Would you let her in??

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: A young woman came to my door today and sweetly told me that she wanted to ask me a few questions. I thought that she was a college student doing research about parenting, kids, etc. So she asks if she can come in, but since I have a fairly unfriendly dog, I asked if we could sit on the porch. Wil was taking his morning nap. Anyhow, it made me think...would you let a stranger in your house based on their looks, how they present themself, their gender?? This is what gets me...since she was a young woman, maybe twenty, I would assume she's harmless. But what if it was a young man?? Would you think differently?

Anyhow, I'm not trying to scare anyone here, but it's interesting to think that we can totally pass judement on someone by their appearance. And before anyone replies, I can assume that most of us would feel safe to let a woman in before a man.

Well the girl and I talked for quite sometime...she asked me questions about Wil and how long we lived in the neighborhood...but apparently she was trying to sell me kids books, not do research at all!! Little bugger!!! She was so sweet and kept saying how nice all us moms are... I totally fell for her charm, but I didn't buy her books. And I'm glad I didn't let her inside! Because to me, even if you're selling girlscout cookies, I think it's totally inappropriate to be asked inside someone's home.

TANNER'S MOM replied: You know what.... that is totally scarey if you really think about it.

If you had let her in..she would have known your home...and valueable info about your son..even name and age??

But I completely understand I would have been the same way too..

Alot of the times its a friendly looking adult..

mel

A&A'smommy replied: probably not and I probably wouldn't buy her stuff either LOL You can't judge a book by its cover!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I think it is odd that she asked to come in and no I probably would not let her in! I watch too much 20/20 I know it sounds a bit overboard but I would call your local nonemergency police #or your home owners association and let them know you had a solicitor at your home. We had a VERY odd experience recently with some people selling things door to door and found out that our city requires permitts. I just feel like in this day and age you really can't be too careful! It is odd how we do feel safer with a woman but I think you did the right thing by not letting her in your home!

Debbie replied: I think that you did the right thing too.
Unfortunately in this day and age you just can`t be to careful.

My2Beauties replied: I don't trust anyone I don't know period - you did the right thing hon! She may have been nice but you just never know!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: It is really scary! I don't even know why I talked to her on the porch. Sorry to ramble, but here's a story: I'll make it short. When I was in college, a young woman, probably my age then (twenties) rang our apartment doorbell in the middle of the night. She was frantically saying that some guy was taking her home and tried to rape her in the car. Somehow she got out of the car and said she ran to the nearest house. We had a screen door, so I just spoke to her through that and tried to calm her down. She kept asking if she could come in, but I wouldn't let her. She was totally drunk. I told her I would give her the phone to use outside, but she didn't want that, she wanted to come in. So I offered to call someone for her, but she kept ignoring me. My roomates and I finally called a cab to pick her up. But as we watched through our window to see if she got picked up, a random car, NOT A CAB, came by and picked her up.

That story will always stick with me! What would have happened if I let her in? It just goes to show that you really can't trust anyone these days...

mckayleesmom replied: I wouldn't let them in...nope

Kaitlin'smom replied: nope woudl not let them in. even on the fip side I would not be going into stragers homes...

Marie_S replied: I wouldn't of let her in either, you just never know and yeah it is kind of bold to try to invite herself into your house.

DansMom replied: I had some nice young men show up at the door, and they did the same thing---had books to sell. They asked which other houses in the neighborhood had kids and my hackles kind of went up. Afterward I had all kinds of scary thoughts about what they might be up to---probably they were just selling books, but you never know.

3xsthefun replied: No, I wouldn't have let her in.

NummyMommy replied: LOL we probably had that same company come to our door when I was PG for Faith...it was a young man but since DH was home (he works afternoons) we talked to the guy....and bought the books....THEN when he came to deliver them instead of just leaving them with my son (who answered the door) he CAME IN uninvited to try to sell me more books! OK Let me paint the picture for you guys....I had JUST had the baby (C section) and was on the couch in my nursing nightgown nursing the baby! I couldn't go upstairs yet because of my nerve damage (long story) so I had been camping out in the living room for a couple of days. The house was a mess (DH is a dear but not good with that stuff) and here I was exposed and hes looking me straight in the eye doing his sales pitch (evidently its a series of books) and I'm beside myself trying to get this guy OUT of my house! I had to be blunt (I dont want any more books please leave so I can take care of my newborn) and he still left his card! LOL Yeah I'll be calling you real soon buddy To top it all off the books were substandard...especially for the price we paid
To answer the question I dont normally let anyone I dont know in my house no matter how they look.

moped replied: I wouldn't

gr33n3y3z replied: I trust no one I dont care if its age,color,male or female Even those church ppl. if I dont know them they dont come in.

You did good

luvbug00 replied: Me either I'd be like not interested thank you!! The End.

DblTblDad replied: This post drew my attention. Before my wife died, I would let a lot of people into the house without really worrying about it. I was the big strong man right..? As soon as he died I got super parnoid. I won't let anyone into my house anymore. I don't even care for people coming near them on the street as they are scared of strangers. Does make you think, doesn't? Sometimes the worst killers are those who look like saints.

julesmom replied: I wouldn't let anyone I didn't know in, even if they were kids. You never know who is lurking behind them who will try to come in after them.

aspenblue1 replied: Nope I wouldn't let them in. I had one person selling stuff trying really hard to get in even though my dog at the time was lunging at her. DUGH! He never did that either so I really wonder what was up with her.

~KARA~ replied: I wouldnt let her in! you dont come in my house with out you being friend or family! To many wackos out there!!

Boys r us replied: Well..that is a strange thing that most of us women probably in all honesty would have talked to her or let her in. but you know..not only just the WHAT IF it was really a guy scenario..what if there was a guy waiting in her car for her to get in and then he would come in..what if the girl shot you or held you at knife point! It's so strongly advisable NOT to let ANYONE in that you don't know!
My parents always told me when I got my DL to NEVER to stop for anyone on the side of the road...even if it was a woman and she had kids...b/c you never know who else might be in the car..samething goes for letting someone in I guess!

JessC replied: No way, I wouldnt have let her in.

kit_kats_mom replied: nope. no one enters my home. Too many freaks out there.
There was a group going around a few months ago to open houses acting like interested buyers. They'd go back later and rob the place. sick sick sick.

boobies4virtue replied: OK, now, before I recant this story, let me point out that I live in a tiny town and the house we live in is on a regular sized lot, but there is 2 other houses on this lot. There's approx. 8 feet between my house and the neighbors.
So, story goes:
Friday afternoon it was very hot, so I propped open the front door, which I usually do not use at all, as a matter of fact, I have a rocking chair in front of it and had to move it to the middle of the room to open the door. There's no screen in the door, so I just had it opened.
DD and I were playing on the floor and I heard someone on my porch. It was an older lady, Around 45-50. Not OLD (to anyone around this age), just older than me. I got up and picked up DD and asked if I could help her. She said that she was up visiting from NC, where she had moved to and that she had grown up in our house and she was driving by and saw my door open and just wanted to see if there was anyway she could look around and reminisce.
Now, let me add that my dad just died about 2 years ago and my sis sold his house that (she never lived in, she was on her own by the time mom and dad got married ) we grew up in and I would love to go into that house and look at the chew marks on the stairs that Spaz (the dog) teethed on, and I'd love to lift the rug in the kitchen and see the cat paint footprints and go out back to see Tammy's (another dog) grave, etc...
So I am a sucker and a bleeding heart and all that stuff.
I was moved and said, "well, It's a mess, but, if you don't mind, that'll be fine."
When she got in, I realized SHE WAS HAMMERED!!! She was so drunk she couldn't hardly walk!
I quickly showed her the house, made an excuse that I had to get a shower b/c DH was coming home from work ANY MINUTE and locked all the doors, only to go darting out of the house 5 minutes later to check on the neighbor lady that lives behind us. (she's around 65-70 and had been sick) To see if this lady ever actually lived there and to make sure she wasn't down there bothering her.
She did live in my house years ago and the reason she was up here was b/c her mother just died, so I hopefully helped her cope with her loss, But I have learned my lesson. And when I told DH, he gave me a HUGE lecture and was mad at me and I can't blame him. He says I'm too trusting, and I am. Thankfully, no harm done and I've learned from my bleeding hearted-ness.

MommyToAshley replied: Nope, wouldn't let her in. I am even more paranoid and don't answer questions about who is home and if any children live here.

mammag replied: I wouldn't let her in either. I never let anyone in unless I invited them over in the first place. I had some guys trying to sell something...can't remember what it was now....and after I told them I wasn't interested and they left one came back and asked if he could use my restroom. Of course I said no (I just said "no, I just got done mopping it, sorry") but I was really shocked that he would ask. In this day and age? He should know not to even ask because you'd have to be nuts to let a man in the house like that....He could easily drive around the way to a restaurant. I usually just don't even answer the door anymore.

CantWait replied: Boy, girl...forget it, you're not coming in my house. I have to say though, I've been stupid enough to keep the screen door open instead of just stepping out. Although if they really wanted in, they would find a way I suppose. I really hate people that come sell things door to door though....grrrrrr, like if I wanted their product, I'd hop in my car and come get it.