What is my problem??

Danalana wrote: Okay, so I signed us up for classes a couple of months ago. I went to the breastfeeding class already, and then we went to the childburth class. I was looking at the schedule, and all that's left is the infant care class. Well, IT WAS THURSDAY NIGHT! And what were we doing? We went out to eat and then just hung out here. Why why why can't I remember things? Now I don't know what to do. I have kept newborns before, but I don't know how to care for a circumcision wound. And Richard knows almost NOTHING I don't know if maybe I can get us into a class sometime in the next week or so, but I will check. If not, we're in trouble. And I am a dork.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh Dana...you will be fine!! They will teach you all about circumcision care in the hospital after he is born. It's really nothing too complicated. And caring for a newborn is pretty simple, too. The hardest part for me was breastfeeding (and trying to find time to sleep).

Seriously, you are going to do great!!! Besides, you have all of us to bounce questions off of.

MoonMama replied: Its called mommy brain and welcome to it.

Sorry now I'll be serious. First take a deep breath and relax things will be ok. They will show/tell you how to care for the circumcision area at the hospital. Everyone is super nervous there first time. There are a lot of great books (What To Expect The First Year a lot of people I know really liked myself too) if you want something to help a bit. And you know you can call me anytime if you need advice or anything. Relax your going to do great and be a wonderful mom.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Dana, once that baby comes your mommy instinct will take over. They will show you everything and answer all your questions in the hospital. Honestly, I wish I would have never went to any of my classes. They stunk, and I learned nothing. Hands on experience after the baby comes is priceless honey, and best.

And the mommy mush brain...I've been there. It was HORRIBLE with Tanner. Arg! I could tell you a million stories.

Danalana replied: I mostly wanted to go because of Richard....*sigh* Oh well.

Crystalina replied: Dana it will all come to you and you'll be amazed at how much is just common sense. Not only that you can always ask someone and there will come a point when you're tired of everyones advice and remedies and you'll just do it on your own.

I learned babies are hard to break.

Calimama replied: I forget stuff all the time.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Ditto to what everyone else said. I don't remember a thing from the birthing class, but I do remember what they told me in the hospital. Plus, that's what Peds are for, you call them with questions, they are used to it. And of course we are here, so ask away!

grandma replied:
You are too cute! You will be fine, you seem very smart, caring and already motherly.
Back in the day, we never had any organized classes and only knew what our mothers told us and some didn't even have that. Being a mother is instinct and you will be wonderful! As for you husband, they never know anything and learn from hands on (if they dare)...lol
Stop worrying so much, God gave you everything you need to take care of your baby!

Danalana replied: Yeah, I think I'm mostly worried that it's a boy. I have kept plenty of newborn girls, but I don't think any of the baby boys I kept were newborns. I know it can't be that different, except for the circumcision thing. I know they will tell us how to care for it; I just don't wanna mess it up.

grandma replied:
The only differect in baby girls and boys is that the boys pee on you and it's the funnies thing!

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: Have you thoroughly researched circumcision? You know it's not just a little snip, and there's no pain reliever given, right? Do you know what the foreskin is for? Did you know that NO health organization recommends routine infant circumcision? I have a ton of info if you need it.

sparkys2boys replied: Dana, take a deep breath and relax girl.. you will be a wonderful mom!!! As for your Dh he may be abit nervous at first but it will come with time. Just throw him into it, take a long hot bath, go to the store for a few mins to get something, run out for a coffee and leave him with baby.. the will survive. As much as it will kill you with worry they will get through it. Who cares if the diaper is a lil lose, maybe the baby cried for a second or two or DH is nervous bathing him. Its all a learning expereince by trial and error!!

Danalana replied:
Yep, we have done some research, but the best is real-life people. I have 2 friends who have little boys that are uncircumcised. they both say they would circumcise if they had it to do over. One of them has trouble cleaning his and gets infections easily, and she doesn't want to be cleaning him much longer (he's in school). We decided the pros outweigh the cons, plus DH is circumcised and says he doesn't want anything different for our son. I know some people don't circumcise, and that's their decision...we've made a decision to do it, and I'm alright with it. They do use numbing medication, though, which is better than nothing. On my pregnancy board, one of the lady's husbands is not circumcised and he regrets it so much. Apparently, he can't enjoy "marital relations" much because of the discomfort. Actually, he has looked into getting it done as an adult, but I'm not sure where they are in that decision. Anyway, thanks for the offer, but we are comfortable in our decision. I just want to be able to take care of it correctly.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied:
Well, your friends aren't very educated about it, because you DON'T have to clean it. It's like washing a finger. And most doctors are uneducated about the proper care, and say that you need to pull the foreskin back, but that's the WORST thing you can do. The foreskin naturally separates on its own, usually by puberty.

I just hope you know you're getting incorrect information, and know what price your son will pay for that.

Danalana replied: Well, my husband "paid the price". I doubt he would want it for his own son if it caused him any problems.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Both our boys are circumsized Dana. This is your choice. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty. I also would take anyone's advice with a grain of salt if their advice is rude and arrogant. It is your child, not anyone else's. They will also teach you all that stuff in the hospital. It's not hard to take care of (the circumcision). Pretty easy actually. You'll do great and make whatever decision is right for YOUR child!

Danalana replied: Thanks, Jennie! I was going to say I will have to close this thread if it disintegrates into a circumcision debate Don't make me use my powers!

stella6979 replied:
Geez, you really do have a holier than thou attitude don't you? I'd be willing to bet that the majority of the men in this country have been circumsized and I have yet to hear about the "prices they've paid" for having it done. If we have a son he will be circumsized as well even if only for "vanity" purposes. I know, I know....I'm such a terrible Mother.
To answer your question though Dana. There is NOTHING wrong with you. We didn't take any classes and we did just fine. I was a little worried about Jeff, but he dove right in like he'd been doing it for years. He was the one who changed her first diaper. I bet your DH will do great! Sometimes I don't think we give our guys enough credit. LOL!

grandma replied: Both of my sons are circumsized with no problems! It's totally YOUR choice!

skinkybaby replied: Circumcision also cuts down on the risk for STDs. You do what you think is best!


Now, back to the topic at hand, you'll be amazed at how easily everything comes to you. And if you do have any questions the nurses at the hospital will be more than willing to help! Ask them questions until you're blue in the face!

HuskerMom replied: You'll do fine! I was kinda worried about my Dh too because he had never been around babies at all but he has done great!

CantWait replied:
Where do you come off????? Seriously!!!!!!!!!!!


Dana, you'll be fine hun seriously. Take a deep breathe and don't listen to those that try and pull you down.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Dana it will be fine!! I was a little worried about circ care too but it wasn't so bad. If you're worried about Dh just make sure he's there when they show you how to do it. It's really not hard, just messy. They gave us a tube of Vaseline and told us to make an *ice cream cone* right on it, and that's it. Our only problem was we must have used way too much vaseline because Andrew's pee always came straight out of the leg of his diaper.

A&A'smommy replied: Oh honey most of us didn't take an infant care class and did just fine, your mothering instincts will kick in and take over!!

BabyOwen427 replied: You'll do great!! I didn't take any child care classes and somehow Owen has survived

Circ care is easy. Our doc told us to do this: Put a glob of vasoline in the center of a piece of gauze. Make a 'tent' with the gauze and place it directly over the circ. Then diaper on. The hardest part is trying to be easy about cleaning any poo off, I didn't want brush the circ itself with the wipes.

I think some people come here from boards that debate alot. They just need to realize we don't debate much here (or try to), we try to desplay our opinions with out trampling others. Don't heed her much mind. I'm sure there is some big parenting no no that she's done that we would gasp at.

sparkys2boys replied: Dana, please don't let rude, self obsessed comments hurt or get to you You do what YOU feel is RIGHT and not what others seem to want to push down your throat. We had decided to not circ. and then when my oldest was 6 and in Gr1 we had to get him done.. not not not fun. Its soooo much worse when they older. We hadn't gotten Cameron done when he wasa born and I have been just waiting for that bad infection and hearing we have to do him now thats he older. I wish I hadn't felt pushed to not get them done and went with my gut and had it done at birth. What's not right for some is right for others and I think some of us should remember that and not be so quick to judge and be hurtful.

lovemy2 replied: Hey there - cruncy is one thing crass is another

Dana don't worry about the Mommy brain - it doesn't get any better - you just learn how to live with it

Little guy will be fine - you and Richard will do great - don't be afraid of trusting your instincts - they are usually right

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: Wow, when was I hurtful, crass, or rude? I just offered to give her info on circing if she was interested, and said that her friends' info was wrong .

I was hoping she'd base her decision on ACCURATE info, not misinformation.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Go back and read. It's not hard to miss.

sparkys2boys replied: and know what price your son will pay for that....... I think this was the part that was rude to be honest. Its great to offer correct info to people that want it but really probally didn't need to add in that comment. The price her son will pay will be one of happiness and love and knowing that his parents made an informed loving decision based on a number of things and not just what others thought to be the norm for everyone.

Calimama replied:
She wasn't asking what we THOUGHT about circumcision. I for one am sick of you inadvertently telling us how wrong we are for not breast feeding, for doing CIO, and for circumsizing. There is a way to say to give information without crossing the " I know everything, you're wrong" line.

Crystalina replied:
I was the same way. Whenever Evan had a little poo on there he went straight to the sink. I didn't have him out much before his circ was healed so there was always a sink nearby.

grandma replied:
Nicely said...DITTO! And I haven't even been around here that long, but already got that drift.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I have to agree here that pulling back the foreskin is probably what is bringing on the infections... I have NEVER pulled back my son's foreskin... and he's never gotten an infection. It's there for a reason, not to be cut off, but that's a personal decision to every parent.

Knock it off children.

Man it's always the same ppl involved...

luvmykids replied: Dana, you'll do just fine. I won't even address the things that went OT here None of us were perfectly prepared to be parents but you figure it out as you go and we're all here to help you too

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Yep, it is an ongoing learning experience. And no matter how much experience and education you have about children, you will still make mistakes, but that is how we learn. All your anxiety will turn into gushy love once you see that baby.

CantWait replied:
Don't forget about the part if we ate our placenta then we wouldn't have PPD and therefore wouldn't feel the need to lash out at our kids.

PrairieMom replied: All you need to know for boys is to point "it" down with putting the diaper on, and keep a dry cloth handy to cover "it" up when doing diaper changes. It only took Ben Peeing on his face once before I figured that one out.

sparkys2boys replied:
Amen sista

PrairieMom replied:
I just took a minute for my self while I was LMBO, and thought "it didn't go into his mouth... it didn't go into his mouth... it didn't go into his mouth... " what ever you have to tell your self to make you feel better...

The think about being a parent is that its just one mistake after another, and we just all do the best we can with what we are dealt. and that we all love our babies.

Danalana replied: Yeah, I understand what you're saying. I know everybody makes mistakes, and that's ok. I think I was just upset with myself for scheduling classes and adjusting my work schedule around them, only to forget. That's what bothered me the most. I guess I was thinking "Gah, if I can't remember ONE simple class, I'm in trouble". Ah well, it's over and done with.