What's a matter with people!?

Calimama wrote: On base here we will on a fairly small street of about 10 houses. Typically everyone knows SOMETHING about everyone on the street and if you dont know.. they'll tell you. Well I'm getting my mail and my neighbor on the left comes over and asked if I saw someone entering her house last night. I'm thinking she was robbed and am concerned. Noooo she wants to make sure that MY husband doesnt tell HER husband (whose in Iraq, but know each other) that she's cheating on him! I must have had some sort of look on my face because then she piped up with "Name" and "Name" are doing it too.. so dont look at me like that! I wanted to say I'm looking at you because I think you're a S... you get the gist. I recall these past two times with Antonio in Iraq and to be honest other men were never on my mind, I was too scared of losing him. I feel so bad for these spouses who come home to cheaters.

J-rod replied: thats why soldiers come home and kill people.


what a B..... you cant really tell him (in iraq) cause you dont want something bad to happen to him.....but its gonna suck when he comes home to find out.

Calimama replied:
Yea.. I'm not going to tell him. There was a guy that my husband went with the first time who found out his wife cheated and shot himself during a mission.

redplaydoh replied: What??? I can't believe it. Where are their marriage vows in these decisions???

holley79 replied: My husband came in off a 1 year deployment and found Brandon's mom is bed with another man. He got in a day earlier then they thought.

TheOaf66 replied: so much for supporting the troops, nobody deserves that, military or other wise

gr33n3y3z replied: what a messed up world this is
so sad

CantWait replied: I can't believe she'd have the nerve to tell you. It's like one second she's worried and in the next she's proud of the fact.

I know what you mean. When Ron was in Afghanistan, he's all I ever thought of. She's got A LOT of never.

Cece00 replied: That is downright shameful. Especially for the spouse of someone serving in our military. These people are not only defending their FAMILIES, but all of the country and their spouses repay them by being adulterers. SHAMEFUL. And disgusting. She should be worrying about her husband's safety but instead she is too busy having sex with another man and worrying about being caught. Her poor husband. You are better than me, I would not have been able to keep my mouth shut...I wouldve happily told her what I thought about her.

mom2my2cuties replied: Ok - don't attack -

That is the way of life with a lot of soldier's - When i was married to a soldier that is why the "real" wives aren't part of the "IN" crowd with the other military wives.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: It's a shame. It's also a shame at how many men/women in Iraq are cheating on their spouses who are over here worried sick about them and raising their kids. That happens too.

kit_kats_mom replied:
I was thinking the same thing. I grew up in a military family (mom AF stepdad Navy) and I can vividly recall the convos of those men coming home from being on the ships. Shoot, some of them tried to pick me up...I was 12 for the love of Pete and I know they were married. Blech.

That womans behavior is shameful and nothing to be proud of though.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: That's awful! I can't believe she would tell you something like that! Where are the Marriage Vows???

My2Beauties replied: It's awful both ways IMHO - cheaters are horrible if you ask me, if you are going to cheat on someone you might as well just leave!

CantWait replied:
Oh please Tish, please don't take offense to this, but that IS NOT an excuse, and that is not the reason. I can't imagine someone cheating on their spouse while they are fighting for their lives to be part of the "IN" crowd. What a load of crock. It's unfortunate, but it's signaled out because the military community is small. The fact is, it happens just as much in "civillian life" it's just not made as big of a deal or recognized as much for the fact that it's a much larger scale then the military and because of what the military members are actually doing.

Calimama replied:
No one who cheats on their husbands are considered part of the "IN" crowd here. I'm a "real" wife and am super active within our KVN.

mom2my2cuties replied: Ok - First At several US bases, there are several "groups" that get together regularly while thier spouses are away to basically cheat on thier spouses. And they don't just wait until deployment - they grab at the chance during CQ, when the guys are in the field, at training school. (Or this was the case at Ft Bragg BIGTIME)

I wasn't saying it was an excuse AT ALL - I think cheating in any sense is horrible and inexcuseable. I think the Military wives are more targeted or accused of it because thier husband's are away for long periods of time. I wasn't attacking the military wives at all. I was just simply saying that a lot of normal women who didn't run around on thier husbands and whatever, had a harder time fitting in with some of the Wive's groups on base. And the non cheating wives are the ones I was refering to as a "REAL" wife. I got told of this by another wife who didn't participate in the cheating that I hit it off with. Things may have changed now - I am happy if it has changed. I just know how it was when we were at Bragg and Ft Lewis.

Also - It is made a bigger deal of in the military because if the soldier is the one caught cheating it is a courtmartialable (is that a word?) offense...Or it used to be. And because the world tends to hold soldiers and thier families to a higher standard.

That being said - I think this wife (and anyone else who does this) bragging about it down right dispicable.

Calimama replied:
There was a group like that in my husband's other battalion. It's sad.. and a bit pathetic. I totally agree with everything else you said 100%. Some people dont realize that a military man/woman cheating can get them in some serious trouble.

mckayleesmom replied: It is very sad that this happens....I witnessed it first hand.....Heck...our neighbors wife swapped with the people down the street...(remember my Children of the Corn stories?) There mom went to live with the guy down the street and his wife got together with her husband.....I had never lived on Post before so it was a whole new world to me.....I spent alot of time looking out my windows at the drama... .

I think that there are many reasons why this happens....althought not an excuse either. Some of these "married" people don't have traditional marriages in the first place...Some of them agree to be married to share the bah money that comes in. Some of these "married" people also couldn't pick their spouse out of a crowd because they got married so fast and barely new each other. Also....some of these woman are what my husband refers to as "post rats" that purposely single out these soldiers....get them to marry them.....Get their dental and health taken care of and then steal all the soldiers money and split before they even know what happened.

But unfortunantly it seems to be going both ways....Alot of soldiers cheat on their wives too. Its sad.

mckayleesmom replied: I just have to add that it is people like her that make other people think that ALL military wives cheat on their spouses.....