Who does what in the AM? - I need help
kit_kats_mom wrote: Hey guys. We still don't have a very good morning routine. Some days I sleep in, some days DH does but when he starts a new job, I think that the flexiblity we've enjoyed since we've had Katherine may come to an end. Neither one of us are morning people so we don't relish getting up early but I think that with another on the way, we will need to get a good morning routine down.
Here is my ideal routine:
Everyone up around 6:30
DH takes K, changes her diaper then downstairs & fixes her breakfast (she eats so much better for him when the num-nums arent' there)
I get my shower and get dressed for the day. Doesn't take too long since I work at home but I still hate being dirty.
Once I get ready (30 mins max) I can get her outfit together and go downstairs and get her ready while he is prepping for work.
Then I can take her to daycare and be ready to work.
What I want to know is, what are your morning routines like? Does DH chip in? I'm interested in all types of situations. WAHMs, WOHMs, SAHMs etc.
Please help me come up with a good solution.
ediep replied: my DH doesn't chip in unless its the weekend. Jay wakes up between 6 and 7 am and that determines my wake up time. I change his diaper and we go downstairs for cheerios, water, and some playing. A little while later I make him some breakfast and I eat with him. After that we head upstairs and I get Jason washed and dressed. When its time for me to get showered I put him in my room with a snack and a sippy cup and put on a video and I take the fastest shower known to man!!!! Then, we are ready for the day
amynicole21 replied: Our routines sound very similar! DH wakes up first (at about 5:50am) and takes a shower. As soon as he is out of the shower he wakes me and takes Sophia. He feeds her, gets her dressed while I shower and do make-up, hair, get dressed. When I'm finished getting ready, I go out and nurse her then we leave immediately after that for daycare (7am). Once we are gone, DH gets dressed and leaves for work.
HTH 
KatieLeigh79 replied: Well I wake my DH up at 6:30, I'm normally up by 5:45 - 6:00 if JR isn't awake yet (it seems he plays all night long and sleeps an hour from 5:30-6:30) I try to get his breakfast organized so that it's all set to go - I don't get a shower until his first nap at 9/9:30 (drives me crazy) and husband will get him out of bed when he goes to work and put him in my arms after he tells him bye.. that is the most help I get generally all day - being at home with him, i then change him, get him breakfast, play with him a few hours, get him a snack, put him down for his nap, shower, try to get what i can cleaned up, he gets up and has lunch, we play some more (assuming we don't have errands to run thats about the only hour stretch we do that) I try to get him to have another small snack and a nap again at 2, at that time i normally find myself cereal or something (generally only get a chance to eat 1x a day until dinner) and while he sleeps then finish whatever else I can up, or do laundry then he gets up and we play until he has his dinner at 4, so i feed him then and then start DH's dinner he gets home talks to John shortly, eats and goes downstairs to his computer to play games or something and I get him cleaned up and ready for bed, give him a small snack/drink, read his book, cuddle him and put him to bed - by that time its anywhere from 7-8:30 so I then finish whatever else didn't get done for the day, hang up laundry or what not and go to bed...
boy reading that makes me realize I really have no time for myself and get little to no help *lol* sorry to ramble, but your very very very lucky if your allowed a shower before DH goes to work
kit_kats_mom replied:
Yeah. That sounds exactly like our days before K started daycare. Except she didn't nap unless she fell asleep nursing. I generally wouldn't get a shower until DH got home. 
I just feel totally horrible dropping her off at daycare unshowered. I'm already in bum clothes since I just go back home to work but there are other parents there, all spiffed up for the office and I was just mortified the few times that I dropped her off after rolling out of bed. 
Kaitlin'smom replied: I work outside them home so during the week its like this
I get up at 6:30a shower, hair, makeup, dressed, and check e-mail its about 7:30a when I am done sometimes soner depends, but then I get Kaitlin up dressed and she eats breakfast, usualy so do I at this time but somedays I am getting things ready to go. Most days we leave at 8a. DH only helps when I ask or need help if I am running late other wise I take care of her. On the weekends we each get a morning to sleep in so the other gets Kaitlin when she wakes up and changes her diper feeds her breakfast and plays with her until naptime.
I dont mind taking car of her on the weekday mornings, DH is great when I need help he will, but most of the time he is tring to get ready and out the door on time.
booey2 replied: Hi, I work outside the house too, so here is a typical morning in our house:
My day begins whenever Thomas decides to get up, but if he is not up by 6:30am I am. Up, wash up, get dressed, start making my lunch and prepare Matthew's snack for SK and Thomas's bottle to take to the sitter. Make coffee. DH gets up and does his own thing. He rarely if ever helps me with the boys. I then get Thomas up (if he is not already) and get him changed, dressed and ready to go next door to the sitters house. If Matthew isn't up by 7:15 I get him up and help him get dressed. We are then out the door by 7:30am to the baby sitters house next door. She feeds them breakfast and lunch. Once the boys are gone I get my things together and head off to work. I usually eat my breakfast in the car or at work. Hope this helps. DH really is in his own world in our house and I can blame no one but myself.
Boys r us replied: Well, since I have to leave about a half an hour before Rick, he totally does the kids in the morning!!!!
So I'm no help!!
coasterqueen replied: Here's what we do during the week, the weekends we have no routine.
Monday, Wednesday, Friday I get up at 6:00 am, take a shower, do my hair, get ready. Done by 6:30 am. Go get DH up to have him take his shower. If Kylie is awake at 6 am he plays with her while I'm getting ready. At 6:30 am I get lunches ready if they weren't made the night before. I also get my pump bag ready for my lovely pumping adventure at work.  I also get coffee ready for DH and if Kylie is awake I get her breakfast. At 7:00 am if Kylie is not up yet we wake her up and then Kylie and I see DH off to work. From 7 am to 7:30 am, Kylie and I watch the Wiggles, nurse, play, eat breakfast if she didn't wake up til 7 am. 7:30 am I get her dressed for sitter and we watch JoJo's Circus. At 7:50 we are out the door on the way to sitter.
On Tuesday and Thursday, Dh gets up at 6:00 am, takes shower, get's ready. Wakes me up if I'm not already up with Kylie, so I can get ready. He does all the making lunches, getting pump stuff ready, breakfast, etc. Then at 7 am it's the same as above.
If I don't wake Kylie up at 7 am the morning is a nightmare. So we keep that routine. But most mornings she's at least up by 6:30 am on her own and sometimes at 6 am.
jcc64 replied: I get up around 7 or so, get the older kids ready for school, (breakfast, lunches, backpacks, sports equiment, etc), while dh stays in bed with the baby. Jump on the exercise bike for half hour, jump in shower. Usually only get about 20 mins to get myself showered and dressed. Take baby so dh can do the same. Sitter arrives at 9am, at which point I start working (out of my house). I get relatively little help from dh, mainly bc he's just not a morning guy. He moonlights on the puter till 3am, so I feel like he needs the extra sleep.
porksdad replied: phew you are all such early birds hahahaha
We are not morning people here LOL
never thought I would find someone worse than me- but then I met my wife hahahaha
Kathleen has learnt very quickly
she waits until about 7:30 generally before jumping on the first sign of my stirring to get me up...holding out her bottle and saying `didi daddy'
I shuffle off downstairs, clean the bottle and check my email etc.. until she moves to the top of the stairs and calls `Daddy hurry` at about 7;45 lol--she settles down with her formula and then comes downstairs with daddy to play, some online pc games or balloons, or cooking things on her toy stove, about 8;30 she will have her breakfast made by daddy or mummy as we feel inspired-
breakfast is followed by more play and then bubble bath first off with mummy so I get some downtime then all together and we all end up dressed and ready by around 9:30-10 am---not a bad life lol
will all change in the fall when I start 9-5 ing again
mummy2girls replied: i am on my own and work out of the house so this is my routine....
between 6 and 630 jenna wakes up. I get up at 530 so i can get myself ready and eaten before jen awakes. Then i change her bumb and give her some milk(she has to have milk when she wakes up). then i get us all bundled up and off to daycare i go woth her. and at daycare i give them breakfast for jen to eat there because by this time she is hungry. and then off to work i go. Its way different on the weekends though. jen usually wakes up aroun 730 and we just laz around the house for a few hours and then we get dressed and go somewhere...
jem0622 replied: I WOH and DH is home with the boys. So he has no choice. LOL. Nathan gets up first. He has his juice and yogurt while waking up with Playhouse Disney. By the time Nathan is alert Gabe is up and DH gets him some breakfast. Then they head outside (weather permitting) for play.
When it is me and the boys on the weekend we do the same.
I have found that waking up to an alarm before anyone else is the only way I can get things done.
kit_kats_mom replied: So how do you guys get your kids to stay asleep when you get up? K hears me get up and is wide awake. I would be happy to get up early, let dh and K sleep in while I get ready but the few times I've tried this, she wakes up within 10 minutes of me leaving the room. She usually gives me just enough time to get the cats fed and get the coffee started. UGH. I was getting up at 6 and that worked for a couple of days but then she started waking up with me agian. little turkey!
Kaitlin'smom replied: well since she sleeps in her own room she sleep till I get her up, on occasions she gets up earlier then normal she will play in her playpin in our room while I get ready, or she will hang out in bed with DH.
coasterqueen replied:
If Kylie gets up before or while we are getting ready we let her play in our bedroom/bathroom/closet while we are in there. We turn the tv on in the bedroom in case she wants to watch cartoons, but she mostly likes to entertain us while we are getting ready. Some days it can be frustrating but most days it works great. She'll brush her teeth up at the sink while I'm blowdrying my hair or now her biggest thing is taking sips of water from the faucet.  She also plays with a few toys in there while we are getting ready.
Edit: Also, if I or DH is getting lunches ready, coffee, breakfast, etc. Kylie likes to color or play with playdough while we do those things.
Elle replied: I'm a WAHM, but still the morning routine is the same as it was when I worked at the school...
6:00 - Nathan and I wake up, he gets in the shower while I start preparing breakfast
6:15 - We switch, I get in the shower and he finishes with the breakfast (sounds complicated, doesn't it?)
6:30 - We wake the kids up and have breakfast all together
7:00 - 7:15 - The kids get dressed and all prepared for school
7:45 - Nat takes the girls to school, I stay at home with Brighton
And that's it for the morning... The timing is a little more flexible than that, this is just an approximate.
All 3 of them sleep in their own rooms, so they don't hear us when we get up.
KatieLeigh79 replied: I'm laerning Mommy time is going to be a never again thing, but I guess that is what being a Mommy is right? Weekends are somewhat similar except I get up normal time and DH sleeps in till he wants to get up... then will take his shower and I normally get mine assuming I can get the little guy down for a 9am nap (like today he only slept 45 minutes so far) so nothing has gotten done and it's so frustrating! I have his first Bday party to get ready for and I'm so far behind and everyone wonders why *sigh* 
aspenblue1 replied: Since my DH just changed jobs and I am taking her to daycare and picking her up he gets her ready in the morning while I get myself ready.
I get up at 5:00 he gets her up at 5:30 takes her downstairs for breakfast then I bring her clothes down with me and we leave at 6:00.
Mom2Boyz replied: We have NO routine what soever. Conner usually doesn't go to bed until around 11:00 p.m. So he usually sleeps until 10:00 or 11:00. I usually get up around 9:00 and try to get some housework done before he wakes up.
Since I'm here with him all day, he pretty much eats when he wants and sleeps when he wants.
A&A'smommy replied: We sorta have a routine, I get up whenever Alyssa does which is usually between 7 and 8 am I get up go to bathroom and brush my teeth, then i change alyssa and we play in bed for while until she gets hungry then we go downstairs and I feed her fruit and cereal then whenever she gets tired (which is usually 2 to 3 hours after she woke up) we lay down and take a bottle and go to sleep. Sorry I'm know help
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
 That is MY life!! I'm not a routine type of person. We just don't have a life. I'm sure all will change when Maddie gets in school, but for now we just go with the flow.
Elle replied: When I was pregnant the 1st time I read that consistent routines make babies feel more secure... I already was a routine-y kind of person, but reading that just made my habits stronger *lol* As a first time mom, I believed in everything I read! But the routine thing works for us, so out lives have been scheduled for the past 6 years
Caroline replied: Well, with DH's schedule, I'm pretty much a one-man band in the mornings (make that all day actually). What with his training and practice schedules, its actually very rare that he's home on the average weekday during certain periods of the year, so I've been doing most of the child-rearing around here.
When he is home, he does more than his share though- he really loves to be involved as much as he can when we are all under one roof. I'm a SAHM mom, so I do have our schedule pretty down pat but that is bound to change once the twins arrive. My mom will be coming out to stay with us for a few weeks once they arrive until I am a little more used to having two more kids, much less infants, in the house and Chris is also arranging to be around for a few weeks once the babies arrive also so hopefully that will all help me ease into a new schedule!
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