What is the most offensive, cruel, galling....

BAC'sMom wrote: What is the most offensive, cruel, galling or hurtful thing anyone has ever said about one of your children?Mine would be…. People going on and on about how little my daughter is, she’s very petite. IT DRIVES ME NUTS. Ansley is almost 6 and yes she is shorter and smaller than everyone in her class let alone school.

I was in Walmart the other day and as I was checking out the cashier looked over at my daughter and spoke to her. “Hello, how old are you?” my daughter told her “Almost 6” this lady starts saying “No way, you are so small, how can you be 6 ?”. She continued to say “Does your mother ever feed you?”

I told her “yes I feed her, she is just petite!!”

CosmetologyMommy replied: When I told my SIL that we were putting Aidan in daycare she said" No daycare will take him, he cries and eats too much!!!!!"


I WAS SPEECHLESS............BUT NOT IN MY MIND

scattytart replied: oh how unkind!!! i think little girls are so sweet when they are little, i was always small as a child from birth and i remember people always saying that i looked anoriex, i remember when my mum was called into my school by my school nurse who said that she thought i was being naglected, i hate it when people stick there nose into things they just dont know about.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Not sure if this qualifies, but it is not suprise that Chris and I have bi-racial children, and they look almost nothing like us! ((that is a good thing)). We constantly get double takes, stares, and questioned on if they are ours. Alot of the time, I am alone with the girls and this seems to happen more often, or people will ask "is their father white?" .

Kellie is petite, too. We get comments like that all the time from family, friends and strangers. At least when the family and friends pick Kellie up, their back is not killing them by the time they put her back down!!

zdk753 replied: I have people that ask who Dylan's father is b/c he looks nothing like Zach or Kailynn. When I tell them that they all have the same father they act like I really cheated on my hubby but don't want anyone to know. They don't understand that it is possible for one of my children to take after my side. I also get comments all the time about Kailynn's size & her hair. I have been accused of neglecting her by strangers & my own brother. She turns 4 in June & is going to be starting pre-k in Aug. People are always telling me that I can't possibly think of putting her in school when she is so small & hardly has hair. The last time I checked those weren't requirements to get into school. She is ready to go to school. She is the smartest child I have ever met.

moped replied: I can't think of nay comments in particular, but people always comment on how big Jack is - but he is sooo darn tall that he looks like should be older - but he is still my baby!

luvmykids replied: I guess this was really more of a dig towards me, but my DHs grandmother said Kylie looks just like me and Macie looks just like Dad, then proceeded to say everything would be easy for Macie because of her good looks.

MyLuvBugs replied: Ya know I really had to think about this one. Most people say nice things about Lorelei b/c she's such a flirt in public. But the comment that I think was the cruelest so far was more about me as a mom and not Lorelei.

ME: "Come here my little chunky monkey!" (I said to my daughter in a little kid voice)
My MIL: "You shouldn't call her that. You'll make her anorexic. I had a friend...."

She's perfectly healthy in everyway! Dang It! I me calling her a chunky monkey or a chubba Bubba is NOT going to make her anorexic. Stupid!

My3LilMonkeys replied: My SIL has a friend who has a 2 year old son. The other night we were at MIL's house and Aaron (the son) kept taking the toys Brooke was playing with. Finally he took her blankie and she got mad and smacked him. I immediately took her and told her that she was wrong and to apologize. Erica (Aaron's mom) made the comment to MIL "I don't know why she even bothers, Brooke is the worst behaved child I have ever seen."

I know she's no angel but that made me mad!

luvmykids replied:
People are ridiculous! We still call Macie Chunky Monkey and Colt Bubba ... and they've thinned out and eat like horses!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I can't think of anything really except that I hate it when people I don't even know make comments about Wil having a paci in his mouth. I've had several women say "oh, I bet you have a nice smile if you didn't have that thing in your mouth!" I think that's rude.

My mom will sometimes use the word "lazy" or "stubborn" when describing something Wil isn't doing. He took awhile to start crawling and she said "Oh he's just being lazy". I don't think she meant it at all in a mean sense, but it really bugs DH since his grandmother used to always call him lazy and fat as a boy...although she unfortunately really is mean!!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I have a "friend" who has said that I allow Tay to whine too much-never mind that her child calls names and is generally RUDE and WHINES and is 2 years older than Taylor.

CantWait replied:
I get this very often also, especially because Robbie is very tall and skinny. It just drives me nuts, and hurts me because he's so sensitive about the way he looks. Even dh's parents are always commenting on it which drive me nuts even more. He refuses to take his shirt off in the summer, and that sort of thing.

It also erks me when people comment on how serious he is and that he doesn't smile in pictures. He's had some problems with his teeth and is embarrassed by them...his dad also tells him to pose serious all the time, sorta because he's a boy Ahhhh Whatever!!!!!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: well it's not offensive about the kids - but relates - I get told ALL THE TIME that if I cheated on DH, I did it at least 3 times - cuz all 3 kids are cast from the same mold....

Come ON.

Kentuckychick replied: My best friend's son Connor (my Godson) is almost 16 months old and is quite bowlegged. He's been to Shriners Hospital and seen specialists and the doctors feel that it's something that will correct itself with time, but I hate it when we're out in public and people make comments.

The other day I was with his mom and we were walking into the mall and he was walking and a woman behind us said "Well what a sweet little bowlegged thing he is!" I know she wasn't trying to be mean and the comment in and of itself wasn't bad (I mean she refered to him as "sweet" and ooh'd and ahh'd over him... but it's still really insensitive! And I know it made my friend feel uncomfortable.

Ugh!

CAMSMOM1 replied: Reading these posts makes me so angry at how ignorant people can be!!!!

As some of you know, Cameron has a "eating problem". He eats and never gets full. He LOVES food...and would rather eat then go and play.

I get so much crap about this from my family. First of all, they all think it's my fault that he's this way! They say I overfeed him, and that I'm going to make him OBESE!!!! They call him, "FAT BOY", "CHUNK"....or so many fat-nicknames. At first I didn't mind, cause it was cute. He's a baby and has those chubby theighs and feet. But now they are taking it to the next level. They think it's amusing to see Cameron throwing a fit over a cookie, and they are constantly making jokes about it....and telling me how BIG OF A PUSHOVER I AM....in there exact words!

The other big joke in the family is how Cameron wouldn't listen to me. When I would go p/u Cameron from his Grandma's, and my MIL was there, they would be constantly make remarks about Cameron not listening to me. For instance, Cameron would never go near the stairs when I wasn't there. And as soon as I would pick him up, he would go straight away for the stairs. They got a kick of it. "What a pushover Ann is! Look....he doesn't even listen to her! "

And the one that tops it off is, "Cameron never acts that way when his mother's not here." "He's a Jackel and Hyde...he's an ANGEL with everyone but with his mother he's a TERROR!" Yes, they said all these things.

And when I cut his hair short, they call him "Sargent Carter", they say he looks like an army man. I'm not offended by this one as much. But they are constantly poking fun at his and my expense.

People can be so mean and critcal. Family is the first to point out how you aren't doing something right, or how they did things differently with their kids.

Ann

luvmykids replied:
I think a lot of kids are like that, I know mine are. Personally I think they want to push our buttons more to see if anything has changed. And I think they know we won't actually kill them so they push and push, but their comfort zone with other people is different so they're leary of crossing the line. Mine are total angels w/ babysitters or gparents, they rarely get so much as a cross look from those people. But me? Textbook three year olds.

kimberley replied: why are people so rude?!

i have been told Jacob is going to "turn out gay" because he is too sensitive

FIL said i was going to give Jade eating issues for nursing so long.

my grandma said i was "ruining" Jacob by comforting him when he cries and for co-sleeping.

and the endless comments i have had about James' bad behavior and what he'll turn out like as an adult are not just mean but hateful. he is a little boy with issues and we need to love him NOT judge him! none of us know what it is like to be insanely itchy the first 5yrs of your life.

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied: Well with Nate the oldest it is He is way to big for his age he is huge . He is a big boy but so is his parents. he is 6 and 96 lbs


With Andrew it is does your brother steal all your food (he is 4 and 27lbs.



And then people thing Andrew is not mine or his daddys or that he and Nate have the same daddy cause andrew looks nothing like any of us however he looks JUSt like his aunt on his daddys side

MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
Marie, I am so sorry, I didn't realize I was being insensitive when I commented on Robbie when you posted your christmas pictures.
For me, it is when I am changing Logan someplace and a stranger stares at his chest. Or when someone who knows us, but doesn't know everything, asks why Logan's chest sticks out when they pick him up. Um, he had heart surgery?!?

CantWait replied:
Kelly, please don't feel bad...it's not like you were to know

ions_momma replied: This girl that I used to work with (who I didnt care for much by the way) would always comment on EVERYONE's kids, but of course, she though her's were such little angels! Yeah right! Her kids, not to sound mean or anything, were some of the worst behaved kids I have ever met! They were always rude, never let anyone touch there stuff, and just ignored you when you talked to them. Anyways, she always made comments about how Ion is going to be in jail when he gets older because he is being exposed to too much living on a college campus! Ok, so what does living on a college campus have to do with jail!?! And she always said how he was too skinny and how we were not responsible enough to be parents at a young age and it shows by the way Ion acts!

CAMSMOM1 replied:

I know how you feel! I work at an after school program and have to deal with 60 sets of parents, who ALL think their child could never do any wrong. And that it must be the "other" kids or parents problem. Makes me mad!

About Ion, how on earth could she say by living on a college campus he is gong to be a criminal?? That made me laugh it was so ridculous! Sounds like this lady is on her high horse....I wouldn't listen to anything she has to say. She should look at her own children's problems, instead of pointing things out to others.

Freckled Momma replied: I believe folks make these type comments and point out any lil thing they can find because they are all insecure of their own kids, themselves, etc...kwim?

I know there's been things said to me over the years...but nothing is coming to mind (I'm old and have 4 kids...the memory isn't the same anymore )

to everyone

luvbug00 replied:

DITTO!!! I'm usually accused of being the babaysitter or maid .

Mya has a "dead tooth" in frount ( she hit it when she was very young and the root died) so it's grey and I hate when people say what's wrong with her tooth? or somthing ignorent to that effect IN FROUNT OF HER and so she is constantly trying to conjure up a plan to pull it out.

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: The only thing I cn think of is when My mom told me
"it's not your fault Katy's having problems (it was jaundice) it's just that you don't have any maternal instincts yet. Maybe you'll eventually get some"

My mom isn't known for being the most supportive of anything I do so I have learned to ignore her most of the time. That just didn't go over well when I had a 3 day old that we thought was about to have to go back into the hospital.

ions_momma replied:
Thats exactly what I have always wondered since she said it! Its like she thinks that college kids are all criminals. Ok, there may be some, but that doesnt mean that the ones my child is around are!

Celestrina replied: Ben is currently seeing a teacher and a speech therapist because he isn't talking as much as other kids his age. This does not reflect his intellegence. An aquatince of mine described him as slow. Mabye I should have told her that the teacher said his math skills were advanced. They are that of a child six months to one year older. He is anything but slow.

holley79 replied: Well Annika is still new to the world so I'm sure someone will say something hateful before it's all over with. When they do I will add it.

I CAN NOT believe the way people act. Whatever happened to the old saying, "If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all?" People are cruel and mean.

Everyone here has beautiful children and no one, I MEAN NO ONE has any right to say otherwise. That just makes me so hearing what people have said to you guys.

and a swift kick in the bum to the mean people of the world.