Would this bother you?

MyLuvBugs wrote: Everytime my Sister and/or my niece see my daughter they make comments about her weight. Here's a few of their comments that I can remember:

"Oh she's such a chunk in those thighs."
"Such a heavy girl!"
"Oh I just love all the rolls of FAT she has all over."
"She must just eat all the time"

I feel like they're saying these comments b/c they think she's actually overweight even though she's not. She is big for her size, but she's in the 100% percentile for both weight and height. That's pretty even if you ask me. And I know that when my niece was a baby she looked annorexic all the time. She was SOOOO skinny, and still is. But I would never say "Do you feed your child b/c she doesn't look like she ever eats" or some other comment to them. KWIM?

Am I just hormonally over-reacting to these comments? I know I need to just ignore and move on, but it sucks that my sister is like this.

ediep replied: I would feel the same way. Its very rude to say that to someone. I would be very hurt and offended.

Besides the fact that she is a baby for goodness sake!!!

MyLuvBugs replied:
Ok good. So it's not just me.

luvbug00 replied: OMG your sweet girl is perfect! grr

JP&KJMOM replied: Big girl mommy here too. Karlee has been 100% in both height and weight her whole life. She will be 4 in July but she is bigger than most of the girls in JP's kindergarten class.

I do agree with Edie though that it is rude and even more so that it is your family. I think in the future you should just say well at least she is healthy and that is all that matters! to your sister.

mckayleesmom replied: Well....I don't know if I would be offended.....maybe annoyed a little. People use to make comments like that about Mckaylee....because of her cheeks when she was a baby, but her body never matched her cheeks... .


I wouldn't worry about it...she is healthy and fine and that is what is most important. The baby cheeks, rolls, and chubbiness is all part of being a baby.

mammag replied: I remember when Kristen was a baby I got comments all the time about how tiny she was and then Cade looked like a little Sumo wrestler and I got comments all the time about that. I think it depends how they say it really.

I find that a lot of times people comment on a baby being chunky but they mean it in a good way. A lot of people think chunky baby = healthy baby. The comments were much worse with Kristen being small. It was as if they were accusing me of not feeding her. In fact, I had an emergency room doctor once tell me she could be suffering from Malnutrition when she had fibrile seizures.....completely not the case, her doctor said it was ridiculous. She was always in the 15-25% for her weight. Even now she is in the 20% range and she eats like you wouldn't believe. She is just going to be tiny like me.

I have found it is best to just laugh off comments or say something like "yep, that's my little chunky monkey" as if you are proud of it and leave it at that. Sometimes people just don't seem to know better.......and then sometimes that's the problem, they think they DO know better than You...

jcc64 replied: I can see how it would bother you, but I probably wouldn't put too much stock in it. People feel entitled to offer unsolicited opinions about babies' sizes and weights all the time. Just be happy the same tendency doesn't extend to OUR bodies!

luvmykids replied: I guess I'm used to those comments, and I call Macie chunky monkey all the time, and we laughed about Colt's fat rolls forever- he was 25 pounds at 6 months and looked like the michelin man.

I make comments like that once in a while but I mean it as a compliment, I love nothing more than a fat, happy baby.

But I can see where you'd get sick of hearing it.

CantWait replied: I have the opposite problem. Both my boys are on the thin side. Healthy, reaching all goals, but just tall and thin, and everyone always comments on it. It drives me nutts and completely irratates me. So to answer your question, YES I think it's completely rude and ignorant of them.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I can see where it would bother you and as long as it stops before she understands. My sister was excited to get her baby chunkey, she thought chunky was a healthy baby, Kait was never a chunck, she pretty much has stayed 50% or lower for weight. I did explain to her just cause they are a chunkey baby does not always mean healthy.

Ashlynn's Mommy replied: OMG!! My family says the same thing about my 9 year old daughter Cynthia. My grandmother especially. She will usually say to me " ya know lonnie, she's getting a little on the heavy side. You should really do something about that". That makes me so furious. When we are at family gatherings she is the first one to get food jokes thrown at her. I know they don't mean any harm, they think their just playing, but what they don't know is that they are hurting her feelings. So I know what your going thru. Now, I just say rude comments back.

MyLuvBugs replied: Yeah I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but my sister can be cruel with her comments (not just weight related too). She used to make comments about my weight to my mom when I was little, and it always hurt my feelings. I don't really want that for Lorelei or Lexi or any other girls I might have. But at the same time I would like some sort of relationship with my sister. And now my niece is starting to act just like her mother. UGH. I mean I call Lorelei my little chunky monkey sometimes, but in a goofy way. I guess it's just gotten to me lately. Sorry.

My3LilMonkeys replied: We get comments like that about Madison all the time. They don't bother me at all - I'm very laid back - but DH gets seriously angry about them. He has been told more than once (by strangers) that she "must get her size from her daddy" (he is a fairly large man) and it really hurts his feelings.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I'd just tell them:

yeah - well - she's a baby, it's called baby fat for a reason. What's your excuse?

But I'm just alwaysin a bit**y mood, so I wouldn't be surprised at something like that coming out of my mouth like verbal diarhea. No control.

My2Beauties replied: I got comments like that all the time with Hanna, she was quite the chunker. I just let them roll off my back, most people mean it in a good way because well let's face it chunky babies are so adorable!

moped replied: I used to get that all the time - he is so big, my what does he weigh, blah blah...........he also is 100% for both and I knew he was big, but not a fatty, now he is tall and skinny - just wait

redchief replied: I wouldn't worry over it. All of our babies were chubbie, and everyone felt the need to tell us. None are overweight nor do any of them have eating disorders. We're all okay. All right, so I could lose a few pounds.

BAC'sMom replied: Yes it would bother me too. Big time! I get comments like that ALL the time about Ansley and it chaps my A$$. Although I am at the opposite end of the spectrum people are telling me how “she is so tiny”… “she so small” …”don’t you ever feed her” I tell look she’s just PETITE!

I do like Karen and Edie answer