Would you ever pick the sex of your baby?

Whitney&Candace'sMommy wrote: There's a thing you can do called pre-implantation genetic diagnosis (PGD). I don't know if you've heard of it, basically you pick the sex of your baby.
My dh really wants a son and he want to use PGD. I have high acidic levels in my tract, and that means that the y sperm is killed faster leaving more x sperm and more chance of having a girl.
I don't really want to use PGD, I think that we're given what we're given and we shouldn't pick. And we don't have a legitimate reason for picking other than what we would want, there's probably alot of people out their who have better reason's for picking the sex.
dh wants me to decide if I will or if I won't in a few day's. At the moment I'm leaning towards saying yes, even though I don't feel like it's right to chose the sex. I know how much a son would mean to dh, he love's Whitney and Candace and he'd love another baby girl as much as a boy.
I just don't think it's right morally, it's like playing God. I think that your given what your given for a reason, but I don't disrespect anyone else who's done it.
ok so I'm 50/50 at the moment
would you ever pick, or have you?

mckayleesmom replied: hmmm...thats a tough one. I think it depends on how many children you plan to have....It does sound like you have a medical reason for why you normally have girls...I guess I would consider it then. Even if you have it done....there could have been a chance that you would have had a boy anyways...and it is still a baby from both of you. How many children do you plan to have? I would only do it if it was my last option.

luvbug00 replied: If it was my last, yes. I just read up on this and I think it is up to you. As far as playing God I think that's for you to deside withen yourself and maybe speak to a spiritual "leader" ( or what have you..) about it. I noticed that it started out as a way to eliminate syndroms such as downs very interesting.

Whitney&Candace'sMommy replied: We don't really have a number of kid's we want, I just always told him I'd never have more that 5.
Plus I'm 35, nearly 36. I kind of just have a feeling this will be our last. It cost's alot but dh has another bank account he's been saving for a new boat for years and he's willing to use that money to pay for the PGD. At least I wouldn't have to worry about how it would affect thing money-wise, because it wouldn't be coming from our account we share..
I'll tell you what I decide when I do anyway...

luvbug00 replied: Good luck and your girls and those pics are beautiful!!

Whitney&Candace'sMommy replied: thank you

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I wouldn't do it b/c I feel like it is tempting fate, but that's just me. Good luck with whatever you decide and welcome to the boards! Your girls are gorgeous!

Jamison'smama replied: Certainly a personal decision--would I do it--maybe...as for the "playing God" piece, really, that term is used for everything these days--doctors "play God" birth control itself has been called that. Interesting thing to think about though.

A&A'smommy replied: Ok I SO would NOT I personally think its morally wrong!! My thing pray about i God will give you what is going to best for you family!!

ETA: WELCOME to the boards your girls are gorgeous!!

CantWait replied: I wouldn't do it, only because I believe in fate....and what you're meant to get. Good luck on your decision.

3xsthefun replied: No, I would not do it.

Your girls are pretty!~BTW

Boys r us replied: I've done tons of research on this and would most definitely use this and actually am currently contemplating it...Growing up, I wanted a sister..instead I got 3 brothers...thought when I had my own kids I would at least get one girl..nope..two boys! One way or another THERE WILL BE A LITTLE GIRL IN MY FAMILY!

Some would say IVF was playing god too..I mean..if you look at it that way, then obviously God didn't mean for you to have kids..so using medicine and technology to have one would be morally wrong?

I'm a Cancer survivor...God didn't make it go away on it's own. I had Cancer as a young mother, I'm sure that God gave me the intelligence to go to the doctors who he gave the knowledge to to cure me. Are they playing god? This could really go on forever.. I could say people who God gave brown hair to but whom dye it blonde are playing god..they should be happy with their brown hair. Or people who are born with a physical defect that isn't life threatening..is it morally wrong to have surgery to look normal, even though God didn't make you that way?

mom2tripp replied:
ITA agree with you Nichole. I think it's something I would def be up to trying. I mean I consider myself a person with good morals and I just don't think this constitues playing God! I know a lot of you think you should let your body have what it's going to have and that's all fine but when you have two of the same sex and you know you are only going to have one more child, I think most of us would consider it. I think it's neat how advanced our modern world has come to let us have things like this.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Without getting all moral, this is something I would personally absolutely try. My DH's family has boys. There hasn't been a girl in 6 generations now. I just had generation 6. That being said, I probably won't have another one. Due to other medical issues that aren't genetic so couldn't be screened for. But I would LOVE to have a baby girl.

mom21kid2dogs replied: No, personally, I wouldn't. It definately would be morally wrong for me.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Just to throw in my I personally wouldn't want to do it because I have always felt you should be happy with what you get. However, I mentioned it to DH and he thinks it's the greatest idea. He said "If we had the $$ and I had known about that we would have done that last time." So I guess it's all personal preference!

ions_momma replied: I wouldnt probably do it because I feel like you get what God wants you to get, I think the only time I would consider doing it would be if I had like 7 children that were all boys or all girls, I would probably want the opposite gender the next time. I dont plan on ever having that many children though so I dont really have to worry about it!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I personally wouldn't do it...but if it's what you decide to do, you too Nichole, I say WTG!

mummy2girls replied: i personally would not do it. I would be happy with whatever god blessed me with. to me a healthy baby is all that matters... even if i had all girls i would be happy with another girl:)

MommyToAshley replied: I personally wouldn't do it, but you have to decide what is best for your family.


Good luck to you!

Mommy2BAK replied: I honestly could not say whether I would do it or not. I think I would just rather not have the option (that probably doesn't make since to everyone). But I will say that I may pray to God so that he may give me (acually I mean DH ) a boy next time around.

moxee24 replied:
I totally agree. God gives us what we get for a reason and we shouldn't mess with it. I wouldn't do it, but everyone has to make their own decision. P&PT being sent your way.

Whitney&Candace'sMommy replied: We decided to do it, or really I agreed. Morally I don't agree with it 100% but I don't really think I'll have anymore kid's after the one we're planning now and I have an oppourtunity to give my husband and myself a son and Whitney and Candace a brother. I never had a brother, I had six sisters though which was really fantastic when we were all teenagers
So now we're working out when we are going to do it all, and dh has already decided to name the baby Sethela, because his grandfather was called Sethela and he love's the OC....which means he loves my name too, hopefully...
We also decided not to tell Whitney, Candace or the baby when they're older, it just seems better that they didn't know we picked what one would be, you know what I mean?

Kaitlin'smom replied: glad you made up your mind, me no I would not do it, would not want any risks that comes with it, if we ever decided to have another one I want all the fun that goes with making the baby

kimberley replied: No, i am happy with whatever God gives me hope it goes well for you and welcome to the boards!