Would you ever consider...

Danalana wrote: being a surrogate for a family member who can't conceive? My BIL and SIL have an adopted son but have been told that she can't conceive. DH and I were talking today and he asked me if I would be willing to be a surrogate when we're done having our own kids...I said I absolutely would. We are very close to them (DH's brother and SIL), and spend LOTS of time with them...they are a big part of Kade's life too. I know it's a sacrifice, but I can imagine how hard it would be to know my husband and I could never have our own biological child...especially since there was a time when I wondered if there was something wrong with us. We haven't mentioned it to them yet, but they actually spent some time looking for a surrogate. So, I'm not sure how it all would go, but I am willing if they want to go that route.
Would you ever consider it or would it be too hard? I think it makes it easier knowing I would see the child all the time...

BabyOwen427 replied: I would consider being surrogate. But it'd have to be someone very close to me, I'd have to be able to watch the child grow up and make sure it was properly being taken care of.

I think if you are willing to do so for your friend you should sit with her and discuss things with her. Maybe she's never thought to ask you because she knew you had trouble getting pregnant.

blondemom replied: I would consider it but only for someone really close to me, I don't think I could do it for a perfect stranger...then again I probably could do it either way!

my2monkeyboys replied: If it was my sister or best friend, then absolutely. Otherwise, no. I know I would feel too close to the child to just give it over to someone I hardly know/like, so it'd be someone very close to me.
I think it is an extremely admirable thing to do.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: That's an awesome thing to do, Dana. Very cool of your dh to suggest it, too.

I would not have an issue doing it if the egg was her egg and not mine. I would do that in a heartbeat. Now,,, if the egg was mine - I'm not sure. That would be really hard. The only way imaginable (for me) would be like your situation -- a brother or sister.

Crystalina replied: Only for my sisters.

stella6979 replied: I don't have any sisters, but I have a couple very close friends that I would do it for in a heartbeat.

luvbug00 replied: not for me. But it's very kind of you think to do it for them.

luvmykids replied: I love the idea but I don't know if I could do it only because I can't think of anyone I'm close enough to....I know many surrogates do it for perfect strangers but there is no way I could do that.

HuskerMom replied: I think it's an amazing thing to do for someone but I don't think I could.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Yes, if it were people or family I was really close to and under the right circumstances.

Danalana replied: I couldn't do it for a stranger, either...not because they are a stranger but because I wouldn't be able to see that child and watch him/her grow up. I've been thinking, and I know it would still be hard in some aspects. I mean, there is a bond that occurs while baby is in the womb (I've heard people say that's not true, but I beg to differ)...the egg wouldn't be mine, and the sperm wouldn't be Richard's, so I would just be housing the baby for 9 (really 10!) months. I know there would be a bond between me and the baby, and maybe that could be great instead of painful. The good thing is that I LOVED being pregnant. Of course, we wouldn't be leaving the hospital with a baby, and that's the hard part.
We'll eventually mention it to them and see what they say...they looked for somebody to be a surrogate before I knew them, and I honestly think they just feel like it's too much to ask.

my2monkeyboys replied: It no doubt would be difficult, but I think it would such a rewarding feeling to give someone you love something so important to them. Esp with them being family.

A&A'smommy replied: I would for someone I was really close to.. but since I have to have c-sections to have my babies then I just don't know if I could its a hard and long recovery and while it would be worth it to help out someone I really love I just don't know if I could...

Brias3 replied: I'd only do it for my siblings. I'm not close enough to anyone else to take the risk.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: No I don't think I could. I did go through infertility and so my heart still breaks for those who suffer through that but I do not think I could give up a child I gave birth to.

holley79 replied: I'm not sure about that one. Would be a tough decision for me to make.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied:
I think I could do that for a brother or sister.

mummy2girls replied: Im on the fence about it. because yes it would be wonderful to do something like that BUT I dont know if i could carry a child for 9 months to have to turn around and give it up. Yes i know the child would be in the family and i would still see him/her grow up but a part of me would not want to give that up I dont think i could give up any child.

gr33n3y3z replied: No

Danalana replied: Yeah, I think it would be difficult to give the baby up, even though it wouldn't be biologically ours. If they lived away, it would be a whole lot tougher. We still haven't mentioned it to them...I think we're trying to wait for the "right" time. But when is THAT going to come up in conversation?