age gaps - betw. your kids..

kel wrote: what do you feel is the perfect age gap between your children?
i think 4 yrs is great but everyone seems to think the "gap" is too big..
i just feel like kira would never understand if i had to come home with a baby now,physically im not ready and emotionally i am just not ready..

MomToMany replied: For me, the perfect age difference is 2 years. It's not too much, but long enough. They won't remember being alone, just having their sibling(s) around. So, there shouldn't be any jealousy.

~CrazieMama~ replied: I agree, right around 2 years is good..... my kids are almost 7 years apart and Tyler gets jelous alot. He even told me that he wishes he was an only child again...

Boys r us replied: 6 years was wonderful for us! I can't even BEGIN to go into all of the positives of it..again..for us!
We plan to have 5 yrs between Braedon and the next!

kimberley replied: i think 2 years would be my choice too. my boys are 18mos apart and then Jade was born 5 1/2 yrs later. the boys were hard with 2 in diapers and they do fight a lot BUT they keep each other entertained which frees up my time to cook and clean.

ediep replied: I am thinking 3 years right now. We'll see when that time comes....

mama3x replied: I have always thought that 4 yrs was a good gap. By the time the older one was 4, he/she would start kindergarten which would give time to spend with baby at home. Plus elementary school would be the only time they end up at the same school together.

However plans don't always work - I have 11 yrs between my 2 now and there'll be 20 months between my DD and our boy on the way. AH WELL!

Just remember that the gap that's right for one person isn't necessarily right for another. MANY feel that 2 yrs is perfecto but being where I am now, I disagree - it's not for me!

kit_kats_mom replied: I think I've read that 2-3 years is the ideal for spacing. That's because the first doesn't have time to really get used to being an only and apparently they are more "open" to accepting a sibling at that age. Ours is right on the money there, 28 mos, even though we didn't plan it that way. LOL

3xsthefun replied: I think 2 or 3 years is a good age gap.

My two have almost 4 years between them.

Heather replied: Alison and Holly are almost 2 years apart. Alison has really taken to having Holly around. It is like Holly has always been here. She misses her when she is not around (ie sleeping) and is so loving to her. I can't wait til Holly starts "playing" more. They are just going to have so much fun together. It was a harder adjustment for me then for Alison, I think

So for me 2 years was good

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I think it is different for everyone. Depending on the first child's personality and the parents. For us and Maddie, 4 years was good. I didn't even think of getting pregnant before then and never had baby fever after her. Now, after Ethan I have had baby fever since he was born. We aren't planning anymore, though. I think if I would have had Ethan first they would have been spaced closer together. It all depended on our age, too. We set goals.

ctymom replied: 2 years is a good gap between kids. Although I have a 15 yo, 12 yo(13 in November), our angel would have been 11 yo and now an almost 10 month. lol

Pamela

Elle replied: There's not such thing as a perfect age gap. There are 2 years between each of my kids, but when the twins arrive the gap between them and their older sister will be 6 years, and I don't think that's bad at all. It depends on the child and on how the parents handle the "new baby" situation.

A&A'smommy replied: hmm I don't know.... I agree with the "no such thing" lol I really don't know how Alyssa would handle being around a baby I would be SOOO nervous! We will see when the time comes

Alice replied:
I think that's the real issue. Kids will adapt to whatever happens. If and when you decide to have another, Kira will do just great. But if you're not ready, that should decide it, or at least be where the conversation starts.

By the way, my youngest is also Kira. I love that name!