What a NIGHTMARE - THE talk with Tanner..omg
Boys r us wrote: So yesterday I went home from work early and got him and we just hung out at home. Well, we were in the living room tossing the nerf football back and forth and I decided that this was a good time to have THE TALK! OMG..was I wrong!
Rick and I had been discussing this and thinking it was probably about time, b/c I want to talk to him about this all along, not wait until changes start happening! He's 8. and he's asked me questions about sex and babies and I've always answered them honestly..so he already knows how babies are made..it was just the OTHER stuff ..like puberty and masterbation and all of that..that I needed to discuss!
So I said, you know Tan, you're getting to be a big boy and it won't be long b/f you're a really big boy and when that happens you'll grow hair in some pretty funny places...and we talked about that and about how soon we'd buy him his own deodorant and all of that. Then I started in about..the "M" word. I was like when boys get older they discover that sometimes it feels good to touch theit privates...and his eyes about popped out of his head and he said "mom..WHAT?"
and so then I was going to try to sooth his wonder and tell him that girls do it too...and I said, "well it's okay for boys to do that, girls can do it too" then he was flipping..yeah..nice..I just told my son it was okay if girls touched his privates..if that wasn't bad enough...I continued and said..."but you can only do this in your room in private"
OMG....what a disaster..once I realized I'd really confused him, we both were laughing so hard..and I was like "well...I mean boys will touch their own and girls will do the samething with their own bodies..."
Poor little fella..I think I traumatized him..more so than most parents! WE decided just to forget the whole conversation ever took place and keep on playing footbal!!! 
MommyToAshley replied: 
Sorry to laugh, but I can imagine his eyes popping out of his head.
It's good that you feel comfortable talking to him about these things and that you have started so early. I am soooo not looking forward to "the talks".
kit_kats_mom replied: ROFLMBO!! that is sooo funny. My dh will have to have the discussion with the girls or we will buy books and allow them to come to us with questions. Either that or I'll make a powerpoint presentation and have them ask questions. LOL I am a terrible speaker off of the cuff.
A&A'smommy replied: OH NO what a night!!! Don't worry you probably didn't tramatize him but the thought scares the crap out of me I'm not looking forward to that 
momof2girls replied: LMAO!! u r sooo funny!
Azaria is 9 and we have talked about alot but not M-ing.... my goodness I dont want to even bring that up! lol
Kaitlin'smom replied:   how funny, I can just see his eyes poping out. I hoep i can be that open and honest with Kaitlin, I just want her to be comfortable (as much as a person can) to come to us with questions
TANNER'S MOM replied: The conversation! WOw..I have older kids and it is no fun!! My daughter is 14, and it seems girls have a lot of different questions, I mean to do with there period, bra's etc..and it seems harder.
I agree that honesty is your best policy! Good move mom! I have always been honest and try to answer questions. My best thing has been mother nature has taught my kids the facts of life, and I thank her.
It is kinda strange when you hear my 6 yr old tell his friends, that this mare was just breed to that stud horse, she came in a month ago but didn't take. etc
Or when they are young heifers out in a pasture humping each other...and he says oh they are just playing they do it all them time. They can't really do anything about it.
As far as the big "M" word, my husband said the boys (11,and6) will figure that out on there own, all men do...lol
Boys r us replied: Haa..I think ALL kids figure it out on their own..but I want to make sure my kids understand that this is natural and normal..I don't want them to feel like they're doing something dirty, ya know..
MomofJandB replied: OMG! Good for you! I've been thinking about having "the" talk with my daughter. She's 8. I just can't seem to muster up the guts! I keep looking at the Care and Keeping of You: The body book from American girl, but some of it is too detailed for the first talk, I think!
I'm sure he's not traumatized. I'll bet you did a great job. Sounds like you have an open relationship! 
My2Beauties replied: LOL That is too funny Nichole! I think it's good you can talk to your son about these things and you're doing a good job. Desiree is 8 and I know her mom has talked to her about AF, boobs, sex and really anything. Desiree is pretty mature though for an 8 year old and handled everything really well!!! I bet that was hard for her. Glad Hanna is only 11 1/2 months old!! 
Kirstenmumof3 replied: OMG I had a hard enough time talking to Emily about her periods and the changes in her body, I'm not ready to do this with Spencer yet! But good for you for being open and honest with him! Don't worry you probably didn't tramtize him for life!
Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm not looking forward to that at all. But, like you I don't want my kids to feel shameful for something that is so natural. I also want them to feel like they can talk about these things with Scotty and me and not be embarassed. I'd rather them get the info from me instead of some false info from some classmate. KWIM?
DansMom replied: My mom deliberately left lying around a book called Women, Our Bodies Our Selves when I was about 10 or 11. It discussed a bunch of stuff that prepared me for the changes coming, but what I still remember was that there was a whole chapter on "M", and that's where I learned all about it.
MomToMany replied: LOL!!! I'd love to have seen a picture of his face!! Poor kid!!!
kimberley replied: oh no! lol sorry to laugh but it is kinda funny how it turned out. you did good considering  . i am totally dreading this and am wondering if i should be doing this now with jacob. 
he just turned 8 last week... is it really time to have the talk???
redchief replied:
Thank God for football. 
favre4fan replied: My oldest had his educational class in the 5thgrade!!!! We were in the car driving home and he preceded to tell me ALL about it! I did not know whether to laugh or cry. Thank goodness for older brothers i don't have to have the talk his brother filled him in on everything!! If they want to know anything they can just ask, and believe me theyASK!!
gr33n3y3z replied: I hate to say this ..... Dont anyone think bad about us
We talk at the dinner table while eating dinner it makes it much more like a group discussion than a one on one and everyone is so open and conversations just flows and progress has been made and we dont have to repeat it for the next one. But my kids talk about everything to Ed and I and I'm glad they do. 
Boys r us replied: Lisa..I think that's wonderful..that's how I grew up..in a house hold where the dinner table was our gathering point and we talked about any and everything..even told dirty jokes and you know what? If I do say so myself..my brothers and I have all turned out to be good people who are secure with ourselves, our sexuality and who don't know any other way than to be open!
Josie83 replied: Nichole, you're hilarious. you sounds like such a good mum, tanner's lucky that he can talk to you about ths soprt of thing! xx
coasterqueen replied: O M G Nichole!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! First I think I would have BEGGED Rick to have the talk with him.  Second....I don't know how I'm going to be able to handle this because I don't think I could have had that talk! 
You are so funny though. I wonder what his thoughts were the rest of the day?
Lollie replied: Hhehehehe...I can just picture your little guy..."WHAT!!"
Its so great that you so open and direct with him...good job mommy!!!
Kila replied: I commend you for talking to your son so openly and honestly. When I was reading your post I was thinking how I would approach the whole situation and was wondering how I am going to talk to Syd when it's time. I like the fact that you could laugh in the end and not have him run out of the room in embarassment. Congrats!
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