and to add onto everything - there has been bully....

luvbug00 wrote: Mya told me this morning that there is a kid at school who flicks her upside the head at lunch I immidiately wrote to her teacher and sent the note in with her. I expect an update at some point today. I'm so furious and i hope they use the no tolerance bully rules on this kid. Mya has enough to be worried about!

grapfruit replied: Chances are, he's not a bully, he likes her. Remember how dumb guys are at that age? They don't know how to tell girls they like them, so they pick on them.

I remember in 3rd grade there was a boy that used to call me Casey Jones ALL the time. I have no idea why this bothered me, must of been his "tone" LoL! Anyway, I had many a recesses running away crying (w/o letting him see me of course!) and "pretending" not to let it bother me (mom's advice). That worked the best (of course it would!) and eventually he stopped picking on me b/c it wasn't fun anymore...a few short years later we were bf and gf

MommyToAshley replied: I'm glad she told you... this is probably the root of her behavioral problems. I hope the school puts an end to it!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Awww poor Mya, that's awful! I hope it gets resolved.

moped replied:
I might agree that he isn't likely a bully, but likes her.........

Kaitlin'smom replied: yep he might like her, I rememebr being 'picked' on when a boy liked me. either way I hope it gets resolved

A&A'smommy replied: awww poor girl!!! Everyone is probably right though, he more than likely has a crush on her!!! I hope it gets resolved quickly!!

Calimama replied: Maybe this is what she's been having problems with rather than the new baby? Poor Mya, I hope it stops.

luvbug00 replied: Well i called the school and they are having it taken care of immidately. they confirmed it was bullying since it was planned and "malicious" ( i don't know if you would call flicking malicious, but whatever.) so the kid has one chance to straighten up or he will be suspended. I'm proud of mya for telling me and so i think i will take her for a treat today.

also i enrolled her with the counceler to meet wit some other kids of seperated/devorced/uncivil parents so she won't feel so alone in that and have a place to share her feelings.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I'd tell her to flick him back!

grapfruit replied:
LoL! I would of too.


In a way I don't think suspending a 1st grader for "flicking" is appropriate either. I mean if she doesn't like he shouldn't do it. But make him stand on the wall at recess or write "I will not flick girls" 100 times on the chalk board while the rest of the kids are at recess.

Sometimes I think they go a little overboard w/the suspensions (like the boy that got suspended for drawing a gun). Most of the time I think they just don't understand the rules, or understand why picking on a girl isn't allowed. Boys are boys, they're GOING to pick on girls, that's what they do. Some of it needs to be tolerated. I don't think him flirting should have to go on his permant school record. KWIM?

Before you throw tomatoes, I agree if Mya doesn't like it, it should stop, I just think there are better ways of handling it. She's a pretty girl, better get used to it!!

luvbug00 replied: I dunno whatever the school thinks they have to do. it's a zero bully toerance policy here. so I'm not surprised they are going to that extreme and TBH since the v-tech sooting i think you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who would disagree with the school. the mindset here is if he is bullying one then how many others and is one of those others going to be so effected they might try to hurt themselves or their peers??

My mindset is if he does it again there better be some kind of repermand because not only is it effecting mya at school it is also doing it at home.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Maddie is the same age as Mya and I would in NO way allow that!!!! Neither would our school. Flirting or not, what happened to the rule "Keep hands, feet and objects to yourself." That is rule number ONE.

That little jerk needs to know not to pick on people. If he just gets a slap on the hand, he knows he can continue the behavior with little to no punishment. I don't go for that!! I cannot stand bullies.