Why does everyone in the world think that they get - to name our baby?

maestra wrote: My mother is the worst of them all! We told her on the 4th of July what we were thinking of naming the baby if it's a girl (Giselle). She said that she liked it, and asked what we would call her (since we call Jaquelyn Jaci). We told her that a good friend's daughter is named Giselle and they call her Gigi, and she's the cutest little girl and has just stolen dh's heart ever since we met the family 5 years ago. Well my mom told us that that sounded like a stripper's name, and that she would call her Jessie. Dh and I looked at each other and said "Uh, no." We left it at that, as we didn't know yet what we were having.

So this weekend at my mom's she brings up the subject of the name again, and we tell her that we still like Giselle, and that we will just call her that, not use any kind of nickname. She crinkled up her face and told me, "That name's ugly." I told her, "Well, we're pretty sure that that's what we're going to name her" and she didn't say anything else.

So today she calls and we were talking, and she says, "Oh, I told V- at work the name you want for the baby, and she says the kids are going to tease her and call her Jezebel." It made me mad that my mom was even telling me this, and I told her that she could tell V- where to shove it , and so high that it never comes out(I was tired and am working on a cold- but I didn't use any bad words!). I figured she'd laugh, which she usually does when I give her a hard time like that. She tells me "That's a little extreme Michelle." To which I told her that I didn't want to hear any of that stuff, and that I knew that she was just telling me because she didn't like the name, and that we don't care, she's our child, and we'll name her what we want. She named me Michelle, and I can't stand the name. I have to hear everyone sing that stupid Beatles song to me at least once a week. So now she's basically pissed off at me now, which she says is because of what I said, but I know it's really because we won't change the name to something she likes better. You'd think she was going to be the one spending 30 hours in labor with this kid!

Geez! And who calls someone a Jezebel anymore anyway? What is this, 1960?

Jamison'smama replied: Well you certainly didn't ask my opinion but I think it is a lovely name--I really like it and it isn't over-used---it is your baby and your decision!! It is amazing how much a name grows on you when attach it to a beautiful child. I had a few problems with Jamison's name but we presented it to our family and that was it--they can call her whatever they want but her name was our decision.

Stay strong!!

maestra replied: Thank you I think Jamison is pretty too- not one that every little girl might be named. I grew up always being called Michelle L. because there were so many Michelle's in my class!

A&A'smommy replied: I like that name also I think its beautiful! BTW LOL your halarious I love the way you put things. I wish I could stand up for myself like that to my family but I just can't.... Good for you!

irinam replied: LOL - tat's wat you can tell them, just LOL. it's your decision and the baby is going to have a name that you decide upon.

All others can think whatever they want, do whatever they want on that matter - do you REALLY care?

I personally think Giselle is a pretty, feminine, and as somebody said - not overused name!

Be a happy and healthy girl Giselle!

jem0622 replied: Whatever. I know your pain. We've picked our names and my Dad thinks we used his middle name (a derivative of it). And my aunt thinks we used her name too. It had nothing to do with them...we just liked the names! Sheesh! So they are saying we should include the gma's names instead. Um...that's okay thanks.

MomToMany replied: UGH! I've BTDT so many times! Everyone has an opinion, but stay strong! Try not to let it get to you anymore.

DansMom replied:

That's exactly what I was thinking! I don't think anyone in generation X or younger has even heard of Jezebel. Sorry you're going through this ridiculous stuff.

ediep replied: I know you didn't ask for my opinion either, but I like tha name.

I totally know what you are feeling....when I was preg with Jason, I was working anf one of the newer teachers asked me what I wasplanning on naming the baby. I told her Jason for a boy and she right away said "oh God! I hate that name!"

Some people just don't think...they think that naming your baby is a community effort

kimberley replied: ugh. i went through the same thing naming all of my kids. you just learn to ignore it. Giselle is pretty

Kaitlin'smom replied: BTDT everone feels they need to put there comments in, that way when you do happen to name the baby something they like or even suggested then they can take credit.....but its YOUR baby and your choise, you have to live with it, its not an easy choise, I could not imagine Kaitlin being called anything else her name just fits her.

PS I like the name...its different and pretty

coasterqueen replied: If I recall people didn't like names we tossed up for Kylie and probably didn't like Kylie's name, but I didn't give two hoots. LOL.

My problem is now every name I pick for this baby DH doesn't like.

aspenblue1 replied: I know that drove me crazy when we were deciding on names for Isabella. Everyone seems to have opinions.

I think that is a very pretty name.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh I love the name Giselle. I'm sorry your mother is being so ridiculous. Perhaps she wanted you to name the baby after her?? As if we don't have enough to deal with when we are pg!! My best friend waited until the baby was born to tell everyone her name. Of course everyone loved it then b/c they loved the baby!!

jcc64 replied: Giselle is a beautiful name- very classic. There's a ballet named after it.
I went through this same thing with my first born. After that, I wised up and discussed the name with no one until after they were born. Anyone that would make a negative comment once the child is already born and named is tactless and rude. The only people who have to like it are you and your dh.(and hopefully Giselle herself).

MommyToAshley replied: I think it is a beautiful name!

I had to deal with the same thing, only the advice didn't stop with the name. All kinds of advice kept coming even after the baby was born. But, I am sure you know how that goes.

I think you handled the situation with your Mom perfectly.

maestra replied: Thanks guys I will be calling her tonight to make sure she is coming over tomorrow to watch Jaci, and hopefully everything will be better then. I'm not really mad at her anymore, just don't want her to be mad at me. I guess we'll see!