What would you do?

mummy2girls wrote: Ok all of you or most of you know my brother is not all there and needs mental help!

A little background to remind you or update the ones that don't.... My brother was with this one girl for over 5 years. and they had a baby boy together. When my nephew was 5 or 6 yrs old they broke up and then not even one month later he was marrying some other girl( so he cheated obviously on his first GF with this new one) and then 7 months later had a girl. When they had thier second child together he started to cheat once again on his wife. she caught him, they resolved the issues and started over. Now he is constantly doing that online crap with girls and dateing websites etc. Buts he is still with him and then they have a third child who is almost 2 yrs old now.

Well my brother is on my facebook and on his list is this girl. she contacts me through facebook private message. and then we start talking. I find out today from her they are and have been talking online for 2 years or more. He is going to kenya ( thats where she lives) and he is heading down in oct to meet her. I asked what she knew about my brother and the last message she told me he told her he has 1 son and thats it. he isnt married even though his profile says married... he said he just put it to that so he wont get bugged. they plan on marrying and having kids... OK i find this WRONG!!!!!

He has 4 kids that will be effected BIGTINME by his stupidness!!!! Now i am thinking that its not my place to say something but i cant live with myself if i let shawn hurt yet another girl and bring more kids into the world he cant take care of and will eventually leave anyways. My brother is the type where he is so romantic and sweet while dateing but once you marry him he becomes very cold and then his wife doesnt want to be with him anymore so he goes off looking for a new one and thats where this viscious cycle goes. I want to tell her the truth but again its not my place. NOw im always some how on purpose or by accident thrown right in the middle and i hate that. i know the truth on both sides and the lies and i hate it. Im stressed because i dont know what to do. morally i know what i should do but a part of me doesnt...

would you say something to this poor girl so she doesnt get hurt? or leave be and see another train wreck!

na81 replied: That's a tough decision to have to make, I can see why you are torn. I say maybe talk to your brother first and see what he says. Tell him that you will give him the opportunity to tell her and if he doesn't then you will. Sorry, I'm not really sure what to say, it's easy to say what I'd do but I'm not in the situation. Hope things get better for you!

mckayleesmom replied: sorry...but I would tell her.....She contacted you remember. So I would just tell your brother that you weren't going to lie to her.

A&A'smommy replied: I would tell her the truth but that is just me

Boys r us replied: I wouldn't say anything. I mean..it's online..as wrong as it may be..maybe this is just a fantasy world he's escaping to. Perhaps he has no plans to follow thru with any of it. I would stay out of it.

coasterqueen replied: Hard call, but I'd talk to your brother is who I'd talk to. Tell him you are aware of what is going on and knock some sense into his head - at least that is what I'd do to my sister.

mummy2girls replied:
no this fopr real and not fantasy.. at least thats wht i get because he did this with his first GF he had a son with.. thats how he met his current wife so thats why i am torn and cant just turn my cheek... But shoudl i?

luvbug00 replied: I'd squeel like a newborn piglet!! I'd be telling her so fast. There for me is a fine line between messing with somone at a bar vs. messing with somone another world away. I mean she could have her whole life riding on this. I think it would be so unfair for her. immagine if she came here! then what? finds him still married and he's just messing with her?? what is she gonna do?? I think you should just tell. There are just too many lives involved in his games.

gr33n3y3z replied: I would tell your brother to grow up and keep it in his pants for one
Then I would tell him he is wrong in what he is doing then tell him your warning the Girl in Kenya to stay away from him
I dont like cheating of any form actually I Hate it.
Then tell your brother to get tested for STD's that is gross

grapfruit replied: Personally, I'd call him out on the carpet. Tell this woman and tell your brother I was going to tell his wife.

I would tell him he needs to get into counciling and get help. B/c it sounds like he has a problem where he can't connect. Now, his current wife got him cheating, so I think she can't be too surpised that he's a step away from cheating again. Doesn't make it right though.

Tell Tell Tell....think about it like this. If the situation was reversed, would you want somebody telling you??? I would!

Truth may hurt, but it's the truth. That's why it never pays to go around sneaking and lying.

My2Beauties replied: I'd probably tell the girl to be honest.

grapfruit replied: So Shelly, what are YOU going to do?