Well, this morning I cried! It hurts when someone - rejects your kids

TANNER'S MOM wrote: This morning Tiffany emailed in computer class. She said her Grandma called her last night.. and talked to her. Told her they missed her and asked if she could come over this weekend.. but she told them it was her Dad's weekend.. Ummmm you know their SON?????

I was nice and tried to not betray myself.. I said did they ask about Tanner? She said NO.. they didn't say a word? Why? I said Oh I was just wondering?

They haven't called him or come to see him since he broke his arm. Randy left a message w/ them.. and nothing. I called my Dad and he met us at the hospital. I know that it's not a BIG deal .. a broken arm... but they could call him. He said I don't guess Grandma and Grandpa aren't gonna sign my cast..

I am crying typing this??? It is hard.. It is hard on Tiffany too. They put her in the middle and I try to be the grown up here and not my emotions show.. BUT! I am sure I am not good at it..

Brittany's Birthday was Sunday.. not one person from Randy's family even called her??

kimberley replied: i am so sorry Mel. that would break my heart too. did DH have that talk with them about this yet? maybe it is time for another. no matter what differences occur between adults, there is NEVER a good reason to hurt a child because of it. that is just so wrong and unfair. i hope DH can talk some sense into them. this situation really needs to end.

gr33n3y3z replied: Awww Mel that is very sad
Maybe its just the way they are you know what I mean?

I know it hurts you and the kids but they have your Dad and he is a great man
(((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))

Maddie&EthansMom replied: They are awful people, Mel!! I can't even believe they are so selfish that they can't pick up the darn phone!!!!

I'm so sorry. HOw is Randy handling it?

A&A'smommy replied: OMG Hun I'm sorry!!!!

TANNER'S MOM replied:
Randy is very hurt. It makes him hurt for Tanner. I mean they are his family and they have turned their backs on him...

He has kinda decided to write them out of his life at this piont... but that is hard to do when they are calling Tiffany and she comes and tells the other kids what is said and done??

I don't know it has lead to soo much hurt. I don't know what to do??

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I wouldn't know what to do, either. I guess you could just explain to them that they can either see BOTH grandchildren or none of them. It just isn't fair. I'm so sorry. I would be so hurt, too.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: AHHHHHH!!!!!! PEOPLE STINK!!!! I am so sorry! We are there too with DH family and it sucks! Tanner is an AWESOME kid and it is their loss!!! Tell him Tay wishes she was there to sign his cast!!! I guess this will have to do for now!

MissyKay2005 replied: That is sad I hope things get better for you in this area. They don't relise what they are missing out on that's for sure! Prayers are with you

My2Beauties replied: How inconsiderate of them, Mel I'm sorry! I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this. Maybe your DH needs to sit down and have a heart to heart with his family!

coasterqueen replied: Mel. I'm sorry. Some people just don't think.

Kaitlin'smom replied: oh Mel that breaks my heart. why do thay only want to see her? I guess I dont understand that.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well to be honest... it started along time ago. The don't believe in divorce..

And by divorcing Tiffany's mom they felt he threw Tiffany away.. And we all no that he didn't do that.. But to them he should have stayed no matter what.. his happiness is secondary to the child.. which to me is neither here nor there..

And they have let that get in the way of Tanner and my children. They believe that Randy and his ex wife would've worked it out... had he not met me later. And that my kids, Tanner included are secondary to Tiffany.

It is still very hurtful.
I realize they are old school.. and don't see life the same as me. But I don't have a mother... and she is Tanner's only Grandma. That hurts me more than anything. I have cried more over this woman the true lose of my mother... I guess because it is the lose "MY" child is taking.. and it hurts.

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry, that sounds awful. I bet your kids are happy they have a great mom like you to make up for it though.

Mommy2BAK replied: That is just awful! What mean people!

JAYMESMOM replied: Oh, Mel that is so terrible. I hate when grandparents chose one over the other grandkids. It is hard on the kids and they don't understand. Poor Tanner!!

DansMom replied: They really are awful people. I hate them.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: They just sound selfish and pretty old-school to me...especially since they're holding onto the thought that your DH should have worked it out with his ex. Please!!!! It's like they're taking personal offense to it and hurting everyone else in the process by holding a grudge. They should support any decision their son makes and leave it at that. Can you have a heart-to-heart with your MIL? Don't tell her it hurts you, because she will probably just get defensive, but tell her that it hurts Tanner. Hopefully she will understand that and learn to let go of what's happened in the past. I'm so sorry you have to go through this...