What would you do\have done

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: Tonight we had a birthday dinner at my grandmother's house, for Emilie's birthday.

There was the 5 of us, my grandmother, my mom and her SO, my mom's adopted sister (long story) and her SO, and a friend of the family's, her SO and her daughter.

DH had an outing after the "party", to go play poker with the guys.

He ate a tiny bit and after he was done, he left to go play. He didn't wait until everyone else was done eating, and he didn't stay long enough for birthday cake.

What would you do\have done?

Would you be mad?

Mommy2Isabella replied: I would have been TICKED!! To say the least!

bawoodsmall replied: I would be ticked. We all like to have a night out but it seemed like he was hurrying. It was Emilies dinner. You have every right to be po'd imo.

Cece00 replied: Yes, I wouldve been.

My DH wouldnt have done this, because he knows

a) its our CHILD's day

and

I'd reem his a**

But if he did that, he'd be getting on heck of a lecture the next day.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: So I'm not overreacting, being ticked?

I mean..he could at LEAST have stayed for the cake. It was only about 35 minutes after he left.... and they guys he was playing with KNEW he had to do dinner with the family before going since it was a birthday.

CantWait replied: RUDE, IMHO.

Calimama replied: I would have been upset, he couldn't even wait for cake? I don't think you're overreacting at all.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I would probably be more hurt than anything. I know she's only four, but she only has a fourth birthday once.

msoulz replied: Was his event scheduled before the party? If so I would be only mildy irritated but if he scheduled it after then I would be extremely upset.

Cece00 replied:
NO WAY are you overreacting. Give me a break, like he couldnt wait 35 min....ugh. Sorry, sometimes husbands are inconsiderate.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I would be mad as well. DH and I have a system - when things conflict, we work out ahead of time the schedule. For example, if we are going to my mothers house but he wants to be home to watch a football game, we'll agree that after an hour he can tell me when he's ready to leave and I'll be ready within 15 minutes.

mckayleesmom replied: I would be upset......You should make him take Emilee out for a daddy and her day to make up for his insensitivity...

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
We had arranged beforehand. We agreed that he could leave as soon as the "party" was over - and we specified that "after the party" was after everyone was done with the birthday cake, the "party" was over and then it was just coffee and chatting so he could leave.

He left halfway through dinner, pretty much, rather than when we'd agreed on when he could leave.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: ITA with Aimee, more hurt than ticked. If he made the plans a long time ago, fine. But he should have at least stayed for cake.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
His even was scheduled before, yes. Originally he had told them he wasn't going to go..but we talked about it and we agreed that he could leave after we had the cake and finished the "birthday" portion of the dinner...

I'm just more irritated, I think, because I had to try to explain to everyone there why he rushed off and didn't stay for the cake.

redchief replied:
Hmmm.... I would hate to be in his position. It's my guess he feels he did his "duty," right?

Hillbilly Housewife replied: probably

Boo&BugsMom replied: Hurt AND ticked I would have been. You're more easy going than I am. I wouldn't have let Troy schedule anything else. Family first, IMO. He should have waited until after the party like you agreed or at least cleared it with you before he left.

redchief replied:
Mmmhmm... No advice... Good luck getting him to see your side of it if he feels like he did what you two discussed. I've seen this argument played out and most of the time no one comes away satisfied.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: bah..i'm not going to fight about it or anything... just wanted to know if I was validated in the way I feel about it.

luvmykids replied: BTDT I used to make excuses for DH all the time, for being late or leaving early b/c of golf. I finally gave up and decided to let everyone else come to their own realization of what a schmuck he was