls replied: Im not sure what I want to do with myself.. but i wanted to cremate Jordan and I did.. we had a funeral for hima nd he was dressed in my baptism oputfit then after he was cremated .. everyone wondered why i wanted it done but for me i just did. I couldnt explain it. I had dreams of him underground cold and alone and crying and him calling out to me... ( the night We lost him) and i knew that wouldnt happen but it freaked me out:(

I do want to have my organs donated and my family knows this..

Heather77 replied:

That is my main reason!

gr33n3y3z replied: Like I said before Its just a hole in the ground and bones No one is really there bc our souls go up. I dont want ppl. to come and morn me Its not what life is about move on enjoy life dont forget me but dont morn either.

hawkshoe replied:
Me too. After I am cremated, I really don't care what they do with me. I used to think I wanted to be burried in a particular cemetary, but the older I get the less important that seems.

My2Beauties replied: My dad has always told me to cremate him because #1 of the financial burden and #2 he doesn't want anyone to remember their last look at him dead in a casket, he said he wants a service with a picture of him from a time in his life when he was healthy and happy and his ashes spread all all over different fishing lakes and ponds (he's a fisherman). He said funerals haunt him when he looks at the corpses because they don't look like themselves! I've never wanted to be underground but I never wanted cremation neither, I kind of wanted to be put in a moseleum (sp?) the drawer thingies but then the thought of earthquakes come to mind and those things shattering and bodies spilling out everywhere. I'm leaning more towards cremation every time I think about it and talk to my dad about his choices.

TheOaf66 replied: for me, it is just the sheer financial aspect. A casket, plot, and funeral costs are way to expensive plus the thought of my corpse just rotting in the ground doesn't make much sense to me. I would rather be creamated and have my ashes spread somewhere I would love to spend eternity. I told Jennie if that I go first and get cremated I wanted my ashes spread over the track where I drive Demolition Derby every year because that is something I absolutely love doing. She said she wouldn't. I than said put them into an ern and put it right in front of your bed just in case she gets any funny ideas about bringin another guy in there, I will be there watching everything

holley79 replied: I missed the poll but I haven't given it much thought. I know my mom and dad both want to be cremated and thier ashes together spread at the river they use to always canoe.

redchief replied: I'm in line with what Cary and Lisa said. Eventually we will all decompose basically to ash anyway; I figure cremation will simply speed up the process. According to catholic canon law, I wish my ashes to be properly buried.

Crystalina replied: I just don't want to be dug up and stuck in a drawer 5,000 yrs from now. They'll be picking apart my clothes checking out the fibers trying to figure out who or what I was. No thanks.

Also financial. Heck, I'll be dead. There is no need to spend anymore money on me. Also I hate getting flowers and that would just be a nightmare for me being surrounded by not only flowers but also a bunch of people crying. Again, no thanks.

I will leave it up to my kids whether they want to have a place to mourn. We have enough property they can even stick me in the backyard and I'll always be there. That way if they move they can take me with them.

boyohboyohboy replied: We have chosen cremation, (I also missed the poll) we feel its best financially, and have already completed our wills, and cremation policies. We felt it was best for the kids to not have to deal with it.
also we feel religiously, thats we want to return the earth and feed the earth as our souls will be in heaven.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Wow, I thought I was the only loony who was thinking that way! I hate the thought of bugs and crud crawling all over me and eating my dead flesh.

Hubby wants to be spread around that darned demolition derby track and I told him no. I need some place to go mourn and "talk" to him when he's gone, if he should leave before me. Maybe I'll keep him in an urn at our house so I can nag at him after he's gone too.

TheOaf66 replied:
read my request to this thread dear...

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I'll cremate you! I'm not spreading you all over though.

mom2my2cuties replied: I think he is refering to the wanting you to place him facing the bed in the event that you bring another guy home.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Yeah, that was what the eye roll was for. I tried to ignore what he said. Actually, I told him if he ever finds someone else after I'm dead that I'm going to be haunting him until she leaves. I think I'd be more jealous than him.

mom2my2cuties replied: hehehehe I told Andrew the same thing

Boo&BugsMom replied: Hey, you know they make necklace urns you can keep some ashes in so you can keep your loved one around your neck at all times? I think I'm going to put that in my wil to request that hubby do that. That will be sure to keep the ladies away.

mom2my2cuties replied: I think i would definately stay away if I knew he wore his dead wifes ashes around his neck