Yesterday we went to

Boys r us wrote: Rick's consultation for his Vasectomy. He's gettiing it done next friday at 1:30.
I go back and forth on it. In my mind I KNOW I am done done done...but then I look at my baby and it makes me sad to think that I'll never get to experience this again..but I mean I could have 10 kids and feel the same way, obviously there HAS to be an end in sight somewhere, right?!!?

We went out of town for a long 4 day weekend to Savannah and it reminded me how much I have been missing our time together, just he and I. So part of me is excited to sort of get this done and continue moving towards a new chapter in our lives where we will obviously have more and more time together as a couple and with time we can become our focus. So I guess what I'm saying is I'm feeling a little torn, I love having a little baby and it's going to be sad to know without a shadow of a doubt that this is it, but on the other side of the fence, I know that 3 is plenty and we have a beautiful family and now can just focus on raising our 3 kids and finding ourselves again, buried somewhere deep beneath the mommy and daddy faces we wear!!

Is this normal? for anyone who has had their tubes tied or DH gotten a vasectomy? I am convincing myself that is would always be bittersweet making it so permanent and final and I would think that really it is normal to be a bit nervous about it. Should I be 101% certain and have no sadness about it? or is the 99.9% certainy I have about it enough?

lisar replied: Completly normal. When I had my tubes tied I thought about that alot. And then again with the hysterctomy. I thought about it. I just kept reminding myself that the 2 I have are healthy and beautiful. And just think of it this way one day your kids will have kids and you can spoil them rotten and send them home. It is normal it will pass with time though.

A&A'smommy replied: I think for just about anyone its a bittersweet thing!!

mom2my2cuties replied: I think as women and especially as moms this feeling is completely natural. And for a while, the feeling will always be there, especailly with each new milestone your last one meets.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I think it's totally normal. I know I feel the exact same way. But DH wont' take the step and have the "V". I want him to. I'm so happy with our 2 kids and I'm SO done!

redchief replied: Your reaction is totally normal. I hope the procedure is as painless as possible for your DH.

Cece00 replied: VERY normal.

This:
I go back and forth on it. In my mind I KNOW I am done done done...but then I look at my baby and it makes me sad to think that I'll never get to experience this again..but I mean I could have 10 kids and feel the same way, obviously there HAS to be an end in sight somewhere, right?!!?

Is EXACTLY how I felt. I love little babies but honestly, I couldnt just go on & on having kids forever, KWIM? Besides, those little babies turn into little people who are a LOT more work and cost so much more.

Honestly, I have not yet felt any REAL regret about having my tubes tied.

gr33n3y3z replied: Nichole I knew when I was done no baby feels no nothing
I couldnt wait for Ed to get the V

But like you you always have that little doubt in the back of your mind is it the right thing to do. And for us it was I couldnt see myself with any more then the 4 that I have But I did want 6 at one point lol

holley79 replied: I htink everyone goes through that. I almost got mine tied after Annika but I knew I wouldn't be content with just one.

MommyToAshley replied: I have been going back and forth for four years on whether or not to have another one, so I am not the right person to ask. I think no matter how many kids you have, it's going to be a tough decision. But, it sounds like you and your DH have made the best choice for your family. And, you DO have a beautiful family.

kimberley replied: i think it's pretty normal also. don't think of it as the end of babies.. there will be grandkids one day . way more fun cuz you give em back when they're stinky or whiny lol.

CantWait replied: No advice. DH doesn't want anymore here, however I do, so I guess we're done, although he won't go get the big V. Hope you find it in your heart to make whatever decision is best for you. I say though, if you're having any doubts, don't go through with it.
For the record, I agree with others, your family is absolutely gorgeous as is.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I felt the same way when DH went for his. I had mixed emotions! I hope all goes well!