What's happening - to the world we live in

holley79 wrote: Ok, I don't know if any of you read Reader's Digest or not. I was reading a back issue, Feb 2005. It had John Travolta on the cover. Well there was a story in it about teens and sex.

I read through it just out of curiosity. They were talking about how there was a rise in middle schoolers and oral sex. I kind of set the mag down in my lap and looked up at the ceiling. MIDDLE SCHOOL??? We giggled if anyone even mentioned the word sex. (Sorry I'm NOT that old.) Then they went on to talk about "sex bracelets". Girls wear multiple colored bracelets and they stand for different things, "sexually". If a boy snaps it off the girls wrist the girl must "perform". Curiosity again here. That bracelets they are referring too are the little jelly bracelets we use to wear as children. The kind that we all just had to have. When did something so innocent become something so (brain fart can't find the word)? I am just at a loss here. I was just floored while I was reading this article. Then they went in to the Bratz Dolls. (I have no clue about these.) They were talking about how they have one that is "date night"? That the dolls should be for adults and not children. Like I said, I have no clue, maybe you know more then I do where those are concerned.

Has anyone else heard anything about these bracelets? or read this article?

Just curious what you all think.

six_kids_at_28 replied: I am not surprised at the middle school thing...the bracelets and Bratz dolls though...


My daughters have Bratz dolls! For adults??? Do you think I would buy myself a Bratz doll??? What would I do with it???

And the bracelets??? That's just too sad

kimberley replied: ya i heard about the bracelets quite a while ago and Montel even did a show about them. it frightens me that this is occuring as young as it is but to the kids, it's just a fun game. they are so desensitized by the media and sex is no longer something sacred, but merely something to do. the more outrageous you are, the cooler you are. it's the Springer generation . i have also read that "texting" is the latest thing. kids as young as 10yo (maybe even younger) are text messaging each other in a sexual manner, and even adults. i swear i wanna move my kids to the woods when they are teens.

TeagansMom609 replied: I heard about this on the tv awhile ago. Pretty weird. Middle school is when it alllll starts though. I remember most of the people I knew in 7th grade were already sexually active, and drugs were also introduced that year. By 9th grade hardly anyone was a virgin.

MommyToAshley replied: I watched the Oprah special about something like this... she had the teenage girl on that wrote the screenplay for the movie "Thirteen" I was so shocked to hear some of the things that happen with kids that young... I was like you, we giggled if boys even looked at us at that age. That just makes me want my baby to stay a baby forever!

holley79 replied: I guess I must behind the times. I grew up small town. Middle school I guess we were WAY too imature. I mean we knew what sex was but don't remember anyone being sexually active. About 10th grade I remember girls starting to get pregnant. I swear Annika is going to be shipped off to a deserted island with only her dad, a tutor and myself. LOL

Unbelievable. It's amazing how much generations have changed in such a short time. Guess there is no stopping it.

luvbug00 replied: the bracelts and rainbow thing. ( lipsticks marks on the male parts after preforming an adult act) I think it's horrible they are even testing thease waters..( note to self... start wellding Mya's chastity belt )

I LOTHE Bratz dolls they are dressed like hoochies and all they talk about are material things and Boys in their movies. I think they are Trash and I will never let Mya have them.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Holley, I think maybe the word you were looking for was SLEAZY. Ugh, I am not that old either, but I was way too interested in swimming and my hair to worry about doing things with boys.

MM'sMama replied: Yes I've herd fo them too and it just breaks my heart and honestly scares the living daylights out of me .

ITA with what Nadia said I couldn't have said it better myself

amymom replied: It really is scary!

C&K*s Mommie replied: With each generation already kids are getting older younger and younger. It frightens me that things that our tweenies are doing now, will slowly make its way down to just out of elem school! Maybe not.... but it still worries me. ITA!!!!!

My3LilMonkeys replied: Well when I first heard about the bracelets I was shocked. I too live in a small town and kids when I was in middle school were giggly and immature. However I guess times have definately changed because my Nephew is in 3rd grade and a girl on his bus (which is only for 1st - 5th graders) asked him if he'd ever had a BJ (that's the wording she used) and laughed at him for not knowing what it was! My poor SIL had her hands full trying to explain that one!

My fear is if things have gotten this much worse in the 10 years since I was in middle school how bad will they be 10 years from now when Brooke is in middle school?

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: That's truly scary about the bracelets! I didn't kiss a guy until I was 19 (lol!)...who knew about oral sex at twelve? Surely not me! My 6 year old niece loves Bratz dolls and I don't really find anything wrong with them. She likes to dress up and feel pretty which I think is natural at her age, but I don't think that's the result of playing with such a doll. Who hasn't played with Barbie at one time in their life? Barbie surely isn't the average woman!! Or there was also Gem dolls in the 80s...now I'm sure our moms thought SHE dressed bad. Anyway, history repeats itself I guess. There's always something that draws the line when it comes to toys. I think I came out okay even though I was totally into the latest and greatest "sexy" doll, kwim?! JMO.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Ooh, Rae. We are showing our age here. I LOVED my Gem doll.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Well I was actually a bit old for Gem...but that just shows my maturity level and what I was playing with in middle school!!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Hey, I was probably 11 or 12. But I guess now adays that is too old for dolls. Sad.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Then you and I are probably about the same age! I'm 31, you? Sorry, not to get off topic...but it is interesting that we were playing with dolls at 12 when kids these days are giving BJs. Sad, sad, sad.

Debra replied: I really am dreading my children growing up! DS is just 4 years away from middle school. How in the world will we make it through this? They just know so much more so young. I really think children's innocence is soon to be a thing of the past.

My son about a week or so ago told me that sex means love. 6 years old & already knows what the word is (sortof)?! Lord have mercy! This is not something that he learned at home. We are not tv watchers, he doesn't stay over at anyone's homes much less play over. We always have the neighborhood kids here so I can supervise. He must have heard this at school or something & that makes me sad! I wanted DH & I to be the ones to broach the subject, not his friends at school. I really thought we had a couple of years before we needed to start talking about it. I guess not!

I really want to move to Amish Country & live a more simply, frugal, natural & more innocent life.

Sorry that kindof turned into a vent there!

six_kids_at_28 replied:
I live in Amish COuntry! We have Amish neighbors!

Debra replied:
I am so very jealous! My SIL went to visit last summer & fell in love with it! I want to move! You think there's a Navy base close by?!

luvbug00 replied:

ITA but I need my tv

OH I don't think it's the doll ITSELF either, but I don't feel the doll promotes an independent immage for girls without vanity and boys. I like barbie she has the new "hip" look but Less hoochie IMO. And she dumpped that ken They even have differant types of barbies that are disabled and I think that helps teach acceptance of differant people. KWIM..

MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
I am 29. Wow.

Debra replied:
I just turned 29 about 2 weeks ago. When is your b-day?

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: first Gem doll...I destictly remember getting one for my 5th birthday and it was the coolest thing ever

Now on topic I guess I will stand out as one of the few who knew about and thought about all the sex *stuff* in junior high. In 7th and 8th grade my friend would have makout parties and though we never had sex or gave BJ's (though I can't stand doing that now so I definately wouldn't have done that then) we did everything leading up to it. Looking back now I think what the He!! was I doing and I'm terrified that Katy or Matt will think it's okay to be that young and do that much. I lost my virginity at 16 (to dh) and again can't immagine my child doing such an adult act as a *child* but who am I to condem it...Pot this is kettle
I know that i did learn I need ot be very open with my kids about everything because half of what made all of it so fun was that it was such a tabu topic

MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
June 22.