What Is "YOUR" - Definition Of Love

gr33n3y3z wrote: I think it would be interesting to see what people think it is
There is no wrong answer here and its not a quiz of any sort

kimberley replied: love is...

trust, being faithful, tons of patience, acceptance, forgiveness, a sense of humor, empathy, honesty and communication.


you know it's love when roses and poetry are replaced with farts under the covers and an e-greeting but you love em anyway

MyLuvBugs replied: Love to me is my husband and my kids. I'd die for them and die if I didn't have them in my life.

There's a quote that says "Having kids is like watching your heart walk around outside your body." and that's totally how I feel when it comes to my DH and the girls.

luvbug00 replied: I can't define it really. But I know what it feels like to have it and have it taken away and wanting it back. I've felt love on so many levels but I've felt the pain of love more then the pleasures of it. The pain of true love is unbearable and huanting.

mammag replied:
You know, as silly as that was, it's the truth isn't it. To me love really is about being comfortable being yourself with someone. And the feeling that your heart is safe with someone. Love is knowing when the doody hits the fan, they'll have your back. Love is really, truely wishing the best for someone.

For dh and I in particular, love is laying in bed at night, touching feet, and reading right before we fall asleep.

It's the little things really. And isn't it funny that when you are young you think it's all about romance and passion. When it's real love that's only a small (but very nice ) part of love.

ETA - You're getting really deep on us Lisa!

Boys r us replied: Such a good question!!!

This will sound silly...but the first time I remember thinking to myself..who is this guy and what has he done with my heart?" about Rick was when we were out of town..we'd been dating for about 5 months and most of that was spent out on the town or at restaurants where we would drink wine(we were both very young 23) and we stopped at a convenience store and he hopped out of the car to run in and get us a drink. well, he got out of the car before I could think to tell him what to get me. I thought about getting out and going in, but decided seeing what he came out with was an even better idea. So I waited and here he came walking out with his Mt Dew and my Diet Dr Pepper. I smiled to myself and thought..Hmm...he does pay attention to the little things, things that don't get talked about and you would think go without noticing, expecially considering that most of the drinks I'd shared in his presence had been alcohol. I don't know..that's not LOVE..but it's part of what love is..to know each other inside and out and to know the things about your partner that they don't even realize about themselves or know you know about them.

Also, just to be able to be you when you're with them. To trust them enough to have no barriers up between you. Love is just raw and unconditional emotion that you have little or no control over.

gr33n3y3z replied:
sorry lol


Love to me is trust and understanding,giving and happyness (thats with everyone)
Its not at all about 100% sexual contact its the little things like holding hands and the hugs and lots of smiles with kisses.
The little things that you do for each other without being asked (like) back rubs and just to cuddle.
Learning from each other and growing old together

redchief replied: I don't want to get into a religious debate, but I've never come up with a better definition for love than 1 Corinthians 13:1-9:

If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated,
it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing.

Especially the second paragraph of the chapter tells me what love is and what is expected of me. The chapter goes on to set aside the other human emotions and finishes in verse 15 with:

So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Of course, Lisa, to me, is love.

mammag replied:
I literally have tears in my eyes reading this. That is sooooo sweet!!!!!

luvmykids replied:
Ed, I agree 100%.

I think if your love, for a friend or family member, or mate or even yourself, encompasses the things found there, that is where the "other" things come from. The comfort level, the small kindnesses, the humility, the rejoicing in each others successes and hurting in each others failures, the faith in each other and the love itself, those things are all fruits of that definition of love.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
This is exactly what I was going to say. I know no other way to describe it.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Love hurts.

redchief replied:
Aww, Rocky. Of course you're right too, but it can also bring indescribable joy. It can change your definition of happiness. Love can cut deeper than any knife, but it can also heal wounds no medicine or surgeon can touch.

gr33n3y3z replied:

A&A'smommy replied:
ITA

amymom replied: very good question Lisa. And your DH got the answer better than I could say.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Very true....

booey2 replied: Redchief and Kimberley have summed it up nicely for me, we used that selection from the bible at our wedding. I would also say love = my dh and my boys.


Terri

jcc64 replied: We used that passage as well, Terri. I think every wedding I've ever been to has as well.
God, I can't wrap around my head around a concise definition of love. There's so many different kinds. All I can say is that the love shown to me by my family and friends makes life worth living, were there nothing else on this planet.

C&K*s Mommie replied: so true!

Love is like a warm (down) blanket. The one that you will extend to another when they need it on a cold night, or the one that you need on cold nights. You may not recognize (or use it as in the blanket) on a daily basis, you can be comforted with the knowledge that it is ever-present.

TheOaf66 replied: i created 2 tests when i was younger and have always stayed with them

1. Don't think can I really live with this person in my life, but can I live without this person in my life

2. If this person were about to be hit by a bus, would I jump and push her out of the way and take the hit for her.