Yes or No - kids

gr33n3y3z wrote: Is it easy for you to tell your kids No?
Even if they beg and throw a fit?
Do you give in to shut them up?

My3LilMonkeys replied: It is rarely easy for me to tell my kids no, but I keep the giving in to a minimum and only for unimportant stuff (like yesterday, I told Madison to leave her favorite stuffed animal home when we went to the store - I didn't really care one way or the other if she brought it in the car, so when she begged for it I let her bring it).

DH is a big softy though - he gives in allllllll the time.

momofone replied: I use to give in in the toddlers years but then when she didn't get her way she started with the fits so I try not to give in as much as I use to

lovemy2 replied: All depends on the day Not very consistent I know but there are definately some things that are always a NO no matter what kind of fit it brings on - others I pick my battles

jcc64 replied: I have absolutely no problem saying no. It's part of my job description as a mom.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I say I pick my battles, somethings deffinalt NO others I might give in.

DillsMommy replied: I almost always give in on unimportant stuff. I'm a softy when it comes to that. DH on the other hand isn't. He'll say NO once and Dylan listens. I don't get it......

luvbug00 replied: we say no and have no problem doing so. unless it's a special occasion, then we might bend a bit...

TheOaf66 replied: no way do I give in because that sets a precedent. Tanner knows that he does not get something everytime we go to the store, if he begs and begs it doesn't matter, if he won't let it go I take something else away

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I have no problem telling my kids no.... but then again, I always consider their request before saying no. I don't use "no" a lot.

Like if they ask for a cookie, and it's 4:30, I will tell them that they can have a cookie, but only after dinner. So I haven't actually used the word "no".

Becaues I don't use "no" a lot, it's got a bigger impact when I DO use it.

I don't give in though, no matter what...once I've said no... unless the kids can give me a reason to change my mind. Zach's almost 5, and he's pretty good at reasoning... he will say things like "I will give you hugs and kisses all day if you let me have a cookie before dinner instead" and then how can I say no? lol!

PrairieMom replied: I have no problem saying no. The harder they beg, the easier it is for me to say no. I'm so mean. Sometimes I don't even have a good reason.

Celestrina replied: I have no problem saying no, DH is another story.

3xsthefun replied: Ok, I admit sometimes I do have problems telling them no on somethings. But I really try not to give in to them. DH on the other hand has no problem at all telling them no.

Crystalina replied: I can usually say no without a problem but then I sit back and realize that there is no harm in what they are asking so I will give in. That is just my inner arguements though. They're cute little faces have nothing at all to do with my decision.

Calimama replied: I'm going to be horrible at saying no.. I can see it already. We're in trouble because she's daddy's little princess.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I'm the kind of person who will get even more stubborn when people beg or irritate me. I have absolutely no problem with telling my children no. If Tanner gets upset or feels indifferent, I will most certainly listen to his side of the story or his reasonings as long as he communicates like a "big boy"...no whining, screaming, etc. If he starts to beg or get upset, that just makes me want to NOT give in more. The one thing I have always stressed with Tanner is how to communicate effectively and problem solve appropriately when he is upset or disagrees with something. Does he always act accordingly...no, but he is starting to figure out that when he talks rationally, he will have a better chance of getting what he wants. Of course there are times when there is no room for negotiation.

holley79 replied: We haven't crossed that too much with Annika yet. Brandon on the other hand was hard to tell no when he was younger because he were trying to "make up" for not having him all the time. As he got older though he started getting the no. He would throw a fit but we just told him TS.

ihave4kids replied: With my 4yo its hard to tell him no. I really do try to tell him no,but if he keeps it up,i finally give in. I'm such a bad mom

but with my older ones who understand,its easier

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
This is me. It doesn't matter what they ask for, if they are whining the answer is automatically no.

Mommy2BAK replied: I think I have somewhat of a hard time saying no to Blakely, but I guess it all depends on the situation at hand.

moped replied: No problem at all saying no - none!

Cece00 replied:
Yes.
Almost always.
Rarely.

My kids know better than to throw a huge fit in the store for something & know they will be punished ANY time they do it. If they want something, the best way is to earn it (chores around the house...) and asking nicely.

A&A'smommy replied: certaintly don't have a problem and certaintly don't back down 90% of the time!!!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Logan's fits are getting more and more professional. The child is a drama king. However, I will not give in. I have carried him kicking and screaming into the rest rooms in stores before. I don't spank him, but I do make him stand in a corner until he's ready to pull himself together and act correctly. And I do expect him to act correctly. He knows what is right. I do not reward bad behavior, but if he's been really good and hasn't whined, I'll sometimes get him something small as a treat.

redchief replied: I'm probably the softest of the two of us. When I've made my mind up, though they know better than to nag.

kimberley replied:
i agree. no problems here either.

MoonMama replied: At the moment, yes.

lisar replied: Its not easy to tell them no they cant have something. But if I am dead set on them not having it I wont give it to them. I will stand my ground.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I actually tell Wil no a lot. I rarely buy him things. Not because we can't, but I just don't feel that kids need so many toys or a gift every time they go out. I like to make gift giving feel special, so my kids typically only get toys on special occasions. As far as asking for food, yes, I give in a lot of times so that he will stop whining. For example, "get in the car right now and I'll give you a popsicle when we get home". I'm sooooooooooo guilty of doing that way too often.

Brias3 replied: I usually have no problem saying "no". I'll of course think about the request and won't say "no" for no reason, but I don't give in with begging. I only feel more secure in my position when they start arguing over it!

Farelle replied: Some days all I say is "No" DH is another story!
I've read that instead of saying No, you should say what you want them to do instead. It's hard to do sometimes though. If I could always think that fast I wouldn't be losing the battle to a 3 year old and 18 month old!! LOL

MomToJade&Jordan replied: I have never had a problem saying no. I have in fact dragged Jade out of a store and the mall kicking and screaming because I had said no and she pitched a fit. The more a child whines the more stubborn I get.

gr33n3y3z replied:
that was me also