What the heck do I do?! - He peed....

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: ew ew ew.

I went into my son's room, where the older daycare boy takes his quiet time, to get him after the younger ones were sleeping, and I caught him red-handed... or should I say, full-handed?! He was on his knees on the floor, with his pants and underwear around his ankles, peeing under my son's armoire. Some had gone into the bottom shelf...

thankfully, I had just done a sort of his clothes again this past week, and his clothes that were in the bottom shelf of the armoire were hung in his closet instead, so that the bottom shelf could be filled with toys. It got on the carpet under the armoire.

I have no idea what to do... I called my daycare supervisor, she said to talk to the parents about it (away from the kids) and since she's home today due to no buses, I called her at home... she is as flabbergasted as I am.

lisar replied: OMG... That is so nasty. I dont know what to tell you to do. Sorry.

C&K*s Mommie replied: In a round about way, can you ask him why he did it? He may feel embarassed about it or ashamed and may not admit it to you. But if it is a one time occurence I would not make a big deal of it, just tell him that it is not appropiate to do (in kids terms of course) and leave it at that. jmo.

Still talk to the mother, though. GL!

redplaydoh replied: I'd make him clean it up and he'd lose some privlidges until he earned them back. Make it clear that this is not acceptable.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
That's what I did... I was just so shocked, my jaw hit the floor, and he started whimpering "I won't do it again...I promise!!" until I told him to use the toilet next time and to get back in the bed for a little bit of a longer quiet time. (I needed to regroup... lol)

It's kinda funny in retrospect though. He wasn't impressed that I made him scrub the spot on the carpet though. He said it was "disgusting"... oh well...

mom2my2cuties replied: WOW! I can just see you trying to hold it together - BTDT with my son when he was about 3-4. He was potty trained and just refused to use the potty for a few days. Actually had a favorite spot in front of the TV in the family room.

Have you asked the little guy why he did that? Has he done anything like that before?

Sorry - I know it's gross. But I think trying to find out why he would have done that - might help you in knowing if he just "did it because his want to wanted to" or if there was some other reason.

I think talking to his parents are also a good idea. And who knows They might offer to pay to have your carpets cleaned.

Calimama replied: Ew, that's gross. At least you saw him doing it rather than just wondering what that smell was later.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Yeah well I don't think it was the first time... the room smells a bit like urine... I just thought it might have been Zach's dirty laundry (sometimes he tinkles by accident at night on the way to the can...) which I washed yesterday, or his sheets, which I changed Wednesday, and again this morning... he has a plastic under his sheets so that if he does wet his bed, it doesn't go in the mattress...

Even with it all cleaned up, it still smells like urine. So I'm wondering if he's done that before.

mom2my2cuties replied: Rocky don't take this the wrong way - I don't mean it bad at all - but it is something that has just occured to me. If he is doing this during quiet time do you think he might be scared he will get in trouble if he goes to the bathroom and just can't hold it anymore? I can't imagine they are scared to ask you to go potty, but you never know what kids are thinking.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
No. I kwym though... but I'm not "that way" about it - the kids are allowed to go to the bathroom, get a drink etc while they're in quiet time... they're not strapped to their beds or anything... lol

I mean that if they don't want to nap, they don't have to, as logn as they play QUIETLY. They can read books, play with toy cars, blocks, puzzles etc... as long as it's quiet so not to disturb the others that ARE sleeping.

He usually goes to the bathroom on his own no problem. He even knows that if, for some reason the bathroom door is locked, he is then allowed to go through my bedroom to go through the 2nd bathroom to get to the main bathroom and unlock the door. That's the only time the kids are allowed in my bedroom during the day.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: And, it's not like his quiet time is long in any case... about 30 minutes. Just the time for the little ones to get put to bed, and time for me to clean up the kitchen a bit from lunch. Then I go up and get him and we do some 1 on 1 stuff together. But since today Zach is home as well, they're happily quietly playing beside me together, reading each other stories...

jem0622 replied: Daycare or not, I can tell you that every boy I know has peed in the wrong place. My neighbor's son peed in the washroom sink. Another gal I know found her son peeing in the cat litter box. My oldest son did it on his own carpet. Why? Because they can!

Even though the bathroom isn't accessible, I can tell you that he still might think he needs to be very quiet...which means no going potty and flushing the toilet because it is loud for some. KWIM?

Anytime I've caught my boys I ask them where we go to the bathroom and they tell me 'in the potty'.

You might want to have him go before you get into settling the others down to sleep...that way he is empty.

sparkys2boys replied: wow, what did the mom say in the end?? I would just keep a close eye on him in there and ask often if he neds to go the the bathroom.. good luck with him!

CantWait replied: I'm sorry, but niether of my 2 boys have peed in the "wrong" place. They've always used the toilet.

Sorry that happened Rocky, I can't imagine why he would do that. Hopefully it's a one time accurance though. It sounds like it considering he didn't enjoy cleaning it up.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well Rocky you are a better person then I am. I couldn't do it.. I wouldn't put up with that. I think after the talk I had with the mother.. man I don't know. I know if it was my son, I would've spanked his bottom..
My boys have never peed in the wrong place either.. that I know off. The toilet, or outside at home. I think that is odd behavior. I have two boys and other then maybe in the bathtub when they were really small... I have never witnessed this. He knew what he did was wrong when he knew he was busted.

Man best of luck.. cause I dang sure couldn't do it. But then again thats why I am not a daycare provider cause I would go crazy

Boo&BugsMom replied: EWWW! I would have lost it. I would talk to the parents, but I would make sure he is there so he knows you will not tolerate it and that he is being reprimanded. I personally, think it's important for kids to hear what is being said to the parents when they get in trouble and be a part of the process or else they wont know if you said anything or not and think you will never tell them, IMHO.

Is this the same guy that has been driving you crazy?!

ETA: I agree with Mel that if it was my own child, he would have gotten a spanking. He knew what he was doing. If it would have been another child then they would have been punished as well, but not with a spanking, but they sure as heck would have learned their lesson.

redchief replied: I wish I could say I never relieved myself in an inappropriate place (in my weak defense, alcohol was involved). Rocky, I think you handled it appropriately and more. You kept your cool about it despite how upset you obviously were. I hope the young man learned his lesson.