Why Me? - He tore my heart out...
~CrazieMama~ wrote: I met this guy who I thought was Mr. Right. Boy was I wrong. We were getting ready to make plans to get married. I got a REALLY bad feeling when he disappeared for 2 1/2 weeks. I decided that I could not trust him anymore. I told him that it was over.....That is when I found out the truth.
He told me that he was playing me this whole time. That he had a girlfriend and she and him would sit there and make fun of me. That he never loved me. That I lied to him when I told him about being raped. And that he told me I was beautiful when in fact I am an ugly a@@ bi*ch with big ugly glasses. I was so hurt and my self esteem is crap now. This was on Friday btw. I had a problem with men before, not being able to trust them, now I seriously hate men. Thanks for letting me vent....(sighs)
dolfinrse replied:  So sorry to hear what happened. We are always here for you!
aspenblue1 replied: That is so awful!!! I am so sorry to hear that. I can not believe anyone would do something like that.
~CrazieMama~ replied: Thanks you guys, I really appreciate the kind words right now. 
kimberley replied: sorry to hear what happened. that is just awful. many hugs to you and a shoulder whenever you need it. take a good look in the mirror and remember the beautiful mom and woman you are! no man can take that away from you.
~CrazieMama~ replied: Thanks Kimberly, but I do wish I could believe you. My ego is shattered and my feelings are flattened out. I am just so confused at how this turned out. Why he would go so far if he was just gonna play me?
DansMom replied: First of all, say a prayer of thanks that this person is gone now. You are a beautiful woman and you trusted him. This was an evil person whose soul is missing. As much as you are hurting from his venemous words and abusive treatment, know in your heart that nobody acts as this person has acted without suffering psychologically. If he's lucky, some day he will know remorse for what he has done and make an effort to repair his own worthless life. For your part, you should wipe away any memory of his existence from your life, and don't lose hope that there are good, decent people out there who are ready to love and share life with someone. The problem with con-artists is that they are so good at acting like the real thing---but that also means there is a real thing out there. Anyone can be conned in this way. I'm so sorry you were treated viciously. I hope you don't take any of his words to heart! You should perform some kind of ritual, like burning all photographs that contain him. Stuff like that can really help.
Maddie&EthansMom replied: Michelle I am so sorry. I am so surprised that that happened to you. You are such a sweet, open and loving person. I know it is difficult to trust what I say. I suffer from a low self esteem as well and I understand how something like this could shatter all your trust in the opposite sex. Sometimes it doesn't take much. But this....this is just horrible. Just know I am thinking about you. You have 2 wonderful kids and a loving, supportive sister. You will get through it. Many, many (((((HUGS))))) to you. Please don't let this creep ruin your Christmas.
Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm so sorry this happened to you! That is just horrible, I don't understand how people can be so cruel! My heart goes out to you!
~CrazieMama~ replied: Thank so much everyone. I am just depressed today and hope im not like this for too long. I don't like this time of year at all. I get depressed every year at this time. I am just not a holiday person. Now I have this moron's words hanging over me.
chloe&tysmommy replied: oh no! What a creep!!! I am soo soo sorry this has happened to you
This guy sounds like he needs a pychological evaluation! Not normal.....
I honestly wouldn't take it to heart what he has said about you b/c you are a beautiful person, you truly are! At least this loser is out of your life now so you can (eventually) move on. I'm so sorry your so sad right now....hugs
3xsthefun replied: I'm really sorry to hear that happened to you. That guy is nothing but a big time loser! I'll be sending you some hugs
kimberley replied:
like Dan's mom said, some people lack a soul. Dating and trusting when you are a single mom is harder than climbing mount everest but once you reach the top, i promise you, it is worth it. i went through two very emotionally abusive relationships (one even got physical in the end) before i met Jamie and my self esteem was something of a myth. i cried, thought i was a horrible stupid person and felt i didn't deserve any better. i was wrong and it took time and lots of love from friends for me to see my self worth and that i needed to gain confidence for me and for my kids. it wasn't until then that i met Jamie and he is living proof that the "good guy" does exist and he is not gay! lol
many, many, many hugs to you. feel better soon sweetie, he is not worthy of your pain.
mummy2girls replied: OH i am so sorry. That is just awful and mean! You know what i know it may seem the opposite right now but you will find your true love. I hav been through hell and back when it comes to the opposite sex. You are hurt right now and i want to jump through the screen and hug you((HUG)).
maestra replied: You're right- this guy IS a moron, and evil too. You deserve so much better. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I am glad that you had that gut feeling and decided to end it.
to you.
MomofTay&Sam replied: Michelle I will go kick his A** just for you! I can't stand when someone takes advantage of one of my very dear friends! Who does he think he is? I think you are beautiful and very very funny! You keep my laughing.  Wake up tomm and put him in the past, he is a loser! Thank God you found out when you did. I will catch up with you in just a few minutes, been shopping again.
ediep replied: Oh, I am so sorry that happened to you! What a LOSER that guy is!!!!! I can't understand how some poeple are just so mean!
MommyToAshley replied: Michelle, I am sorry... I can't believe someone would do something like that to such a kind and caring person. He is the ugly person, not you. I wouldn't let anything he said get to you. You are a beautiful person. We are here for you anytime you need a friend.
natjasem replied: Hey, forget about this loser and move on. You need to look inside yourself and find the strength that you don't know you even have. Every woman is stronger than she thinks she is! Life is too short and too precious to be depressed over an idiot. Be strong and concentrate on bringing up your daughter to be a confident woman. Don't let her see you broken down- you're her role model.
amynicole21 replied: That is absolutely disgusting!!! He has to be the most horrible person on earth. What an A**! I'm so sorry someone would do this to you, but I agree that you are SOOOO much better off without him - which I am sure you already know. Please know that we all love you, and think that you are beautiful and deserve so much happiness in life. We're here for you
~CrazieMama~ replied: Thank you all so much!!!! Although I don't feel much better, I do have a happiness inside me that is good enough. I am so glad that you all are here to encourage me. Thank you all sooooooooo much.
A&A'smommy replied: oh im so sorry!!!! Men can be very horrible!!! But not all men are that way it just takes a while to find the right one sometimes and us women are VERY impatient and need to be loved!! ((((HUGE HUGE HUGS)))) for you!!!!
Hillbilly Housewife replied: That jst totally sucks....
You'll find someone! Give that sicko a big  for me!
CantWait replied: Michelle I'm so sorry about this idiot, he sure is an *******put the stars together, his girlfriend is no better. They're both a couple of sick ******again you know what to do with the stars.
You're a beautiful person like Kimberley said, and a great mom. Know that not all guys are like that. Big hugs to you, we're here if you need to vent some more
mckayleesmom replied: Michelle,,,if this guy said all that , then he didn't know you. You are beautiful and a kind person and don't ever let a man make you feel otherwise. True love will come your way and it won't hurt when it does. As for this sicko and his equally sick girlfriend,,,they need to take the money they spend on internet service and put it towards a good shrink.
~CrazieMama~ replied: With all that he said to me, I actually did not give him the satisfaction of getting a reply. I did not feel that I should belittle myself down to his level. He called himself a christian who loves the Lord. Well, a christian like myself would never use the language that he used. A christian would never treat a human being in the way he treated me. And to think, he told me that I was being selfish and put myself before others (because I told him to hit the road, I think) and that I should check myself with God. When in fact it is him who needs to check himself with his maker!!!!!!! Yes I am getting mad about it!!!!! I am seriously hurting inside but very mad that he would do this to me.
maestra replied:
What a *&*(&^**%(&^%&*(^E#^$@$#&*%^&($#$&$%)+!
You're definately better off without this......well, for lack of a better word I will say person. Take some time, talk to us, and heal. The right man will come someday. I know it seems to trite for me to say that, but I have always been the ugly, fat girl who found the one person that God had intended for her. I know that someday you will find him too. Sometimes, it just takes a lot of morons before you find the good one.
jen replied:
I will help her, that is awful! What a PIG. I am so sorry you had to deal with someone like that. Sometimes there are people in the world that prey on trusting people.........he took advantage of your good will and good nature it sounds like and he should pay for it but we don't have to worry about that, he can answer to god because that is just heartless and spiteful. Build yourself back up and forget about this creep. Remember who you are from your core and find strength in that. You are in my thoughts 
DansMom replied: I doubt that stuff about the girlfriend is true. It sounds just like something an immature man would invent---I don't know any women who would go in for that kind of game. Do you know any woman who would associate with someone who was misleading someone else for fun? Women tend to be monogamous and protective of their own honor, and also aware that what is done to one woman will be done to them eventually. When you broke it off with him, he might have come up with that story to retaliate. I wouldn't believe it unless I knew who the woman was and confirmed it with her---not that you want to waste any time doing that. I'm glad you didn't reply to him. You are right that no moral, spiritual person would behave in this way, and he's not worth any more effort on your part.
Kaitlin'smom replied: awww hon I am sooo sorry! You are a beautiful mom. That was a terrible thing to do and someday it will come back to him worse than he did to you. I know its very hard to put it out of your mind but for your and your kids sake try and move on. I wish I could do more for you. We are hear for you and if you need to talk just let me know.
Shooter replied: I truly do not understand why people do this kind of thing to others. Most of the time, people like him are immature and insecure and get some sort of self-satisfaction out of belittling others. Nothing can really take away the pain he has caused, but I can tell you that holding your head high and refusing to let him get you down will take away from whatever sick pleasures he's getting from this. 
Best wishes to you and enjoy the holiday with your family! 
coasterqueen replied: Awww sweetie, I am so sorry this has happened to you :-( People can be so cruel in this world and you just have to hope that one day they will get what they deserve! KWIM 
Everyone is right. You are a beautiful woman, in and out, and you deserve so much more that what you got. You *WILL* find someone who deserves your love and who will love you with everything you deserve.
I know I was hurt way too many times by past boyfriends, but then I found my husband. My trust for men was completely shot at that time and I never thought I could trust someone again. He proved me wrong and I know now that I can trust him completely with all my love.
Hang in there, because the right man is out there. I know it's hard, but don't let this awful creature consume you. He doesn't deserve that in my opinion. I know it's easier said than done, but don't give him the satisfaction.
Guest_HappyMom0295 replied: Thanks everyone, I so appreciate all that you have said. I am trying to get over what he said and put that all behind me. I know I will find someone worth while one day, but right now, it just seems impossible. I have tons of faith in the Lord and know that what happens, happens for a reason.
coasterqueen replied: Glad you are trying to put this behind you. I know it's hard because unfortunately they beat your self esteem up in the process, but you WILL find the right guy. Like I've always heard "the right guy is worth waiting for".....so it must just take awhile to get that right one, kwim? ;-) But when he does come along, snatch him up quickly and don't ever let him go because there are not too much of them
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