What a nice (NOT) FIL!

coasterqueen wrote: Dh just forwarded a message to me from my FIL about Kylie's birthday and it said at the bottom "again I'm happy for you and Karen on your potential new arrival. Hope all is well".

HUH? Potential???? I asked DH what that was supposed to mean and he didn't know. He didn't even tell his dad that I had been spotting.

What a thing to say "potential"! I guess maybe it's because I'm only 5 weeks pregnant. UGH!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: How insensitive! What a thing to say! I'm sorry to hear that!

amynicole21 replied: Ugh! I guess he's like a lot of men - the baby's not "real" until it's out in the world.

Boys r us replied: That is very odd in my book and I'd have had the same reaction as you're having!

paradisemommy replied: ugh what a total jerk...

Kaitlin'smom replied: huh? I dont get it either and probably would ask him what he means by that.

Josie83 replied: I'm sorry he hurt your feelings, Karen. Only a man could come out awith a comment like that, but maybe he didn't mean it to sound bad xx

MommyToAshley replied: Giving him the benefit of the doubt, he probably didn't even realize what he said. Men just don't get it, and they say some pretty stupid stuff sometimes. I am sorry he hurt your feelings, it would have hurt mine too, but try not to think about it too much.

Alice replied: Unless he has a history of being an insensitive jerk, maybe you should assume he meant "upcoming"

ediep replied:
yea, I was thinking this too....some men don't think before they say things. They often don't even know when they are being hurtful

mama3x replied: You gotta find out what he really meant and let us know.

My first reaction was ruffled feathers but after reading what some of the others posted, maybe I got irritated to quickly. My FIL wants nothing to do with us so I am biased...

And I agree, only a guy could make a comment like that (or a really vicious woman).

coasterqueen replied: Well all, I guess I should apologize to my FIL and hit my husband over the head with a frying pan!

After I saw that email I SPECIFICALLY asked DH if he told FIL about the spotting and he said he did not tell him. So last night I told DH what FIL said bothered me still and I didn't understand why he would say this. DH said "well I told him you were spotting". Uhhhh??? HUH?? He told me he didn't. Grrrrr.

So now I understand why he said it but still...IMO whether there WAS (there isn't) a possibility that the spotting was a sign of miscarriage...there is still a baby..it's not a potential at all. I told him if I was to miscarry there was never a potential baby..it would always be a real baby.

But I''m not upset at FIL because I can understand why a man would say something like that, lol.

A&A'smommy replied: That is SO wrong neither one of them should have said either one of those things! GRRRR I'm sorry you had to be bothered by something like that!!