Whats wrong with ppl?? - She said I'm a bad mom!

stanleygirl wrote: So, I have started walking to lose weight, and when DS woke up at 6 I decided I would take him for a walk, and let him drink his bottle in the stroller. (my older son had a sleepover at Grandmas)
Here I am walking really fast trying to get my heart rate up, and this nice looking older woman stops me and says "oh what a cute baby!" and starts talking to him and he's all smiles, so I let her talk to him and everything. Then she says why are you out so early? and I said oh well he's up already, so I thought I'd go for my walk since it's supposed to rain all day.
And she says, "oh that's awfully selfish of you, dragging the poor baby all around so early in the morning, just bc you feel like going for a walk"
I just stood there for a second really unsure of what to say, and I got a little snarky and said well I gotta get going I've gotta drag him around for at least another hour.
I heard her say something else as I walked away, but didn't really want to hear another word from her. What gives ppl the right to look down there noses at mothers who are doing there best to juggle all the demands in life! I am getting really frustrated with the way ppl talk to me, and judge me about my kids. I am doing the best I can, and all I hear is critism. I dont bf, I dont use the right diapers, I shouldnt let ds cio (which he does not cry at bedtime for more than a second to protest being put down).
My mom told me a few days ago that my 2year old is really well behaved and she is so proud of my mothering. That was the first nice thing I've heard in.....well ever I guess.
DH says I baby them too much, and his family says I am too leniant one day, and the next day I'm too set in our routine. But if I wanted to I could judge them for the same things! My sil has no routine, she lets her ds walk around till he is so tired he crashes on the floor for heavens sake. But I always say it is her child and she loves him, so she does the best she can. In fact they are never around my kids, so they are judging me on assumptions. I try to explain things to them, but it just comes across as me trying to defend myself and I dont think I should have to anymore. I AM a GOOD mother, and it's time ppl put the judgements aside and if you have something usefull to say, then feel free, but if you just want to tell me you are/were a better mother than me, then feel free to bite your toungue. HARD!

Sorry this got so long, but it feels good to get off my chest!

stanleygirl replied: Arghh, you know what I wish I would have said to her?? I should have told her that by taking care me of me too, I am taking better care of him.

It is sometimes hard to think of the right thing to say, when you are caught off gaurd ya know??

gr33n3y3z replied: I think your doing just fine from what I've read.
I mean I dont know you personally But if your children are still on this earth your doing a great job
And heck what ppl. think

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Why the heck woulnd't you take advantage of him beign up and calm to bring him for a walk outside?

I would have too, if my kids were still in strollers..... definitely!

Thumbs up for you for taking a walk!!!!!!!

ANd hey - it could have been worse. At lesat you didn't leave him home alone rather than dragging him all over the place an hour.

maestra replied: Someone told me I am a bad mother recently, when my 2 year old threw a fit in a restaurant and we had to take her out to the car. This was on Mother's day, and the things she said were pretty mean. After I cried awhile, I realized that this woman- a- probably never had kids, or b-the nanny raised them. (We were in a nice area of town) Either way, I could care less about what she said.

But I know what you mean though- motherhood can be a pretty thankless job, and everyone thinks they can do it better than you.

A&A'smommy replied: OMG I can't amagine anyone saying that to any mother!! I don't get why its selfish to go for a walk its good for them to get out like that to be able to see things...anyway I'm terribly sorry!

stanleygirl replied: Thanks, I knew all you mommies would understand.



That is horrible! I mean what 2 year old doesn't throw fits???
My hubby is a manager in a restaurant and threw a few ppl out for making rude comments to families with children. He told them, they are acting up bc they are kids, what's your excuse??

I want to make a point of saying to all the moms out there who love their kids, and are working their butts of trying to make a good life for them!!!

We are good mommies!!!!!

mckayleesmom replied: What a snooty old fart. She probably woke up on the wrong side of HEdouble hockey sticks. Once I get a double jogging stroller I plan to walk with my 2 in the morning. Being a bad mother for taking a walk with my kids never occured to me.

Jamielou replied:
I agree...

aspenblue1 replied: That is so rude! I can not believe why people feel they have the right to say stuff like that.

DansMom replied: Wow---that is unbelievable! That woman lives in another universe. It's hard for me to imagine where she's coming from, not just her opinions about walking with a baby, which are totally bizarre and contrary, but the fact that she would insult a stranger. You're imagined comeback was mild. I would have retorted: "are you on medication?" and walked on.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I would have told that lady to mind her own buisness, but then again I say what is on my mind. I would have taken that advantage if I could. People today are so rude and she probablly doesn't have any children. Maybe your baby will wake up early again and you can run into her again and tell her what you think!! Even though I don't know you YOU ARE A GREAT MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!

ediep replied: wow! What was she thinking?? I think taking your baby for a walk is great! I always think of a great response too late too.

ferocity302 replied:
First off...... HE woke up it's not like you woke him up for your benefit.

Second off...... Your other son was not at home alone he was having time with grandparents

And also..... You weren't starving your child while you TOOK CARE OF YOURSELF. He had a bottle.

I have a phrase I ask my children when they start butting in where they don't belong:

Where is your nose? The answer: on my face. My response: THEN KEEP IT THERE!

I agree people have their noses into others business way too much.

I used to have a mirror on my front door with a note that said..... before looking at mine start looking at yours!

I commend you for getting up so early and taking care of yourself and I'm sure your son enjoyed the outdoors and the fresh air.