When to have baby #2

TeagansMom609 wrote: We are trying to figure out a good age for Teagan to be before we have another. We dont know what a good age is. Im just worried she would feel neglected if she was too young, or like we weren't satisfied enough with her.

Lollie replied: Hi....

Hubby and I wanted our kids to be about 1 1/2 yrs apart...Things didnt work out that way tho cos Im currently pregnant with our second baby.I fell pregnant when Brianna was about 2 months old.

I am feeling guilty that she will be robbed of being a little girl and will become a big sister so soon but Im just trying to give her all the attention and love so that even tho she's still so little to understand yet that she's gonna be a big sister,she wont feel neglected.Hubby and I are also going to make sure that we provide both our babies with all the love and attention so that they will always know that they are loved.

My only wish is that my babies grow up to be close,despite the small age gap between them.

ediep replied: I am thinking that I want Jason to be 3 when I have another baby. That is the plan now....who knows, it may change

paradisemommy replied: dh and i both agreed shortly after taven turned 2 that we would try for #2. hopefully by 3 years old, taven will be potty trained and that will only leave one in diapers..that was our goal

Guest replied: In my case, Brian arrived from Korea in January, and by June I was pregnant. So they're 20 months apart, and really close-- when they're not ready to kill each other. Kira is 3 years younger, and it's too early to tell-- they still adore her because she's so young and cute. The test will come in a few months when she starts really getting into their stuff.

I come from a large family (5 kids) so I imagine I'm biased. But I'm not sure that becoming an older sister robs you of your childhood. It provides you with a playmate even when the kid next door goes home in a huff because you don't want to play the same game. #2 is a gift to the family. Your daughter will cope just fine. The timing isn't nearly as important as the way you treat your kids once they're old enough to treat differently.

Growing up with siblings taught me sooooo many wonderful lessons. They weren't all always easy, but looking back, I wouldn't have traded the experience for anything.

For the record: my brother and one sister are 16 months apart, and are perhaps the closest of any combination of the 5 of us.

Alice replied: OOOPS-- sorry! that last post was me!

coasterqueen replied: I voted 3, but Kylie and her sis/brother will not be 3 years apart..more like 2yrs7months.

My biggest concern when deciding to have children was being respectful of my nursing relationship with Kylie. I wanted to nurse her til she was at least 2 and if I thought we were both ready by then...well then it was time. I got pg 1.5 months before she turned 2 and she weaned not to long after that. It was perfect for us. I just didn't want to short change her of what I thought she deserved and I'm glad I didn't.

A&A'smommy replied: I voted for three because that is when we will ttc again (I hope) but I think two is a good age.

Edited to say: my SIL's kids are i week shy of being 13 months apart and they are great playmates!

mama3x replied: I voted 4 years but it didn't come out that way for me. For myself I always thought a good time to have the next was when the first started kindergarten.

Instead I have a 12 yr gap (but then who plans for divorce) and with this last one, depending when he arrives, there'll be about a 19-20 month gap. Too close for sure but oh well!

Josie83 replied: Jason and I aren't really thinking of having another one at the moment, but if we did I suppose now would have been quite a good time to get pregnant. I don't think it really matters, tho, its when you and your body feel ready! There isn't much of a gap between my brothers and sisters and I and we're quite close. I say just go with what feels right! xx

Boys r us replied: I voted 4! Brae and Tanner are almost 6 years a part and I love that age gap, but I'm afraid if I waited THAT long that I wouldn't want to have another one, so I think we'll start trying to conceive when Brae is btween 3 and 4!

My2Beauties replied: Shew I"m so busy with just Hanna I couldn't think of havin another one right now, however If I do decide to have another child, I want Hanna to be 2 before we even ttc, so that would make her almost 3 before I had tha baby if I got pg right away! Hanna wears me out, plus I have an 8 yr old DSD and she adores Hanna. Oh yeah I'll have pics soon of them together.

ctymom replied: I choose 1 year but more like 1.5 to become pregnant so the kids will be 2 years apart. Two years between them makes it so they will be close and share the same friends etc.

Pamela

MomToMany replied: I voted for 2 years- meaning getting PG after the first is 1 yr. old. That way, when the new baby comes, they are close to or under 2 years apart .

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I had my first 2 23mths apart and I think that's the perfect amount of time inbetween!

loveydad replied: My oldest was 7 when my son Matthew (now gone to heaven) was born. It seemed to be a great age because Henry was old enough not to need all my attention but mature enough to help A LOT with the baby. He could even feed Matthew (with our careful watch!) and he could entertain him really well. That was so great (while it lasted! )

Kel and Vince were 3 when Tracy was born and it was nice... they understood, but it was tough because they still needed so much from me. Having twins is hard anyway!

Then Trace was only like... 1 year barely when Nicky was born. That was really tough. I don't think I'd choose to have my kids that close together ever again.

Nicky was 6 months (or maybe 7) when my girlfriends twins were born. Yikes! never ever do that! TOUGH!

I didn't vote though. I didn't know what to vote because what I'm saying is there's no real perfect age.... I think its great to have them old enough that they'll be able to help and etnertain themselves. Now, Hen's old enough to babysit when I need him! ( )

3xsthefun replied: I think between 1.5 to 2 years is good. We are planning to ttc after November after Maegan turns a year old.

Kaitlynn and Maegan are 3 years and 9 months apart almost 4 years.

I think they do get along pretty well but sometimes they do have their up and downs.